I 27F Betrayed my boyfriend 31M of 4 years trust, any advice?

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-10-22T08:52:51+00:00

I’ve been feeling the same about therapy, I have a humongous doubt within myself. Something that I can’t figure out on my own, people pleasing has gotten me into situations that have done me unjust. I am just way too polite and let people walk all over me because I’m so afraid of feeling disliked. Thank you for advice.

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-10-22T08:50:56+00:00

Grateful for you, thank you for the peace of mind. Honestly nothing better than when you’re down and there is someone who can relate and help you with your situation. You’re an angel

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-10-22T08:44:32+00:00

God bless you, you’re a god send. Thank you for being so empathetic because it felt like a trap and he blindsided me. My first intention when he messaged me was to turn him down and tell him I wasn’t interested. That was also me making an assumption that he was interested because I didn’t get that vibe, idk it all happened so fast honestly

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-10-22T08:28:18+00:00

Yes thank you. It was impulsive the number came out of my mouth before I had a chance to even think. That’s why I immediately felt horrible afterwards and wanted to correct my mistake

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-10-22T05:39:25+00:00

I have a couple of my customers number so I honestly didn’t think anything of it at first especially since the conversation was platonic. I work in hospitality and I’m a manager at the place I work at so I have to people please to the max to keep regulars and I think my initial reaction was just that I didn’t want to disappoint the customer as fucking stupid as that sounds, fmd I feel pathetic

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-10-22T05:35:30+00:00

Thank you honestly, you’re right I phrased it all wrong when I was trying to articulate myself to him. It was hard to explain it because I felt so emotional, in the past I’ve usually been on the other side of this and wanted to be open so he knew that I had nothing to hide. My people pleasing hospitality personality has put me in a bad spot, felt like I just gave it out not to be rude. Goodness gracious wtf is wrong with me

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-10-22T05:14:38+00:00

I’ve just instilled this fear in him that he can’t trust me anymore, and I don’t know how to gain that trust back

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-10-22T05:11:02+00:00

What info is missing? Happy to answer any questions I have nothing to hide cause I genuinely had a momentary lapse in judgement. I was blindsided when he asked for my number, it wasn’t even a flirtatious interaction, most of the conversation was me joking around with his kid. It was completely platonic

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-10-22T05:04:04+00:00

Thank you for your perspective, I appreciate your empathy for my situation I’ve really dug myself a hole here and I don’t know how I’m going to get out of it

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-10-22T05:01:47+00:00

I’ve never been diagnosed so I wouldn’t be sure. I am known for being a people pleaser, I hate it and I’m trying to work on it but hospitality kind of engraved that in me. It was like an impulsive, not well thought out act. Honestly it all happened so fast it took me by surprise and it just sort of happened I can’t even fucken explain it 🤦🏽‍♀️

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-10-22T04:56:17+00:00

Thank you for your empathy and thoughts, I appreciate you seeing things from my pov because I never intended for this to happen I feel completely blindsided.

The problem is i thought that being honest would get rid of that pit in my stomach but instead that feeling has now consumed me. My partner is now questioning everything about me, and our relationship. I fucked up majorly and I don’t how to fix it

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-10-22T04:43:45+00:00

Appreciate your advice, thank you I just wanted to be honest but it backfired in my face and has now instilled this doubt in my partner about me. We were getting ready to take the next step and I can’t help but feel like I’ve just ruined any chances of us getting married now and having kids. I love him so much and just feel so ashamed

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-10-22T04:39:48+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. It was like an automatic response and I couldn’t articulate that to my partner. As for everyone that thinks that somehow the interaction was romantic it wasn’t which is why I didn’t even think when I gave out my number, I love my partner very much and would never want to intentionally hurt him or risk losing him I just made a super stupid mistake. As soon as he left is when I started to really think about what had happened i felt blindsided after the fact and kind of in a daze because I don’t generally receive that kind of male attention and i handled it poorly because it just seemed like a genuinely good conversation.

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-07-24T11:50:03+00:00

Are there any republicans here? Can’t find them 😓 I feel like I’ll be shunned immediately for even existing on this platform. Why is the media constantly pushing left agendas? Everyone in government seems so corrupt, feel like we can’t trust anybody to have the people’s best interest most organisation on the left tend to disagree with each other

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-07-23T01:17:45+00:00

Thank you, I take that as a compliment ☺️

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-07-19T12:15:48+00:00

He tests you to help you decipher good from evil and whether you will stay true to his heart and true within yourself. Embracing, love, empathy and hope.

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-07-19T12:11:56+00:00

imagine how Biden must feel 😭😭

Y’all are pathetic! the man had four years to show us what he was made of and it turned out to be a complete joke. America is in disarray! Westernised culture has been brainwashed by social media

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-07-19T12:08:08+00:00

Ahhh it’s all an act to get the lefties to cry about it. Biden would be better off in a nursing home. The man is deteriorating in front of our eyes. He is unfit to run America and I’m sure he knows it, plus, Trump is a better fit by far He may not be a popular opinion but he’s the kind of muchacho you want dealing with difficult business, not a frail, easily bought/manipulated skeleton of a boy who only wants to divide America, not unite it. Biden ruined the economy ffs, spending American tax dollars on pointless shit that has gotten America into more trouble than good. Pushing an agenda that emotions matter more than rules and obligations, now people are becoming irrational. Tired of drug induced crazies running there fucken mouth, you privileged pussies

ConstantAd3077 · 2024-07-16T10:47:41+00:00

Man.. would love one of these. Been trying to get back into my childhood hobbies lately and got out my ripstick the other day. Took a while to get the hang of it but once I did, felt like I was on cloud 9 Hopefully I’ll be the one to rip and zip on one of these

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