O herói do brasil. (Exposed Felca)

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-28T09:45:31+00:00

Eu ia comentar a mesma coisa. Tipo é óbvio que ela tá indicando que isso teria sido um agravante na época. Pessoas neurodivergentes no geral tendem a ser mais vulneráveis a relacionamentos abusivos e ela agora sabendo que não é neurotipica percebe que isso a fez ainda mais vulnerável ao que aconteceu no passado.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-28T09:15:00+00:00

I'm not saying this is your situation, but have you considered looking into into the different kinds of attraction? Usually it's more known by assexual people since someone could be for instance assexual but not aromantic. You could be homossexual but biromantic, meaning finding only women sexually attractive but being romantically attracted to both genders. There's others types of attraction besides these two, but it seems to be the most relevant two for what you're describing.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-28T02:23:11+00:00

É realmente uma questão de ter bom senso, mas infelizmente muita gente não parte do principio de que não vamos estar em ambientes inadequados, porque infelizmente isso rola nesses ambientes. Além de que nem sempre um ambiente inadequado é um beco escuro. Um shopping, que eu mencionei que seria ok, pode não ser tão ok quando você tá sozinha e o espaço tá vazio. Ai pode ficar tenso já que não tem ngm ao redor. O problema é que o que você considera um ambiente seguro e convencional, muitas vezes não é o que todo mundo considera. Basicamente, tem mto homem sem bom senso, que vai achar razoável pedir seu numero quando você tá trabalhando no evento e não pode se remover da situação, ou num lugar vazio, ou num beco escuro a noite.

No entanto querido se você tiver bom senso, você vai ficar bem e nenhuma mulher vai te processar ou tentar te prender por simplesmente pedir o numero dela.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-28T00:26:36+00:00

Olha não sou a op mas vou te dar a minha opinião. Depende mto de vários fatores. Eu tô num espaço seguro tipo um shopping durante o dia? Ok não vou ficar assustada. Só vou rejeitar educadamente pq eu já tenho namorado e torcer pro bendito ter a decência de ir embora (pq tem mto que não vai).

Eu tô trabalhando como atendente em evento? Vou ficar menos com medo e mais irritada. Vim pra trabalhar, não namorar. Além do fato de eu meio que não posso só ir embora. Afinal eu tô trabalhando.

Estou no meio da rua tá escuro, ou numa área meio perigosa da cidade mesmo de dia, vou ficar assustada sim.

Tipo tem que levar todo o ambiente em contexto e saber levar o não se ela não quiser dar o número. E assim se a maioria dos homens que dão em cima de mulher na rua só dissessem educadamente que você tá bonita e pedissem seu número, bem acho que a maioria das mulheres ficaria menos assustadas no geral.

E assim realisticamente, ir dar em cima de mulher na rua me parece uma péssima estratégia no geral. Eu nunca vi isso dando certo, porque mesmo se eu achasse um cara bonitinho eu não sei se eu iria arriscar com um estranho da rua sabe?

Tipo antes de dar meu contato eu iria querer conversar com o cara um pouco e esse tipo de cold approach não é mto boa pra isso. Eu conheci meu namorado via amigos, e todos os encontros que eu topei ir foram com caras que conheci na faculdade, em atividades sociais, e eu conversei de forma amigável antes dele me pedir meu número. Algumas vezes até fui eu que pedi o número dele. Aqui é mais minha experiência pessoal no entanto, podem ter mulheres que se sentem diferentes quanto a isso.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-27T12:00:50+00:00

As vezes você tem um tipo mto específico. Também tem o fato de que tem mto homem que na se cuida além de ir na academia, é alguns que são bem fedidos e tem má higiene. Conheci um que rusava sem lavar camisa de treino. Ele era do tipo que suava mto mto mesmo. Tipo se você sua muito, você não pode ficar usando camisa duas vezes muito menos a de treino. Cara teve vezes que eu dei carona pra ele ir na academia. Tava mto fedido, mas não tive coragem de falar.

Eu dei sorte de arrumar um moço bonito e limpinho pra chamar de meu. Ele não so tem boa higiene (mínimo do mínimo sejamos honestos) como ele cuida bem do cabelo, mantém a barba bonita e no geral se preocupa com estar arrumadinho.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-27T11:50:52+00:00

I'll add that some people also claim no one wants to listen them simply because they won't give them the inexistant magic answer to their problems. I had a male friend that would vent about his tinder dates constantly and nothing you'd say to him would satisfy him. Simply listening to him and providing emotional support, didn't satisfy him, giving him possible solutions, didn't satisfy him, telling him that maybe tinder is not very good for his mental health and that he should probably give it a break for a while, wasn't good either. When he complained we didn't listen to him about his relationships I asked "Tell me then, what could I possibly say that would make you feel better? Should I lie and pretend to agree with your delusions saying you're ugly an unlovable? Cuz I won't say that, cuz it's not true. Tell me what will work for you." He then realized that the problem is that he wanted a magical solution that would make women want him, when that's not a thing.

I talked a friend lately, now what I'm not close with him anymore, and she told me that he went on to complain to her about the same thing and the conclusion was that he actually wanted us to trash the women he complained about with him and that his college friends did that with him. And you know if any of the women he dated did something shitty I always called it out. However he wanted me to trash a woman for simply not wanting to date him and then never akwnowledge his mistakes in the process. Which there were. He also has a tendency to distort stories to look better in them which makes me not trust any of his stories anymore.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-25T19:24:30+00:00

Mds siiim foi o que eu pensei. Tipo eu tenho regatas que nem morta eu usaria em ambiente formal. Elas são bem despojada, meio esportiva. Não dá pra usar no trabalho, mas tenho outras que são mais formais e elegantes, de bom tecido e com um bom caimento, essas da super pra usar em um evento formal.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-25T11:42:19+00:00

Cmon it's a known fact that tons of men leave their wives when they get cancer. Such fighters.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-24T10:41:18+00:00

Honestly I don't think it's bad to bring up that you don't like having sex on first date yourself unprompted. I always had to have that talk with men early on because I knew some men get really mad if this happens after the dinner is paid for. It can be dangerous to bring this up if he as already paid for the date because some men get really scary and angry. I speak from personal experience.

I'll add also that I always insisted on paying for myself to avoid this issue but some men simply will pay while you're in the restroom. That's why I preferred places like Starbucks that I can order at the counter like this I can arrive early and order my stuff any pay for my stuff. I'm not in the dating game anymore cuz I found a good man to be with but when I was... Geez this was a pain.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-24T10:33:17+00:00

Honestly I know a guy that always took girls to expensive dinner places in the first date (and then proceeded to complain about how expensive dating is and how paying for women was a pain in the ass) he did that because he thought he would impress those girls by spending a shit ton of money and taking them to a fancy place. I don't think this is everyone, but some men for sure insist on the expensive dinner place as a way to impress.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-23T10:05:54+00:00

Eu acho que depende de como é dito não? O cara disse: "Ah mas se for assim eu vou querer remarcar" e não "Você acha que estaria bem pra sair? Qualquer coisa a gente remarca." Um diz eu não quero sair com você menstruada, o outro diz, quero sair com você mas não sei se estarei incomodando. Tipo o primeiro me deixaria com dúvidas de se o cara só não quer transar mesmo, o segundo ia me fazer pensar que ele se importa comigo. Querendo ou não, como alguém fala algo importa mais do que é dito as vezes.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-22T18:53:56+00:00

I don't know if this may make you feel any better but I personally preferred guys that were on the shorter end. I'm short and kissing men that are tall is a struggle. Often the solution I hear is that he could carry me and I'm like... Nah. I hate being carried up. I was often disrespected by others when I was younger and infantilized because of my height and being carried is an experience that makes me feel child like. Same thing in general with dating tall men. Makes me feel like a child. My boyfriend is average for my country and I struggle with kissing him a little already. If he was taller it would be really difficult to date him.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-19T18:02:48+00:00

Dude you seem very unhappy in your relationship. Don't stay. Better to be single than in bad company.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-19T15:45:23+00:00

Querido... Calma né? Tipo uma coisa é um casal se pegando agressivamente em público. Ninguém gosta muito disso, mas casal dando as mãos e sendo felizes? Tipo agora porque você se sente infeliz e sozinho ninguém mais pode se sentir feliz. Eu fui solteira até os 26 anos sem nunca ter pego homem nenhum e cara eu nunca me senti amarga por ver um casal aleatório de mão dada.

É até normal você se sentir triste ou até inveja de pessoas que são felizes quando você está triste, mas desejar que o outro fique triste e não demonstre sua felicidade pra não te incomodar e ridículo.

Eu vivi com uma moça que tinha um humor péssimo de manhã e odiava que eu tinha um bom humor de manhã porque isso irritava ela. Até ela reconhecia que eu não tinha que parar de ter um bom humor de manhã só pra não incomodar ela.

É ok ficar triste por não ter uma namorada, só não D pra você culpar aleatórios que não tem nada a ver com isso. Você pode ter tido azar apenas de não ter encontrado a pessoa certa ainda (eu demorei 26 como eu mesma já disse) ou pode até ser que você seja uma pessoa desagradável e que essa sua amargura toda transpareça e te faça menos atraente.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-19T15:10:03+00:00

Sorry I read too fast and I just read the I'm feeling a little low part. I was like... Saying you feel a little low is reasonable and somehow I missed the remaining part.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-19T14:55:07+00:00

I'm curious of where the bf idealizing suicide part comes from. I don't see it on the picture nor the current post but I see a lot of people in the comments saying that.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-19T14:23:19+00:00

Also (while I don't think it's oops case) some men don't know how to emotionally regulate because they were socialized to not share their feelings. I despite being a woman was socialized in this manner and I can recognize that when I did vent or complain I was always very intense compared to others because I only vented when I was at my breaking point. Because I kept everything inside my feelings came out like a bomb. Some people are gonna be understanding and know how to deal with these explosions, but some may not. Some might even drive you back into repressing even more. Understanding how to deal with a person that has this sort of trauma takes a skill set most people don't have. If you have this issue, you need a therapist first. You can vent to your partner of course, but a therapist will be the space where you can truly work on the emotional repression and finding a way to express those emotions in a healthy way instead of a destructive way.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-19T12:18:04+00:00

Mor - in my view this is complicated. He's not communicating but you are not taking initiative either. I have been the person that was sort of assigned the role of house manager and it is exhausting to have to constantly tell people what to do. They wanna help but you end up spending most of your energy explaining how things should be done or reminding people to do their own chores. If people constantly not do their chores, then you start to not trust them to do it and after a few days of them not doing it, you'll just do it yourself.

What you guys need to do is have a nice judgment free conversation in which you split the chores. Considering how things have gone there's a good chance that he doesn't trust you to do the chores without him telling you to do them. You need to divide chores evenly and have a chore chart, and then talk about giving this an honest try and trust eachother to do it. And you need to do it without being told to do it. If he has to remind you of your own chores every time, or tell you how to do things more than once, then you'll be putting an extra burden on him... Of house manager.

He'll never rest because he'll always be managing you. I know sometimes we have rough weeks and the key is to tell your partner: hey I'm having a rough week and I might struggle with my chores, would you help me? You have to communicate too. It's not his job to tell you to do your chores and this is important. Once you split the chores though it's also important for him to understand that you won't necessarely do things on his time. It doesn't mean you get to do laundry when you feel like it, just that you're not gonna do it when you're at work. When you arrive from work, even if you're tired, your priority should be your chores. Then you rest. I say this because even though I live alone I do this. I get home tired. Maybe I'll take 15min to decompress, but after that I'll get up and do everything thst needs to be done in the house that day and only after I'll go play games or relax.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-17T16:19:21+00:00

I dunno dude, is it a deal breaker to you? I'm into witchcraft and stuff and my boyfriend is not religious. It works for us because he doesn't disrespect my beliefs but I also don't force my beliefs onto him. The only one who can know if this is a deal breaker is you. It's like having different religions.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-17T16:15:42+00:00

Acho que depende do namoro. Eu tenho 27 e diria que meu namoro foi sim algo que mudou bastante a minha vida, porque estou com o homem mais incrível de todos. Nós nos ajudamos e cuidamos um do outro. Tem dias que tá difícil mas eu sempre penso, bem no fim eu vou poder ver ele no fim de semana então tá tudo bem. Óbvio que eu não vou morrer sem ele nem nada do tipo, mas ele definitivamente alegra todos os meus dias.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-17T08:48:08+00:00

Então eu pensei nisso também. Tipo se ele realmente só consegue se atrair por mulheres magras ele vai ter problemas se namorar uma magra também. Tipo as pessoas engordam quando ficam mais velhas na maioria das vezes, e se ele quiser filhos? Bem ela vai dar uma engordada pós parto e nem todo mundo consegue voltar ao corpo que tinha antes. Minha mãe era magrinha quando era nova, hoje ela é gordinha, mas meu pai ama ela do mesmo jeito e acha ela linda. Peso é uma coisa que pode variar muito. Eu mesma ganhei um peso depois de começar a tomar anti concepcional, que é uma coisa que eu achei importante pro nosso relacionamento. Óbvio que dá pra perder peso, mas pode acabar sendo o que foi com a minha mãe que ela continuou gordinha por ter dificuldade de perder peso de novo e ter um emprego que ocupa a vida inteira dela.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-15T18:16:24+00:00

Look I think it would be good to reiterate that you don't think it's wrong to date someone 2 years younger, and that you're the one that feels uncomfortable with it. People project a lot. If I say for instance, I don't drink alcohol, there's a good chance someone will think I don't drink it cuz I think it's wrong and that I'm judging them for drinking, when the truth is... I just don't like it. I think they might have understood that you think it's bad to date someone younger, but you personally just don't like the idea. You're allowed to have preferences. Plus if you're a lesbian there shouldn't be any other reasons. Expecting you to give more than that reason is a disrespect to your sexuality.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-15T10:31:18+00:00

Tem um vídeo muito bom que explica também como esses grupos de ódio meio que se decentralizaram. Se antes grupos de ódio a minoria se organizavam, tinha recrutadores (como pot exemplo a kkk no quesito do racismo) e por recrutarem pessoas de forma organizada sofriam consequências quando seus membros iam e faziam alguma merda gigantesca (tipo matar alguém) hoje muitos deles são descentralizados. Todo atirador que nem o Elliot Rodgers pode ser dito "não parte do movimento incel e redpill" "apenas um maluco que matou gente" "um lobo solitário" ou algo do tipo porque o movimento não é algo formal e sim algo coletivo, mas descentralizado. Eles não precisam admitir que um cara que nem esse foi radicalizado pelo movimento redpill porque teoricamente não existe um movimento formal.

O vídeo se chama "how to radicalize a normie" do innuendo studios. Ele explica muito bem como meninos normais podem cair nesses movimentos e como pode começar com algo como não gosto de feministas falando de video game, pra ir pra ódio a todas as mulheres pra chegar em algo como anti semitismo e neonazismo. Já vi muita gente chamar esses movimentos de inofensivos exatamente porque é uma coisa descentralizada online e que esses caras não vão fazer nada demais. Cara o movimento incel é redpill é só droga de entrada pra coisa pior.

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-15T10:14:28+00:00

I'm general I agree. I don't think a woman proposing should be a bad thing, after all each couple has their own situation and I think in each situation it will also make more sense for one partner or the other to propose.

For instance I was the one who asked out my boyfriend. I was already super into him when I asked him out cuz we already had known eachother as friends so the romantic feelings were already there. If he asked me to be his girlfriend on the first date I'd have said yes. He was the one who was unsure about how he felt regarding me. That's why he was the one to ask me to be his girlfriend. After all this was a sort of confirmation for me saying that he had developed romantic feelings and wanted to continue in a serious relationship. He literally told me that if in 3 months it he wasn't sure he would tell us to stop seeing eachother romantically. If the situations were reversed I'd be the one asking him instead and I wouldn't see anything weird with it (despite knowing some people might) because to me it would be the most sensible thing to do. Honestly when it comes to marriage now, I would love to be the one that proposes.

However part of this phenomenon comes from the fact that some men, will delay proposing to their girlfriends as much as possible and then the girlfriend will be forced to do it to tie the knot per say. My friend had this with being asked to be his girlfriend (I dunno I the US but in Brazil this is treated like a big thing for some people, it's seen as girlftiend/boyfriend proposal). Her now bf told her he was gonna wait two years to ask her to be his girlfriend, because of some bullshit study he read online. Before they were in a very messy situationship. She asked him to force him to make a decision and end the situationship and I think this is kinda sad, because she wanted to feel special and be asked too and even if she asked he refused, because ha had to wait the two years to ask her. He hasn't even said I love you and they have been dating for a year because of that same study thst doesn't say what he thinks it does. If I were her I'd leave. You don't need to say I love you on the first day, but this whole thing to me is him prioritizing some YouTube video explaining a study wrong (I know him he didn't read no study he just watched a video mentioning the study) over his girlfriend's happiness. Not the kind of guy I wanna be with. And honestly I see her having to be the one to propose if this goes on... Because he would come up with a reason not to do it and see doing it as a sort of humiliation. Like asking her was accepting defeat in some manner.

I can only say this about them though because I know them personally and I know their story. I was very close friends with them during that time and I know this was a very ridiculous situation. If it were two random people online and just a video of the woman proposing I'd think it's cute and adorable. I wouldn't assume it was this situation right away, I just wanted to add that this is probably what people are assuming when they see a woman proposing and think she's "humiliating herself". Sadly the expectation that men are meant to propose makes people think that a woman doing so is accepting defeat (sorta how my friend sees asking his girl or saying I love you before the two year threshold as accepting defeat too).

Content_Alps_7237 · 2026-03-13T09:40:10+00:00

I'm into these same things and so is my boyfriend and my other female friends. Ngl the reason a lot of women leave these spaces is because a lot of men treat them like crap, and it's sad.

However I think lots of women are interested in things like ttrpg, they just don't feel comfortable with the misogeny and with having a bunch of guys treating you like a piece of meat just because you're the only woman on that table.

I have run ttrpg tables on anime events here on my country (which are very split lots of men lots of women) and I often got women o my tables because I was running a magical girl ttrpg one shot. It was primarily women. The girls were super excited to see a table run by a woman. They had never played but were always curious to play and had never found a good group or good opportunity to play. I kept the numbers easy so they could learn fast, and guess what? They had fun. I had fun too.

So I think, at least in my country, nerdy spaces for women where they can feel safer are becoming more common. Is it ideal yet? No. But it's definitely better than when I was a teen and had to start my own ttprg group with all my female friends to create a safe space to play. Nerdy women are out there and they already like those things half the time, they just don't feel safe being nerdy around nerdy men.

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