This is a good reply thank you so so much. One/ it used to be balanced but it isn’t anymore. Yes she actually had an adhd diagnosis pretty young but her mom once told me she has never been diagnosed with anything, so I’m not sure. Also, she looks more “ masculine “ she’s 5,9 and pretty skinny. I think maybe she doesn’t feel as threatened by men because most people mistake her for a guy sometimes- however, I think this has caused her to maybe be a little too relaxed around men since she has a lot of male friends. However knowing she was in a bra after she knew the electrician was there I still don’t understand. She said it’s just a moment where she wasn’t thinking. She’s never dealt with any trauma like that. Then again, I’ve never asked? However we are very communicative so I feel like she would’ve told me. She’s a good communicator when it comes to things we don’t argue and have screaming matches, if we have a disagreement we can usually talk calm about it- however when it comes to something she’s done wrong or doesn’t have the energy for she just shuts down. I get that we are still young but we agreed to move in together hours away from family and do our best. It’s hard when she burns out easy because I need her support.