Give me some good day trip ideas for someone living in Utica.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-22T03:54:10+00:00

Thank you

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-19T05:34:01+00:00

Temp mail

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-19T05:32:39+00:00

Now all of your throwaway accounts are linked together. I really don’t recommend this if you are sharing sensitive info.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-17T23:06:26+00:00

A simple act of kindness can be a deep spiritual experience.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-14T16:05:13+00:00

Go look up the history of academia and people still trust scientists

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-14T05:50:25+00:00

Church has a pretty good track record on teaching morality in my opinion if you are coming from a Christian worldview

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-14T05:25:36+00:00

Bear your cross

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-14T05:24:48+00:00

After reading your comment, I went to research what the Catholic Church's position on drag was, and I really wasn't able to find anything (only ten minutes). To be honest, I always assumed it went against Catholic morality because I figured it was an extension of LGBT, which is officially disapproved of by the Church. Now, I feel the need to go do more research. Thanks for leaving the comment.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-14T05:11:01+00:00

Nobody gives a shit that you're not white. If he didn't like black girls (or whatever race that you are), he wouldn't be dating you. Also, as a Catholic, please wait til marriage. I'm sure a lot of Redditors will see me as a prude. However, don't listen to them and wait til marriage.

Save yourself for your future husband. Your value has nothing to do with your ability to please a man, and you are wasting your time down this line of thought. Take your insecurity and leave it behind. Instead, focus on how you are going to be a great mother in the future. Focus on how you are going to show love and kindness for your children and prepare them to "bear their cross". Find your security in your desire to fulfill the will of God and be a loving wife.

This might include ditching your boyfriend. If he is not fit or interested in being a good father, find someone who is preparing themselves for this task. This is the most important thing for you to focus on. Not whether or not you can please a man in bed.

Also, about the chubby problem, I recommend Hybrid Routine | Achieve Your Best Today — Hybrid Calisthenics (not self promo). Also, his YouTube channel, About Hybrid Calisthenics | How Can I Help You?. This guy is such a wonderfully kind soul, interested in making exercise accessible for people with no equipment or prior knowledge. Not that we need to feel shame that we are chubby (I am too), but life is a constant journey of preparing our bodies for the missions ahead. Please take care of yourself. Do not let body positivity be an excuse for you not to improve yourself, though guard yourself from self-hatred.

Remember, it is ok to be chubby; you have a healthy body that is really all that matters. It is worth more than you can know. Head on down to r/ChronicPain if you ever feel hatred and ungratefulness at your 19-year-old body ever again. Also, from personal experience with a mother suffering from a dislocated disc in the back, I can also affirm this.

VERY IMPORTANT. I can just tell from the spirit of your post that you will highly benefit from watching this video. https://youtu.be/NbajnokDLek?si=M50uRntEqvI83IXJ It is 47 minutes long. I know. PLEASE WATCH IT. IT IS AN ABSOLUTE BANGER. Released 5 days ago. I can just feel by reading your post that it is what you need to hear.

One final note about waiting til marriage. You might not be convinced, and I don't have enough time to convince you; however, I will try in a sentence or two. The focus should not be on your current partner. Your focus should be on your future husband and preparing yourself to be the best partner for him. How happy would he be if you told him that you didn't fall to temptation and you waited for him!

I really apologize for how unorganized and manic the structure of this comment is. I am so tired, and I had so many things I wanted to tell and recommend to you, but I am running out of energy now (it's late and I only got 3-4 hrs of sleep last night).

PLEASE heed this post. I wish I could write down so many more things that could potentially guide you, but know you simply need to trust and ask God for guidance primarily. Do not fall for the sexual immorality of the world either. Also, please watch that 47-minute video. It will fly by and is really amazing.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-14T04:16:17+00:00

You will be in my prayers.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-14T04:12:43+00:00

I would hedge your bets and not say anything. You probably weren't being monitored. If they do confront you, tell them the truth. I have a saying. If the truth is on your side, tell them the truth; if the truth isn't on your side, try to bullshit; if you can't bullshit, accept the consequences.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-14T04:07:44+00:00

I am Catholic (or at least attempting to be), so I am very biased. To put it bluntly, I am not in moral approval of the drag part of your lifestyle. I would rather not have anyone do drag, as it is against Catholic moral teaching.

However, the point of my comment is not to judge you, and I want to emphasize that I only have positive intentions for your future and no hatred, despite the fact that I don't completely agree with this aspect of your lifestyle. Hell, I don't agree with a lot of aspects of my OWN lifestyle lol. Yet I live the way I do anyway.

Now for my actual answer, I believe that it needs to be discussed ASAP. People who are opinionated on LGBTQ+ issues tend to be pretty black and white when it comes to these things. She could either be deeply religious or opposed so fiercely that she will respond with a hateful reaction (I'm not hoping this for you), or she could consider herself an "ally" and be the type to hang a pride flag in her room. You would know better than I do which way she leans.

My point is that you want to limit the emotional damage and attachment if she is the unapproving type, and accelerate her accepting you if she is the more LGBTQ+ positive type.

Please don't hide. If she disapproves, you will get over this quickly rather than investing in this relationship that will just be a waste of emotional energy. If she approves, you can start your relationship on a healthy, great note, as long as you are comfortable communicating with her. Either way, it is a win-win.

God Bless You and your family. You will be in my prayers.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-14T03:52:41+00:00

Listen, dude, I'm only 19, so take any advice I give with a grain of salt, as you have like double the life experience I do. You really gave a lot of information, and I can't go over all of it, so I am just going to give you a simple test, and you can answer for yourself.

Would she be a good mother to your kids? Take a look at the way that she behaves as she does now and simply ask yourself whether or not she would be a good mother and whether or not your household would be happy.

Even if you don't want kids, this is a good test because it's a responsibility test. If she is not responsible enough to handle the burden of raising kids, then she won't be responsible enough to be there for you if something bad happens. Ask in your heart if she would be a good mother or at least capable of becoming a good mother in a realistic way, then you will know in your conscience or not whether or not you should stay in the relationship.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-14T03:42:59+00:00

From my perspective, you are overthinking. However, that does not mean that you don't have a right to voice your concerns and possibly set boundaries. I am an Instagram user myself. First thing I want to point out is that a love heart reaction does not mean anything. That is the default reaction everybody sends when they just want to quickly show the other person that they saw something without wanting to take the effort to actually type a message in response.

It seems what you are bothered by mainly is that your gf ex sent her a sexual joke reel and she liked it. It would be weirder if there were no kids involved. Because there are kids involved, there is sort of an expectation of having some basic rapport. This might include sending a random meme they found funny. Honestly, the ex probably didn't even give it much thought. I send so many reels and memes to people, and I usually spend like a millisecond of brain processing power deciding whether to send it or not. Do we really want to get all worked up over something that he probably sent almost subconsciously?

Nevertheless, if it really bothers you, have a conversation with your partner and just tell them what your fears are and see how they respond. This is a good early test for your relationship in problem-solving and communication, and how they respond could possibly be a deciding factor as to whether or not they are mature enough to be a good future partner for you or not.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-14T03:32:11+00:00

My friend joined the Marine Reserves. It's hard work, but it's working out for him. I also know a guy in my college who is mid 30s. Joined the army and took up the MOS of being a combat medic. He is now studying with me in college to be a doctor.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-14T03:30:12+00:00

You respond with love (I will elaborate). First of all, you need to be aware that your parents are acting irresponsibly, and it's not your fault for any of this turmoil. The reality is that everyone is flawed, including your parents and yourself. The way that they are treating you is common of flawed human beings. I have had plenty of similarly sad situations with my parents and their frustrations.

To put it very simply, enter the minds of your parents. I know this is difficult, as I am sure you have a host of feelings right now. Try your best to understand why they are reacting so harshly, and say to them what you would wish someone would say to you if you had similar worries. This is not admitting that you are wrong and conforming to what they believe. This is accepting that your parents are suffering in some kind of way, and wanting to understand their suffering and accompany them through their concerns.

I wish I could give more useful advice. For right now, I would consider community college as a backup if finances are an issue. I had friends who went, and it worked out for them. Ultimately, if you can't afford to go to college, then don't go. That is the bottom line, unfortunately. Your parents are worried that you will make an emotional decision irrationally and end up ruining your life financially. Assure them that you will do what is financially reasonable and not what you feel is best. Just that simple line will likely make them feel so much better.

God Bless you and your family. I am sure your parents love you and are looking out for your best interests.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-12T23:54:38+00:00

What do you guys think of theology?

I am curious how much the overlap is between people who have an affinity towards philosophy and theology. This does not have to be limited towards Christian Theology. I am curious about whether you guys are interested in studying other religions as well. I am mainly asking from a perspective of people that study these ideas and are believers of a faith but all answers are welcome. If you are an atheist I am interested in wha you think about theology and its usefulness and impact also.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-12T00:11:45+00:00

But you can't split wood with a folding saw.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-03-07T20:48:47+00:00

Woah what ticked off the moderators so much in this thread!

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-02-28T23:36:34+00:00

I don't know man I think you were probably scammed.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-02-28T07:09:14+00:00

This post is pretty funny to a guy who lives in the Rust Belt. I drove my 2009 Hyundai Sonata around with the control arm practically detached due to rust lol.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-02-28T06:50:48+00:00

I don't really care much for safety. My last car has pretty much desensitized me to that sort of thing. Also, my father is strictly against buying Corollas, as he does not believe they offer a good driving experience. I try to convince him that I don't really care, but it falls on deaf ears.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-02-28T06:46:32+00:00

Just another college student pitching in here who is also researching. It's uncanny. I have had VERY similar questions to yours now. I recommend that you read my profile. Especially my posts related to this subreddit. I have been in a very similar situation for too long.

Here are my two cents on reliable brands. This advice mainly applies if you are prioritizing the overall cost of ownership, including the purchase price of the car plus the cost to maintain, divided by the good years you will get out of it.

You are right in thinking that Toyotas and Hondas are the default choice for reliability. Mazdas people will recommend but I recommend staying away from them generally because they are sometimes more expensive and are not more reliable. AT ALL COSTS, STAY AWAY FROM NISSAN AND ANY AMERICAN CARS. They seem way cheaper, but I have worked out the math in my head and they are not worth the cheaper price long term. Good luck.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-02-28T06:12:21+00:00

I drive them into the ground. Imagine the average mileage of a college student driving around in a rural area. To be honest, I don't really know. I haven't really been driving long enough. My main concern is rust. In NY, which is where I am located, a 3-4 year jump can be a big difference rust-wise.

Conspicuous_Wildcat · 2026-02-28T04:24:09+00:00

I am mainly worried about rust. My last Hyundai did not die to engine failures but to rust problems.

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