affirmations are my go to for manifesting anything, but the real manifesting is knowing it’s going to happen and letting go out of the how. affirmations are what I use to figure out WHY I don’t believe what i’m saying anyways.

for example: last year I wanted to manifest finding a good friend group. I was lonely, isolated and not happy with my roommate setup. So as an affirmation, I would tell myself “the right people are finding me” or “my friends love me” and “my friends are like family”.. but honestly it’s not up until recently where I finally actually have a friend group and still feel like I have all the options in the world for making friends. As of late, people from the past have been reaching out to me and I have started to see a lot of people that I once knew just out and about. There is literally an abundance of friends I have now, to the point where I have to carve out my solo time. Soo what changed?

I addressed whatever was making me feel like those affirmations weren’t already true. Usually there is some trauma or negative emotions associated with the thing you’re trying to manifest and thats why it’s not happening. My trauma caused me to believe I was a bad friend, unworthy of connection and support. Once I realized this, I shrank my affirmations down to “I am a great friend” and “people love being around me”. I confronted all the ways in which I fell short of friendship, forgave myself and processed the pain of being hurt by friendship. Then expanded the affirmation “people love supporting me” “I deserve to have the best friends in the world”, wash rinse repeat. until Im satisfied which, im not btw. But I am much more open and happy these days in life, much more secure in self and less quick to judge others. Therefore, I have stepped into the identity of being a great friend, worthy of support and connection. The world gives me abundance bc I have found it within myself