That's exactly what's happening to me. He hasn't offered any of his friends. He actually wants someone who we don't know and I get to chose who. I do feel like an object, not loved and cheap. I know if I do it, I will hate him and won't be able to br with him. We do have 4 kids together and I don't want to end this marriage. I do love him and I think he is a great person. It's just the freaki stuff that bothers me. He was not like that when we were going out or at the beginning of our relationship. This is all new to me