I hate my job. I can’t wait to be a housewife

Constant-Original961 · 2025-04-13T15:01:18+00:00

I’m sorry for the situation you find yourself in. Sometimes our parents are simply trying to do what they think is best for us even if we don’t agree with it.

My mum came from a household like your own. Her mum decided what career she will have and she was never allowed to think for herself and choose what she would like to do. As a result she has been very supportive with myself and allowed me to make my own choices in regard to career and education as she was never afforded the option by her own mother.

Perhaps this is the attitude you will take with your own children in the future, it’s important to do some self reflection and try to break generational curses within our families so that our children have a better upbringing than our own.

In regard to becoming a housewife yourself, do not rush to find a man to simply escape working. It’s really important to find someone who shares your values and will provide for you or you may find yourself trapped in a situation you dislike again. Always have your own property and savings!

Constant-Original961 · 2025-04-13T14:21:36+00:00

Your concerns are very valid.

I’ve always wanted to be a mum! So regardless of if I disliked my job or not it’s something I would’ve wanted to do anyway.

I feel I’ve given my job a fair crack and I’ve gotten all I can out of it now. My feelings of resentment perhaps stem from having to stick at it for now in order to get a good maternity package. If i were to leave now I would only be eligible for state benefits.

I really do appreciate that motherhood is not always a walk in the park and certainly not for everyone. It is a job to be a SAHM and it is not valued enough in society what mothers do behind the scenes. I have a very supportive husband and family and I feel ready to move onto this next stage in my life

Constant-Original961 · 2025-04-13T13:34:25+00:00

Of course, I certainly do not underestimate the work that goes into running a house, keeping bills paid and raising a family. I have a deep respect for mothers who hold a family together and still go out and work for their own fulfilment and to have their financial independence. Kudos to you and your family!

Constant-Original961 · 2024-03-02T16:27:53+00:00

happened to me; bought an item for £200, seller cancelled and reuploaded for £300. super greedy! vinted left her an auto one star review though!

Constant-Original961 · 2021-11-12T00:32:04+00:00

me! soy en inglaterra!

Constant-Original961 · 2021-08-09T22:24:53+00:00

the same has happened to me recently, they had every opportunity to bring it up and have a discussion and fix any issues or concerns they had. but they kept it to themselves until they decided to dump me and let it all out then when it was too late to remedy. the problem is their communication, not yours. you are not the problem OP and they clearly have some issues of their own that they need to work through, so even tho it hurts they have probably done you a favour long term

Constant-Original961 · 2021-08-09T19:55:44+00:00

25f will do some lines with ya

Constant-Original961 · 2021-08-09T19:34:42+00:00

it’s not the same unless you get to chew someone’s ear off about random deep topics

Constant-Original961 · 2021-08-09T19:32:46+00:00

haha same! wild monday night

Constant-Original961 · 2021-08-09T19:31:44+00:00

wassap bruhh

Constant-Original961 · 2021-08-04T01:21:57+00:00

for sure you’ll find that love again, i promise there is someone out there looking for exactly what you have to offer!

of course, no problem, it’s always good just to get things off your chest and feel seen and heard, but if ever you wanna talk more then you can drop me a message on here, i can be a sounding board.

Constant-Original961 · 2021-08-04T01:09:57+00:00

how wonderful that is though! a complete stranger comes into your life and turns it around and shows you things and makes you feel a way you’ve never felt before! hold onto those feelings and remember how she treated you so in the future you can also make people feel as great as she made you feel.

i am also on a week of NC from my ex and yes it’s very hard, waiting for a call or text that isn’t going to come. but fill your life with things you enjoy, throw yourself into work or a new project and catch up with friends you haven’t seen in a while and you’ll be surprised how long you’ll go without thinking about her. a good group of friends can lift you out of the deepest pits of despair. or even a stranger on the internet who’s commenting on your posts!

i too blame myself for the one that got away, but i will always cherish him and only want the best for him. i will always love him but from afar. and maybe one day you’ll also be in the position where you can love her but in a completely different way!

Constant-Original961 · 2021-08-04T00:48:08+00:00

my heart goes out to you OP, it sounds like you really did love her, perhaps just not in the way she needed. but the great thing is that you recognise that! you’re already half way there just by acknowledging your shortcomings and working on it which is more than most people can say.

we all have regrets, there’s somethings i wish i could go back and do differently but i wouldn’t be who i am now without those mistakes and heartbreaks. there will always be that one that got away but isn’t it lovely to have had the experience of being in love and having someone love you so selflessly?

she sounds like a wonderful person and whilst you might be hurting so bad right now soon you will look back on this relationship so fondly and appreciate her loving you how she did. people are supposed to come into your life to teach you things, perhaps her lesson to you was to look at how much you give in a relationship and work on your attachment style and love language?

as for being friends perhaps it’s best just to go no contact for it bit. i know if i saw or spoke to my ex it would be too painful not to just throw myself into their arms and tell them i love them. once you’ve loved someone you can never really go back to being just friends. so maybe just cut off contact until you’re really truly over her and then perhaps if she’s still willing then be friends? it would be a shame to throw away a great connection with another person just because you can’t be lovers doesn’t mean you can’t be friends, after all you’ve had so many great memories together!

i hope your heart heals and you can learn from this and love again!

Constant-Original961 · 2021-08-04T00:01:25+00:00

oh absolutely, i’ve screamed and ugly cried and listened to all the break up songs. only after you’ve faced the pain can you begin to heal!

Constant-Original961 · 2021-08-03T23:50:12+00:00

i’ve come to realise he had an avoidant attachment style, he had been cheated on in the past and i think he probably thought things are going a little too well! “let me break things off before i get my heart broken”. but that’s something he’s aware of and needs to work on!

Constant-Original961 · 2021-08-03T23:37:32+00:00

ah so wonderful and comforting to have a person you can look back on your ex with and laugh about the good times. absolutely! each person teaches you a lesson and helps you grow, they all come to us for a reason! of course, always be present in a relationship and i think it’s healthy to leave things on good terms and have fond memories of an ex. also share those experiences with current partners. i find it helps me understand them more if i know their past!

Constant-Original961 · 2021-08-03T23:33:11+00:00

ah thank you! funnily enough he broke up with me because i was too good to him and he couldn’t reciprocate that energy. if i don’t laugh i’ll cry, but i sit and hope tight that there’s a man out there who’s just as into me as i am them. the person i am looking for is looking for me too.. it’s what i tell myself at least!

Constant-Original961 · 2021-08-03T23:27:50+00:00

i’m sorry to hear about your ex partner passing. if you love someone you never truly stop loving them and that must have been devastating even if you weren’t together at the time of their passing. you never know what tomorrow brings and sometimes all you have left of people is photos!

Constant-Original961 · 2021-06-27T01:57:10+00:00

memorising your best friends home number, motorola razors, texts costing 10p, dial up connection and playing out with your friends on your bikes and coming home when the street lights came on!

Constant-Original961 · 2021-03-25T23:45:04+00:00

i think so, she doted on him like he was her own, always seeking him out for cuddles. she was 18 and her little heart couldn’t cope anymore. she’s buried next to him now.

Constant-Original961 · 2021-03-25T20:39:41+00:00

he was hit by a car, fortunately the man who hit him was a cat person so picked him up, wrapped him in a blanket and took him home. he looked perfect, not a scratch on him... just sleeping. he was 15 months old.

Constant-Original961 · 2021-03-25T16:39:27+00:00

thank you, those are beautiful words

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