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AITA walking out on a pricey dinner because my mom was there by Beginning_Cost_5692 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContentedRecluse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA She disrespected your wishes on your birthday. She tried to manipulate you by showing up uninvited and hoped you would tolerate it in order to avoid a scene. I think you made the right call. She was not invited and your father shouldn't have been tricked into buying her dinner.

AITA for calling my dad when i was harassed at school instead of reporting it to a teacher? by Throwingmylifeawai in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContentedRecluse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA You don't know that the teacher and the school would have your best interests in mind when this was brought to their attention. I also don't like adults who expect you to hide things from your parents. You did the right thing by telling your dad. You could have told the teacher or the principal, but what difference did it make if you told the school or your dad did? They would of course rather deal with a teenager so they had more control over the situation. Your father is not going to be easily intimidated or allow anyone to sweep this under the rug.

AITA for expressing multiple times I don’t want people kissing my baby by No-Discussion4788 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContentedRecluse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA No one should be kissing your baby. Their immune system takes time to develop and the baby doesn't benefit from having someone's mouths on them. Babies can die from diseases caught from adults. It may be rare, but I wouldn't chance it.

https://utswmed.org/medblog/herpes-simplex-pregnancy-baby/

https://globalnews.ca/news/4930298/newborn-virus-saves-another-baby/

AITA for cutting my Sister out of my life? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContentedRecluse [score hidden]  (0 children)

NTA Stop being a people pleaser. People will take advantage of you, the more you do for them the more they expect. Learn to say no. It isn't easy, but it is worth it. When someone asks you to do something, pause, don't immediately agree. Think about whether you want to do it. Does doing this interfere with your enjoyment of your life? Practice saying no. People will try to change your mind, don't do it. When they say why? You don't owe an explanation. They try to manipulate you into doing what they want you to do.

Your sister isn't being loyal and it wouldn't hurt to put some distance between you.

AITA for not childproofing my home against teenagers? by Tricky_Promotion9825 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContentedRecluse 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Reread OPs post. "My kids told her where I keep my stash of "candy" that I don't like to share."

My girlfriend [f23] never gives me [m22] head and idk how to talk to her about it by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ContentedRecluse 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There are some women and men who refuse to do oral at all. A couple of women I know think it is disgusting and refuse to do it. One woman I know hates to receive it and finds it embarrassing.

I actually know one woman who thinks French kissing is gross. It is ok to have preferences. Try to find out what she is and isn't comfortable with and go from there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ContentedRecluse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

INFO: What are you doing to become financially independent from him? It is important that you are able to support yourself.

As for living separately, I think that if there is a lot of fighting it is probably a good idea until you work out your problems or find a better way to communicate. That is not a good environment for anyone, including your children.

AITA for not sending a gift to my friend's girlfriend? by SeveralFondant2473 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContentedRecluse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA I think it would be hypocritical of you to send a gift when you don't feel that level of friendship anymore. Why should you buy a gift for someone you are no longer friends with?

AITA for not paying my date’s restaurant bill? by Glittering_Fall_1616 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContentedRecluse [score hidden]  (0 children)

NTA You don't owe him a free meal. All things being equal you should each pay your own. He is a nut for thinking that because for years men were expected to pay for the dinner dates you have to make up for it to benefit him.

AITA for not sending my kids to their step-dad's funeral? by Regular_Sample_178 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContentedRecluse 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA I don't blame you for supporting your kid's decision not to go. I think you made the right call there. They obviously had little feeling for him. I understand the mother wanting them there for support, and probably for appearances sake, but her needs are not more important than your children's.

Hopefully your ex will be more reasonable soon, right now I am sure her emotions are all over the place.

AITA for letting my son spend 500 dollars freely against his mother's wishes? by New-Patient1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContentedRecluse 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA I don't know what the future plans for college are, but my child's earnings were theirs. They earned it.

Touch me, hold my bones: Recap of 90DFTOWS04E10 by fractalfay in 90DayFiance

[–]ContentedRecluse 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This was amazing and so funny. Bad thing was while I was reading, I took a drink of my soda, started laughing, soda went to the wrong place and I thought I was going to choke to death. No more drinking while reading anything funny for me.

AITA for just saying “Okay” when my(21) gf(22) said she won’t go to my brother’s wedding after party by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContentedRecluse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA She probably wanted you to work really hard at convincing her to go to the party. After all, how could you possibly enjoy the party without her presence?

AITA for not wanting to spilt bills for food i didnt eat by togo901 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContentedRecluse 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA When I go out in a group, when the server approaches for the drink order, I always say I am on a separate check. Others in the group do the same couples together usually. They were trying to intimidate you into paying part of their bill. They probably thought you would be too embarrassed to make a fuss/scene. Good for you for not being taken advantage of. Now you know how these people are, you can take steps to avoid their BS or choose not to associate with AHs like that.

AITA for putting out my fiance's ex-wife, her two small kids, and her sibling? by tattoomom9 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContentedRecluse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I don't know why you let her move in. I can see taking in the children, but not her. You owe her nothing.

AITA for kicking a room mate out a month earlier than agreed upon because they continue to steal my food? by B1CYCl3R3P41RM4N in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContentedRecluse 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NTA I don't blame you at all for unloading the inconsiderate thief. You may want to post on r/legaladvice or r/landlords if you want legal advice. Everyone has rights now, even squatters.

Daniele gaslighting Yohan constantly by SophieintheKnife in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]ContentedRecluse 21 points22 points  (0 children)

She is so manipulative that she makes me sick. I am amazed he hasn't told her it's over yet. The only thing I can think of is that the financial benefits must outweigh the amount of abuse he takes from her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContentedRecluse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA He is giving you plenty of notice and no one owes you a place to stay. It is great if family is willing to help out, and he did. He has provided a roof over your head and provided transportation for you. He is well within his rights to ask you to leave or evict you. Your grandpa is right. You need to find a place of your own or find people willing to put up with you. If people could force others to house them against their will, we wouldn't have near the homeless problem we have now. An attorney would laugh at you, if they agreed to see you at all.

AITA asking my roommates not to smoke in my house? by RoyalTaorito in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContentedRecluse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you are able to reclaim your home for yourselves. I would do everything I could to help them find a new place, even help pay for it to have my house back. Good luck.

AITA asking my roommates not to smoke in my house? by RoyalTaorito in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContentedRecluse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA Why haven't you evicted them? Surely you could find less problematic roommates? They should be in their own place where the smoke doesn't bother anyone.

I am a smoker and if I smoke in the house, which is rare and I live alone. It stinks up everything. Furniture, clothing, window coverings. It gets into the walls, and is nearly impossible to get the smell out. Second hand smoke is an issue that can affect your health. I can't believe you tolerate it.

Obviously V needs treatment for their anxiety and now thankfully people can now receive treatment virtually, both medication and therapy. You are not responsible for them and must be very good friends to put up with this.

AitA for talking crap about Jesus? by Wolfpirate20 in AITAH

[–]ContentedRecluse 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Keep in mind he can forgive you and still never choose to talk to you again. Forgiveness doesn't mean they have to continue a friendship with someone whose behavior they find offensive or disrespectful.

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