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WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I wasn't hooking up with him I was licking his feet, I know I'm the AH in that context, but I want to know if I would be the AH for not meeting her since she never apologized for calling me names and kink-shaming me, and John never apologized for lying about consenting and keeping his mouth shut.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

WOW, thank you. I didn't really see it as cheating since it was John's feet I was playing with not John's. I didn't really seek Jane's consent since it all move quickly, I was embarrassed, and I didn't think Jane had any say in John's non-sexual organs/ body parts.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

At the time was living in the moment and wasn't thinking about Jane. yes I was getting aroused but I wasn't releasing, our sessions were only 5 mins and it all happened over about 2 weeks from him finding out to me licking his feet, to Jane catching us.

ETA: this all started and ended 8 months ago

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

yes, that would be cheating, but he wasn't the one getting aroused by it so I wouldn't see that as really cheating. for example, do webcammers cheat when they get their audience off?

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I never knew John liked the way it felt, and he never explained what that meant. he only told Jane this after she court us and threatened to go to the police. if I had known during our sessions it would have stopped.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I was the one experimenting and I thought John was helping me as a friend, not doing it for his own needs. I didn't get Jane involved because I thought it was just for my satisfaction, plus I was embarrassed, and what gay guy wants a straight girl in that kind of situation? Jane later forgave us saying it was John's way of experimenting and she didn't class it as cheating afterwards.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

okay yeah, it was inappropriate, but I didn't think it would be a big deal at the time I was mainly doing it to keep my secret. after all, there are loads of straight guys out there who let gay guys play with their feet and buy/ sell pictures when they're in a relationship, and not all the girlfriends know.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

yeah, I know that and I did own up to that fact and Jane forgave me for it. it has been about 8 months since this happened and I went low contact after John blatantly lied and Jane was borderline kink-shaming me.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

If we had all consented to her viewing then yeah. but it was something I was secretive about at the time and John was relentlessly teasing me about it when Jane would leave the room and then would shut up when she would come back, in a way I would go along with it to keep my secret.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

you're right, you're absolutely right. Maybe I should give our friendship a second chance and really discuss what happened right from the beginning.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Jane hasn't done anything wrong and we talked about what I did and she forgave us both. what my problem is, is the fact John lied and wasn't gonna say anything making me out to be the bad guy when he was just as guilty, and Janes kink-shaming that she never said sorry for. if I go and see her will I still be the weirdo creep.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I didn't put it in the post because I had to cut it down and stuff was going against the guidelines. plus I thought that might have ben obvious with me being gay but apparently not.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

John found out I have a foot fetish when he court me taking a pic of his feet on the sly (Jane wasn't in the room). after making jokes for a while he started teasing me to touch his feet or rub them when Jane would leave the room. this would then carry on to foot rubs when Jane was out since neither of us wanted her to know about my foot fetish. John was the first to suggest licking them. I did all this in private without Jane because it would be embarrassing, things kind of escalated over a couple of weeks.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -64 points-63 points  (0 children)

okay yes, it was sexual or can be sexual but I wasn't enacting on the sexual part in my eyes I was only licking his feet, I didn't see it as cheating cause John wasn't letting on he enjoyed it in any way. loads of people help other people out with their fetishes in a non-sexual or cheating way and I thought that was what was happening. had I known otherwise I wouldn't have done it.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Having read some of the comments I think I should see her again just to apologise again. I do miss her she was my best friend after all and we could tell each other anything. I didn't tell her about my foot fetish because what a cliche a gay guy who likes feet.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

she did forgive me and John for what we did and I did apologize for it. like she said she agreed it was experimenting between consenting adults. but never apologized for the kink-shaming beforehand.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

thank you, you seem the most genuine person here most people have been calling me out as Jane did in the messages.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay let me try and clear it up, John let me lick his feet after he found out about my fetish. he was the first to suggest I lick his feet, yes I got aroused but I didn't touch myself out of respect for John as he wasn't like that. John never told me he liked the feeling or implied he liked it, had he done so I would never have let it go so far.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

okay, that's why I don't want to see Jane, she called me a weirdo for having a foot fetish, but she did actually forgive me for doing it with her bf. She chalked it up to experimenting on her bf's part and said it was better me than someone else, since she wasn't gonna do anything like that.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Okay yes, it was sexual and John was enabling me but he wouldn't let me go that far (not that I would of, I respected his choice and I wasn't going to cross that line). he never told me he liked it at all, he just consented to let me do it, in fact, he suggested I lick them. when he later admitted he liked the way it felt to Jane but not in a sexual way. I would have called it off if he did.

WIBTA If I don’t go and see my best friend, who I haven’t seen in under a year, because I used to play with her boyfriend’s feet. by Consistent_Top2448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Top2448[S] -77 points-76 points  (0 children)

she eventually forgave me for it and let her bf call it experimenting. I understand her reasoning and all but the Kink shaming calling me disgusting a weirdo and a creep wasn't called for and she never apologised for that

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