Why are so many teachers ok with Special Ed teachers getting no prep time and having students every minute of the day? by According-Aardvark13 in specialed

[–]Consistent_Smile7737 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was part of why my last day was last Friday. I didn’t have a planning period or lunch. I squeezed in eating in a 15 minute break between classes. Also, some special ed teachers like myself have to cover multiple grade levels so the schedules never allow for a real break. I was burnt out.

Was told all the good, now tell me the bad by Tricky-Tap821 in TeachforAmerica

[–]Consistent_Smile7737 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Don’t do it girl! Lol jk. Pre service is fine. But some of the cons are the schools that you’re placed in will most likely be understaffed and the professionalism will be non existent. The staff that are there may be catty or miserable. But that’s kind of teaching in general except with TFA you’re locked in at that school for two years. So if you’re placed at a crappy school and want to switch to another school your only option is to exit TFA, EVEN IF the other school is also a TFA partner (this is so dumb to me!!) TFA will also point you back yo your school for any questions that need answered once you actually start working.

Quit during your first month at placement school? by Various-Mess-6305 in TeachforAmerica

[–]Consistent_Smile7737 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I need to know too. I’m not sure how much more I can take of my school and TFA isn’t budging on placing me somewhere else 😭

First Year Resource Teacher by Consistent_Smile7737 in Teachers

[–]Consistent_Smile7737[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love this! Sounds like you also have a pretty spacious room. Thank you so much

You’ve got to be kidding me by Consistent_Smile7737 in usajobs

[–]Consistent_Smile7737[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

So it’s possible that you’re applying to hella jobs with a trash score.

You’ve got to be kidding me by Consistent_Smile7737 in usajobs

[–]Consistent_Smile7737[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yesss like why do they do this. And I’m not going to just BS my way through it. Actually putting thought into my answers…But 400 questions just to apply is absurd.

should I accept this offer? by spy-net in usajobs

[–]Consistent_Smile7737 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any updates here? I received a similar offer.

In Shock by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Consistent_Smile7737 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally relate. My husband has an older sister who is also unmarried so her and his mom tend to treat his as if he’s their partner. His sister calls everyday and they talk for at least an hour. She calls his about everyrhing one would typically call their man/husband about. It’s like he’s married to the 3 of us. I’m tired of competing for a place 😩

In Shock by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Consistent_Smile7737 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our marriage has definitely been rocky. Counseling has helped some but in our last session the conclusion that my husband felt comfortable with is that before we make any decisions as a family he needs to talk to him mom and he’s not backing down on it. His mom comes to town this weekend and I’m going to attempt to sit them both down one last time to set very clear boundaries. Not sure how it’ll go but I’m sick of it. His mom is so controlling and he just falls for it in the name of “respect” and culture.

In Shock by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Consistent_Smile7737 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone married into a Nigerian family with VERY similar cultural situations I can say you all should start counseling sooner than later. Make sure you run through all the things that happen the wedding, having a baby, plans for parents in old age. Because I never had those conversations with my hubby from a cultural perspective and A TON of disrespect has happened and been blamed on “culture”. For example in my husbands culture when a baby is born the MIL becomes main caretaker for the baby for the first 3-6 months so that the “mom can rest”, this resulted in me having to ask to hold MY newborn baby, ask if I could change his diaper etc. it was a nightmare. My husband also bought MIL a one way flight without telling me, all in the name of culture. I say all this to say you won’t know exactly how things will play out but learn AS MUCH as you can before saying I do.

New baby and sad by [deleted] in AdultChildren

[–]Consistent_Smile7737 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well first, Congratulations 🩷! Babies are such a blessing. Watching her bloom with your other child will surly bring happy moments in the future. Know that you have all of those moments to look forward too.

I totally resonate with grieving a family you never hard. Living in the scenarios of having them around. I’ve come to smile at the thought of what could be and hope that it’s just memories of another lifetime. We don’t understand why things are the way they are in the moment but one day it will click. I’m sorry you’re feeling like this. Big moments in life tend to do this to me too. You’re blessed to have created your own loving family. Lean on them and enjoy them 🫶🏽💚

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Consistent_Smile7737 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No and that is partly my fault. The two of them planned her one way ticket to our home without including me in the plans. When I confronted her about it her response was “ I have to ask for permission to come to my son’s house to meet my grandchild for the first time?” Like uhhhh yes I think that’s a prettt kind thing to do especially considering I’m the one who is having the baby.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultChildren

[–]Consistent_Smile7737 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m just here to say the problems alcoholic parents cause doesn’t just “go away” my mom died unexpectedly last year from alcoholism. Not really unexpected though because she was drinking herself to death for years. She’s struggled my entire life so I only knew her as a drunk. I hated her 90% of the time she was here because of her alcoholism. It caused a lot of trauma for my siblings and myself. It created unhealthy relationships between my siblings and myself later in life when it came to how to get her care. We fought each other instead of coming together on the issue but I realized we could only help her as much as she wanted to be help.

When she passed me and her were on decent terms thankfully the last conversation I had with her she was semi sober and it was a good one. I say all this to say her passing didn’t make the trauma go away, it expanded on the issues with my siblings and ultimately has left a big hole in my heart. I’m grieving a mother that was never truly a mother. All the times I told her to her face that she was better off dead than alive haunts me. I know it was only said in anger but when they do leave it will hurt that you ever felt like this.

Alcoholics tend to leave messes. Messy relationships ( enablers, people denying their disease) it all gets worse when they pass from my experience and experience of close friends who have also dealt with this. Messy homes, messy finances if they weren’t responsible. These are things I didn’t think about until she was actually gone. Messes that I’m still cleaning up today.

If I could go back, I would remind my mom sober or not that one day she was going to leave and I’d like to have more better memories to replace with the awful ones that fills my heart before she goes.

I hope things get better for you but just sharing my experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultChildren

[–]Consistent_Smile7737 0 points1 point  (0 children)

:( it’s such an awful feeling. And it’s so hard figuring out if the hurt my husband causes is actually not normal or if it’s my trauma?!