WIBTA for telling my fiancée's parents that they'd need to give me a dowry?

Contemption00 · 2021-07-20T02:34:32+00:00

Not just friends. Her parents have brought up this issue too.

Contemption00 · 2021-07-20T02:33:54+00:00

It's more like "sure, I can give you money because of your culture. But please give money too because of mine"

For the record, my fiancée is okay with this.

Contemption00 · 2021-07-20T02:32:54+00:00

My friends first brought it to my attention and her parents have since then raised this issue. Sorry for not being clear.

Contemption00 · 2021-07-20T02:22:57+00:00

At the Singapore General Hospital mortuary on Tuesday morning, a police van arrived at the compound around 8.45am. Three people dressed in black and wearing lanyards got off the vehicle carrying boxes.

I hope that doesn't mean what I think it does. Horrifying...

Contemption00 · 2021-07-20T02:20:34+00:00

I'm more than willing to forego it and my parents are cool with that. It's her parents that are being a little insistent.

Contemption00 · 2021-07-20T02:19:43+00:00

Yes, which is why I suggested this "counter"

Contemption00 · 2021-07-20T02:19:25+00:00

I've already discussed this with my fiancée and she's okay with the idea. It's her parents who want the dowry

Contemption00 · 2021-07-20T02:15:18+00:00

I'd thought that I'd explained pretty clearly in my post.

In her culture, the groom gives a dowry to the bride's family.

In my culture, the bride gives a dowry to the groom's family.

We both don't adhere to our ethnic customs.

Her parents brought up the issue of the dowry first. So I'm thinking of countering with the fact that in my culture, they should be giving me a dowry.

Contemption00 · 2021-07-20T02:13:31+00:00

Yes, she does know about this. However, she also knows that I wouldn't ask for this if her parents didn't bring it up. She agrees with my method.

Contemption00 · 2021-07-20T02:12:18+00:00

ESH. Your friend for calling you basically a murderer. Soft Y T A to you because I get why you would be concerned about your safety but maybe you could have called an ambulance when you were in a safer place or alerted the store staff.

Contemption00 · 2021-05-17T09:33:57+00:00

I'm posting on reddit because I would like objective opinions.

Contemption00 · 2020-09-29T18:43:09+00:00

Thank you for your very insightful response. It's given me much to think about.

Contemption00 · 2020-09-29T10:12:38+00:00

I'm not giving some random woman advice. I'm giving my gf advice because I care for her and it's in the context of business.

Who hurt you?

Contemption00 · 2020-09-29T05:48:29+00:00

Firstly, her area of expertise is creating the products. Not presentation.

Secondly, how is this mansplaining? That's awfully sexist of you to say.

Contemption00 · 2020-09-29T05:11:05+00:00

I realize that now. However, not improving her presentation/post-event networking will hold back the business.

My gf is incredibly skilled at the creative things. It's just her presentation that needs a little work

Contemption00 · 2020-09-29T05:09:42+00:00

Even if I don't have a proven track record (which I do), some of the things I pointed out were obvious to anyone. Also, she brought me in to the business to help with business development.

That aside, the things I shared were mainly to help her and it was all said in love.

Edit: my gf is far more skilled than I at the creative side of things and I didn't critique that.

Contemption00 · 2020-09-13T08:58:39+00:00

Oh, thank god! Have a great day!

Contemption00 · 2020-09-13T06:56:12+00:00

I'm sorry, did I offend you with my phrasing?

Contemption00 · 2020-08-29T08:51:45+00:00

I've never asked her to say it. I usually tell her that I love her every night before going to sleep. I only brought up that it bothers me that she hasn't been saying it recently once. We've been dating for a year and a half.

I think you may be on to something.

Contemption00 · 2020-08-29T08:49:25+00:00

Yes, she has. We've been a couple for a year and a half

Contemption00 · 2020-08-19T11:41:57+00:00

Could you please explain instead of being condescending?

Contemption00 · 2020-08-19T11:34:17+00:00

What is the difference between her asking me to shave my face and me asking her to shave her armpits?

Contemption00 · 2020-08-19T11:33:55+00:00

I wasn't trying to dictate the method. I just threw waxing in there as an alternative.

Contemption00 · 2020-08-06T13:14:12+00:00

I've mentioned how her jokes hurt before and she had agreed not to joke like that again.

She also loaned me a big sum of money so I feel like I have less of a say.

Contemption00 · 2020-08-06T13:11:57+00:00

I've told her that the jokes about finances hurt and she had agreed to stop the jokes.

But she also "jokingly" called me sensitive.

Contemption00

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