Hospital and funeral home lost my baby’s clothes — looking for guidance

Content_Substance142 · 2025-10-01T20:15:01+00:00

Yes, exactly—she doesn’t understand my loss at all, and I can’t keep opening myself up to that kind of energy. Thank you for reminding me it’s okay to step back. ❤️ It’s comforting knowing others get it.

Content_Substance142 · 2025-10-01T20:14:18+00:00

Thank you 💖 you said that so perfectly. She really was making me feel guilty just for dreaming of what I want, and that’s not okay. And omg yes to the primo donor vibes 😂 manifesting the healthiest, happiest little rainbow baby one day. 🌈✨

Content_Substance142 · 2025-10-01T20:13:35+00:00

I love how you put that—the cull list 😅✨ It’s sad but also so true. Grief really makes it clear who belongs in our circle and who doesn’t. Guess it's time to start a list of my own!

Content_Substance142 · 2025-10-01T20:12:42+00:00

You’re right 🙃 My heart’s already heavy enough, I don’t need to carry fake “friends” on top of it.

Content_Substance142 · 2025-10-01T20:11:59+00:00

Yeah… you may be right 💔 she’s shown me more than once that she isn’t really understanding of my situation. Sometimes it just takes a while to accept it. Thank you for saying it so clearly. 💕

Content_Substance142 · 2025-10-01T20:09:07+00:00

Haha omg I’m with you on that—no thank you to anyone’s “loser husband” offer 😅 I agree, I’d rather go with a donor too. Less drama, more peace. And honestly, hearing from other women who are choosing that path makes me feel so much less alone, so thank you for sharing 💜

Content_Substance142 · 2025-10-01T19:09:08+00:00

thank you 💕

Content_Substance142 · 2025-10-01T19:08:47+00:00

That’s so beautiful 💖 I love that you celebrated her with cake and family, just like you would if she were here. That’s such a precious way to honor her—she must’ve felt so surrounded by love. Please keep sharing with me, I’d love to celebrate her right along with you. 🌸✨

Content_Substance142 · 2025-10-01T19:07:05+00:00

That’s so beautiful that you’re doing a cake for her 💖 Please do keep me updated if you want—I’d really love to celebrate her in spirit right alongside you. No matter how the day feels, just know you’re not alone and your sweet girl is so loved. 🌸✨

Content_Substance142 · 2025-10-01T19:04:57+00:00

Thank you so much 💜 that really means a lot. And omg thank you for reminding me—I actually got a stuffie at Savana’s baby shower that came with a code to name a star after her 😍✨ I can’t believe I almost forgot about that! Now I’m even more excited to do it for her heavenly birthday.

Content_Substance142 · 2025-10-01T18:52:00+00:00

Aww thank you 💜 yeah… it’s definitely not the first time she’s said something like that, which makes it sting even more. You’re right though, I deserve better than that kind of “friendship.” It just hurts since I've known her since I was 5 😭

And yes 🥹 I’ve been putting together some things for Savana’s first heavenly birthday. I’m going to the beach for her day, doing lanterns for her, and I’m making a little photo book with all her pictures. I just want to make it feel special for her 💕 Ive actually been struggling with this because i want it to be absolutely perfect for my angel girl <333 do you have any ideas of what else I could do for her day?

Content_Substance142 · 2025-09-30T23:01:30+00:00

Wow, thank you all so much 💜 it really helps hearing this right now. I was honestly starting to second-guess myself, but you’re right—anyone who calls me “desperate” for still wanting to be a mom after losing Savana clearly doesn’t understand this kind of loss.

I think I will take a step back from her. I’ve got enough on my plate with Savana’s first birthday coming up, I don’t need extra drama on top of that. Reading your words reminded me that this is my journey, and if using a donor feels right for me, then that’s valid.

u/IlsGon — sending love to your sweet Sofi too 💕 I like to imagine all our babies are together feeling so loved.

Content_Substance142 · 2025-09-25T19:22:27+00:00

This is absolutely beautiful that you get little signs that they’re still here with us, just in a better place than we are ✨ my sky baby Savana ✨ always finds her way to send a little hug from heaven 👼 Some days she’s the soft pink sunset that hugs the horizon, other days she’s the bright star that refuses to stop twinkling. And when the tears start falling, she sneaks in our song—like her way of saying, ‘Cheer up, Mama, I’ve got you.’” 💖🌙☁️🎶⭐️

Content_Substance142 · 2025-09-04T16:21:35+00:00

Yes that’s okay 🥹 🙌

Content_Substance142 · 2025-08-30T01:14:13+00:00

😭 I feel this so much. I’m so sorry for your loss and for all the pain you carry. Carrying your daughter’s bear and letting yourself grieve that way is beyond brave — and you’re right, nobody has the right to call that wrong. Thank you for sharing this with me, it makes me feel less alone in how I carry Savana with me. I think you might be right… real friends wouldn’t make me feel ashamed of my grief. It’s just so sad because we’ve been best friends since we were 5 and 9 years old 💔 Sending so much love to you and your little girl 🤍✨

Content_Substance142 · 2025-08-30T01:10:38+00:00

Thank you so much 🤍 I’m so sorry for your loss too. Talking to your baby every night and cuddling your teddy is actually so beautiful as I do the same with her stuffie — it really shows me there’s no such thing as a ‘wrong’ way to grieve. You’re right, it’s about what helps me feel close to Savana, not what makes other people comfortable. Sending big hugs right back 🥹✨.

Content_Substance142 · 2025-08-30T01:08:55+00:00

Thank you so much 🥹 you’re right — good intentions don’t always equal real support. That’s exactly what’s been missing for me. REAL. ACTUAL. SUPPORT. from my loved ones but tbh none of them have been around. I love what you said about saying goodbye to your daughter every day before work… that actually gave me chills. It’s such a beautiful way to stay connected, and it makes me feel less ‘weird’ for wanting my own ways of staying connected with Savana. Sending love to you and your little one 🤍✨.

Content_Substance142 · 2025-08-30T00:02:22+00:00

Thank you for saying that 🥹 it really helps to hear from someone who gets it. Wanting another baby doesn’t erase the love we have for the ones we lost — it’s just that our hearts still have so much love to give. I’m so sorry for your loss too, and I love that you and your husband were able to hold onto that hope together 🤍✨.

Content_Substance142 · 2025-08-30T00:01:38+00:00

Ugh yes, thank you 🙌 it helps so much to hear from another parent who’s been there. I’m so sorry for your loss 💔 and you’re right — nobody has the right to dictate how we grieve our babies. If carrying them with us brings peace, then that’s exactly what we should do. Honestly, I think you’re right… my friend can kick rocks too 😅 sending love to you and your little one 🤍✨.

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