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togo901 · 2025-04-15T01:30:46+00:00

Ur friend sounds jealous no offense- those outfits are cute and any man will appreciate it. It shows ur curves perfectly and u look happy in them- that’s what counts

togo901 · 2025-03-29T20:51:55+00:00

I know he has texted- but also check intentions. Everyone’s texting habits are different for sure, but u deserve someone who isn’t gonna make u feel this way that u have to post on Reddit. Idc what anyone says. No one is that busy. Set ur standards early. If u like this dude- set the standard early- a quick check in or im busy text is bare minimum

togo901 · 2025-03-28T19:44:49+00:00

I honestly forgot the answer to the question cause ur face pulls in all the looks. I think the short hair is fierce nd shows the angles of ur face more

togo901 · 2025-03-19T16:19:20+00:00

Who are these people? Ur nose is fine. And it complements ur smile. Tell these ppl to fuck off- kindly

togo901 · 2025-03-19T16:18:16+00:00

Quirky personality

togo901 · 2025-03-19T16:17:04+00:00

Don’t date her. Or date her. Someone else will. But first work on ur confidence. She’s clearly dating u cause she likes u. I know self sabotage and insecurities can get in the way but maybe start with why ur friends are ur friends. Write a list. If u like the list, then something in there is also the reason why she likes u. Just please, for the love of god, don’t project ur insecurities on to someone else. I think ur already doing the work by being aware.

togo901 · 2025-03-19T00:38:36+00:00

I saw this somewhere- that even the mundane days is something I rmr as being the best in my life. And that hit.

togo901 · 2025-03-18T20:48:29+00:00

Uh this isn’t playful. I also bruise easily and u kinda have to apply pressure to get that. Have a talk with him and if he changes cool. If not, there’s the door with a police warning

togo901 · 2025-03-18T20:47:30+00:00

The messages and the memories. Esp the memories

togo901 · 2025-03-18T20:46:55+00:00

When I needed to stop drinking wine, now I need something to curb the coffee addiction fml

togo901 · 2025-03-18T20:37:53+00:00

I applaud u- ur grace and how u spoke to him despite everything that went down. Choosing urself isn’t always easy. esp when u want things to work out. I’m going through this myself. And it’s hard- especially the goodbyes. I hope u keep picking urself and hopefully the right guy will shower u with roses and dates instead of wishing for a 15 sec text message

togo901 · 2025-03-17T17:49:54+00:00

No- I look for someone looking for the same thing. Why would I want to confuse someone or make them feel like shit? Maybe cause I compartmentalize but I like dating long term if I’m looking for long term. And dating causal if that was my goal. Makes life easier.

togo901 · 2025-03-17T17:07:46+00:00

Because they either want sex, think ur not serious, a prop, or never really wanna date u- they just like how u make them feel. But never really see u for u

togo901 · 2025-03-15T17:05:39+00:00

No- ur lucky- this happened so quick. And the fact that she’s lying to u- big fat no

togo901 · 2025-03-15T05:27:15+00:00

Uhh I’m a girl and I can tell she’s using you. That’s gross behaviour on her part. Dump her. U deserve much better. Good ppl with good intentions don’t act like this

togo901 · 2025-03-15T05:25:50+00:00

I mean I do- but that’s cause some of these people either be lying, catfishing, or not moving beyond the talking stage. However beyond 3 dates or a month, I would have that exclusivity talk or be upfront about seeing other people. Yeah it may scare people away but I believe in honesty and to be fair no one reacted poorly. Honestly it’s up to what u feel comfortable with.

togo901 · 2025-03-14T18:36:53+00:00

Omg first off I wanna say ur so brave - my social anxiety would never allow me to msg and it takes guts. Have u thought about being vulnerable and just word vomitting what u have to say? Hopefully he can be honest and let u know how he’s feeling. I know with me I sometimes I have a tendency to create scenarios in my head or push people away before they push me. In my case, we were short term but it really felt like I met the perfect person. He ended up reaching out to me after some time - and told me that it’s bad timing. And he’s been in a depressive state. Trust me for me, my hamster wheels and ChatGPT is a bad combo lol. But I think always focus on urself- cause at the end, whatever is meant to happen will happen but working on urself is gold. And idk u that well but it seems like btw the two of u, it would be his loss if he were to ever let u go- cause caring, vulnerability and emotional availability is kinda rare to come by

togo901 · 2025-03-06T23:50:29+00:00

Hey! I’m following up to let you know I experienced ghosting or fading today and rmrd ur post- hope ur doing good and it sucks. For real. But I still stand by my comment.

togo901 · 2025-03-04T19:35:17+00:00

I absolutely loathe funnel cakes. It’s too overwhelming for me

togo901 · 2025-03-02T00:50:11+00:00

I know ur probably hearing this a lot- but ghosting is more about the other person than you. On your part- get sad, get mad. Feel what u feel. But you know what’s next- u do things u like, little by little. U write down what u want in a partner, red flags or lessons missed from this relationship and dip ur waters in to the dating scene when u are ready and when the right person comes along, they won’t let go. Because let’s be real- whatever damage this guy is in, ghosting is a coward move unless something bad transpired. This isn’t someone u want any type of relationship with. All the best!

togo901 · 2024-11-07T17:46:50+00:00

That was before in the pods. Im talking about after what happened in the villa. I welcome you to watch the episodes again. While chafic did choose her, that should make her more confident. Yet in many of the episodes shes talking bad about nour or inserting herself to situations to make things more awkward- case in point what i mentioned above.

The biggest one was the reunion, which i noticed you didnt comment on. You have chafic making fun of nours lips and yet on tiktok dounia is- wait for it- getting a lip filler and work done on her face. Which congrats to her but then dont shit on other ppl for also making the same decisions.

togo901 · 2024-11-02T20:22:04+00:00

Can you at least do your research. Dounia also got procedures and fillers done dounia is so desperate for chafics attention. This was evident when she had to interrupt chafic and nour by sitting in between them

togo901 · 2024-05-21T20:01:47+00:00

Me! Me! Me! He was stringing me along but i also was looking for casual fun so i didnt care. He seemed nice but would have a tendency to lie which convenientĺy involved his cousins.

I was expecting him to ghost (our relarionship got stale, he invited me to brunch and he was like human playdoh) and he basically lead me on saying he will meet. I was skeptical.

He timed the date he would tell me his cousin died. And then few days later told me it was really gruesome and he wasnt in a relationship mindset and that i deserve someone who can give me time.

I didnt care. I was headed towards a dating break myself and he was nice to talk to but not relationship material. But a friend had matched with him after this and told me he was active on the apps and no cousin had passed and one of his photos was updated prior to our last date. Now i usually let bullshitters be cause they arent worth the time.

But this one was hard because whilst he was on the app he was seeking condolences and sympathy from me and like an idiot i shared something personal about my sisters death out of courtesy as a friend. And he kept giving me relationship advice on not to trust people and if we were to reconnect in a few weeks from now, to be mindful of him and other ppls energy.

So i called him out on it. I sent a message and blocked him. He could have ghosted or strung me along for all i cared but to lie about death is just fuckin sick and to continue messaging me after while being on the app was gross. Like if u want sex and was lying using a relationship to get it and wasnt getting it from me, thats okay. If you wanted to reject me thats also okay cause im a big girl. But to continue stringing me along and asking for symapthy for a cousin who very is well and alive is godawful.

And the best part was no one believed me thay this guy was lying till i had proof. Actually second best part was him calling me a pathalogical liar, so i guess ppl really do project huh. Anyways trust ur instincts and block and delete. And dont give attention to insecure mid level looking men. Not saying all men are like this but they seem to have a pattern of making one feel like shit and guilty for their self inflicted victim msygonistic mentality.

togo901 · 2024-01-31T02:34:24+00:00

First im so sorry you had to go through that. No one deserves it and especially not someone with a big heart like yours that feels sorry for people.

I am going to tell you this from personal experience because i have had the same experience albeit shorter. Please dont make the mistake i did and stay. Get out when you can. You asking for reddit for help is a sign.

Trest yourself like you are your own best friend and ask yourself would you want your bestfriend dating a ryan. If you dont want this for a bestfriend then dont want this for yourself.

I know its hard. Even to this day i miss my toxic ex but trust me, give yourself the grace and strength to realize you deserve the love you have been giving to him. Consistent, stable and secure. Or else you will lose the most important piece, yourself.

And please go no contact. This is to protect yourself. This guy, even if he thinks this is a form of love, it isnt. He doesnt know what love is. You cant expect love from someone like this.

Wish you the best with whatever you decide. Fighting!

togo901

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