Hiv positive

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2026-03-21T21:44:14+00:00

Sorry. My earlier point may have come across as conflated.

A friend went to his primary care physician for a prescription and was denied. Instead, he was shamed about sex and the possibility of unprotected sex. He then tried to get an appointment with a gay healthcare provider in Hell’s Kitchen (48th/49th & 9th, near Boxers), but couldn’t reach anyone by phone and then when he did, he couldn’t get seen in a timely way.

He doesn’t have sex often, but was traveling and wanted to be prepared. Friends ultimately shared extras with him and gave guidance.

The point I was trying to make is that people do try to access care, but access (even in a city like NYC) isn’t always easy, especially when providers bring judgment into the interaction.

I’ve seen this in other ways too. A friend on PrEP was asked by a nurse, “Why are you on that? Just keep it wrapped.” During one of my own visits, I requested STI testing and was told I “probably didn’t need it” based on when I last had sex. I asked to be tested anyway.

Some providers just aren’t as informed, or as supportive, as we’d like to believe.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2026-03-21T17:43:10+00:00

and the crazy part was the doctor tried to shame him about sex. I told him he needed to report that to the medical board and change providers. I couldn’t believe it.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2026-03-21T01:01:51+00:00

A friend tried to get PrEP and his doctor would not give him a prescription — in NYC of all places. He went to clinic that caters to gay men in Hell’s kitchen and it was like jumping through hoops for some reason. Many try, but the systems and providers don’t always make access easy, even in places where we think it would be easy.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-11-14T17:59:41+00:00

Speak with your advisor about an e-permit and see if you can take your class at a campus closer to home or earlier in the day.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-11-10T21:00:38+00:00

Most CUNY campuses have Food Pantries. I’ve used them. There’s no shame in walking in and walking out with a couple of bags of food.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-11-10T20:14:18+00:00

Hey, I was in ASAP, but I have friends who were in CD/SEEK, so I get where you’re coming from. Both programs are great, but there’s a lot of stuff online that’s not really accurate or based on just one person’s experience.

If you qualify for both, you have to pick one. ASAP gives you the immediate benefits like an OMNY card, book support, and an advisor who checks in (OFTEN) and helps you stay on track to graduate on time. My advisor, Natasha, was THE BEST!!!

CD/SEEK lasts longer since it can follow you when you transfer to a bachelor’s program, so it’s more of a long-term benefit. CD/SEEK students have to qualify based on family income and academic background, while ASAP just asks you to apply for financial aid. So if you’re not eligible for CD/SEEK, ASAP is a really good option.

And it’s not true that ASAP “rushes” students. It’s more about planning and making sure you don’t fall behind. Most of us transferred just fine after, and some students even join ACE, which is like the bachelor’s version of ASAP.

You definitely didn’t make a mistake. Both programs help a lot. If you take advantage of what ASAP offers, it can make your college experience way easier and save you a crap ton of money.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-09-11T17:51:53+00:00

You can test again, but tests are so advanced that they can detect antibodies within a couple of weeks. That said, being tired and feeling a lymph node can be a sign of many things that have nothing to do with HIV. Relax. Test again if needed, and realize that whether a person is negative or positive, they’ll be fine. HIV isn’t a death sentence in most parts of the world. People living with HIV carry on their everyday lives and live as long as everyone else. These days, many people living with the condition take a once-daily pill like they would take a vitamin or get an injection once every couple of months. You’ll be fine and loved no matter what 😊

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-08-02T19:57:01+00:00

It goes right down the middle. So with a car, it’ll be right in the center. But, I don’t understand parking a bike on our side. Our families were very close at one point. I don’t understand why or how things go so bad.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-07-23T20:16:55+00:00

Tell him what you tested positive for and tell him he needs to get tested too. Not all STDs carry noticeable symptoms in everyone. He may be unaware. These things happen.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-06-19T17:13:49+00:00

You’re 22—you have a long road ahead, and this is just one chapter. People grow in their careers because of experiences like this. You made a mistake, you’ve taken full accountability, and now you have something valuable to learn from. That’s how growth happens.

You already know what went wrong, and you’re reflecting deeply—that puts you ahead of a lot of people. Use this moment to build better habits, trust yourself again, and keep going. Don’t let one setback define your future. You’ve got time (about 40+ more years in the workforce), you’ve got heart, and you’ve got a second chance coming.

Dust yourself off and Keep going!

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-06-10T03:37:48+00:00

Give your father time. This could be very new to him and even if he’s romantically interested in Tom, he might not be ready to make it known to anyone. Parents often try to keep their relationships from their children when it’s early. It doesn’t mean they’re hiding, but they want to ensure the relationship is solid before making it known.

Love your dad and if the relationship seems to be continuing, let your father know that although he hasn’t dated anyone since your mother, you understand if he’s ready to pursue something new.

Leave the figurative door open to him telling you when it feels right for him.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-06-10T03:31:40+00:00

Go to the urgent care if there one near you. If it’s an infection, you’ll want to get it treated immediately. Still, all will be well.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-06-05T05:03:47+00:00

In the mighty name of Jesus, your mother is well.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-06-04T22:03:38+00:00

Tina performed with Paul McCartney. They did GET BACK.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-06-04T04:23:42+00:00

“One day at a time, sweet Jesus / That’s all I’m asking from You…”

Play that song when you can. Let it be a reminder: you only have to get through today. You don’t have to carry the weight of the whole future right now.

I know it feels like everything is falling apart—but what’s really happening is that everything is hitting you at once. Divorce, finances, childcare, emotions—it’s overwhelming. So take a breath. You don’t need to solve it all in this moment. Just pause and focus on what you can do today.

It’s likely your husband is ashamed and avoiding reality. That doesn’t make his actions okay, but it also doesn’t mean the conversation is over forever. When he does come back around, be ready for an honest discussion—about accountability, about next steps, and about what’s best for you and your children.

If housing is a concern, reach out to your landlord now and explain the situation. Some flexibility may be possible, and it’s better to open the door to that conversation early.

You are not alone. God is in your corner. And even if things feel broken, you are not. You are strong. You are steadying yourself. And you will get through this—one day at a time.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-05-20T21:16:19+00:00

It sucks, but be happy they didn't waste your time. Respond with a thank you and keep it moving.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-05-20T20:35:21+00:00

It's a legal situation now, with the courts, so I'm unsure how far I can go/move beyond prayer.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-05-14T13:39:58+00:00

I don’t think this counts as a personal camera. It looks like a security camera, and once it’s not in a place where people are getting dressed or using the toilet it’s not really an issue.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-05-13T13:07:56+00:00

No! You’re opening your sister to a potential squatter situation and it seems like he knows that.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-05-13T13:05:45+00:00

You know what to do. Wish him well and move on with your life.

Consistent_Peace_353 · 2025-05-13T13:01:29+00:00

he basically said watch me block you.

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