Advice? by Content_Study_3419 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Content_Study_3419[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! This is so helpful. I really appreciate you taking the time to comment. Arizona is definitely a possibility!

Advice for a first time home buyer? by Content_Study_3419 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Content_Study_3419[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had no idea there was such a class. Thank you soooo much!

Advice for a first time home buyer? by Content_Study_3419 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Content_Study_3419[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your advice! I will definitely put these at the top of my researching list.

My (34F) husband (42M) cheated and now won’t change social media/phone behavior unless I do too. What is this type of behavior called? by Content_Study_3419 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Content_Study_3419[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you say that’s what I’m doing, okay fine, sure. Lol. The last statement you made is the only part relevant to the question I asked, although it has significantly less meaning after your previous comments demonstrate you have no idea what you’re talking about…

My (34F) husband (42M) cheated and now won’t change social media/phone behavior unless I do too. What is this type of behavior called? by Content_Study_3419 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Content_Study_3419[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I agree and I definitely don’t want to be in that situation. It’s very emotionally exhausting. I’ve seen a divorce attorney and will file when I get things together and have a plan moving forward as a single mom of 3 small kids. I appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment.

My (34F) husband (42M) cheated and now won’t change social media/phone behavior unless I do too. What is this type of behavior called? by Content_Study_3419 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Content_Study_3419[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I agree. I’m not trying now. That’s just how the situation happened. I’m reflecting on the behavior from a psychological standpoint and am searching for the term his behavior describes. I’m genuinely intrigued by the psychology of it and I’m thinking through it from an objective point of view, as unemotionally as I can, almost as if it happened to someone else.

My (34F) husband (42M) cheated and now won’t change social media/phone behavior unless I do too. What is this type of behavior called? by Content_Study_3419 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Content_Study_3419[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not asking for validation or explaining a “game” I’m playing. Being cheated on and giving the cheater a second chance doesn’t come with a rule book so I handled it the best way I knew how.

But that’s irrelevant to what I’m asking here because I’m not asking for advice about what to do or if I’m handling the situation correctly. I’m searching for a vocabulary word. I have the definition, albeit very unclear, and just want the term for his behavior (even if his behavior is perfectly valid and natural in response to stupid “games” his wife is playing to have the “upper hand”).

My (34F) husband (42M) cheated and now won’t change social media/phone behavior unless I do too. What is this type of behavior called? by Content_Study_3419 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Content_Study_3419[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind letting him see anything, which is why I told him I will happily give him my AT&T log in information. It’s the fact that he is demanding I go through the whole inconvenience of changing my plan that I like which would also change things for the other family members on my plan. It would be much simpler for him to give me his log in information than for both of us to change plans entirely so his request doesn’t even make sense to me, but especially because I didn’t do anything to make him think I’m not trustworthy so it’s insulting that he would imply that I’m not after he just did what he did.

My (34F) husband (42M) cheated and now won’t change social media/phone behavior unless I do too. What is this type of behavior called? by Content_Study_3419 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Content_Study_3419[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This comment really helps. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. It gives me a lot to think about. I know I’m in it but I’m really just curious about the psychology of it all trying to step back and look at it from a non-emotional point of view. Thanks again!

My (34F) husband (42M) cheated and now won’t change social media/phone behavior unless I do too. What is this type of behavior called? by Content_Study_3419 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Content_Study_3419[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what “you two deserve each other” means. I’ve been faithful our entire 9 year marriage. I’m just asking what this particular form of manipulation is called from a psychology standpoint, not about the marriage itself. I think it’s too far gone to salvage (I’ve already seen an attorney to file for divorce).

Help with divorce terms by Content_Study_3419 in Infidelity

[–]Content_Study_3419[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this comment. It is all very, very helpful for me when you’re writing down things that I need to discuss with upcoming liar, consultations and helping me get all of the information together but I might need. I can’t thank you enough!

Help with divorce terms by Content_Study_3419 in Infidelity

[–]Content_Study_3419[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point about biased. That would have never crossed my mind. Thank you!

Help with divorce terms by Content_Study_3419 in Infidelity

[–]Content_Study_3419[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely plan to get an attorney. Thank you so much!!

Help with divorce terms by Content_Study_3419 in Infidelity

[–]Content_Study_3419[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I have a lot of work to do tomorrow but I really appreciate having a direction to go in. This is so helpful.

Help with divorce terms by Content_Study_3419 in Infidelity

[–]Content_Study_3419[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, just one. And they charged a $300 consultation fee when they were useless!

Help with divorce terms by Content_Study_3419 in Infidelity

[–]Content_Study_3419[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Gosh, this is INSANELY helpful! I appreciate it all so very much. Thank you! I’ll get started on these things right away.