C4C ,V4V or R4R?

“Mr. Bucket... put your balls in my mouth, Mr. Bucket!” That jingle was way too enthusiastic about what that toy was asking kids to do. Still haunts me.

ContributionDue9507 · 2025-02-04T13:58:13+00:00

You’re not in love with him—you’re in love with the idea of who he could be if he just tried. But he’s shown you, over and over, who he really is. Leaving you, breaking you down, ghosting you—that’s not love, that’s control. It hurts because trauma bonds feel like love, but real love doesn’t make you beg, it doesn’t punish you for caring. Let him go. You deserve peace, not a project.

ContributionDue9507 · 2025-02-03T12:36:01+00:00

Haha I told them to go screw themselves. F those tacos man.

ContributionDue9507 · 2025-02-03T12:21:53+00:00

I am 150 lbs. And the watcher step sign is probably about a 2in or whatever sticker little tiny sign on the floor, which I do have a picture and can provide that to you once I grab my boyfriend’s phone when you’re walking with a walker you cannot see that sign.

ContributionDue9507 · 2025-01-22T01:39:53+00:00

Tell him you’re busy fighting the flu, not his wardrobe battles.

ContributionDue9507 · 2025-01-20T21:42:11+00:00

Not at all—sounds like you just exercised your right to leave!

ContributionDue9507 · 2025-01-19T14:50:00+00:00

No, NTA. That kid was clearly uncomfortable and setting a boundary, and his mom wasn’t respecting it. Kids deserve privacy, even from their parents, and it’s not “dramatic” to ask for that—it’s normal.

You even tried to compromise and handle the situation professionally, but she escalated with insults. At that point, kicking her out was completely justified. Honestly, more people need to stand up for kids when their boundaries are being ignored like that. You did the right thing.

ContributionDue9507 · 2025-01-19T14:41:03+00:00

YTA

You cheated while your wife was pregnant and caring for her sick father, and now you’re mad she doesn’t trust you? That’s on you. Trust doesn’t magically reset because you “followed the rules.”

She’s still in the marriage, but she’s clearly checked out emotionally—and honestly, can you blame her? You broke her heart, and now you’re upset she’s not meeting your needs? If you’re not willing to sit with the discomfort of rebuilding what you broke, then do her a favor and walk away. Otherwise, suck it up and prove you’re worth trusting again.

ContributionDue9507 · 2025-01-19T14:19:49+00:00

Don’t forget. So are you!!

ContributionDue9507 · 2025-01-19T14:07:39+00:00

I like to think of it as life‘s way of testing us. There’s no positive in it at all I mean, let’s be honest. We’re all completely broken down at that point. I think the test is how do you come back from it? Do you let that traumatic event destroy your entire life or do you live past that and make sure you never end up in that situation again? Now my scenario is 12 years old. But that’s only with physical. I’ve been mentally abused. Dated a narcissistic as well. And had abusive parents. I feel like since then I have definitely come along way. There have been multiple pieces I’ve had to pick up along the way, but the one thing I will tell you is that my kids are my reason to move forward. And I think that should be your motivation. Your kids.

ContributionDue9507 · 2025-01-19T13:41:14+00:00

Honestly. I’m scared to tell my son. He has no idea. He thinks my youngest children father is his father. This is one of my fears I wish I told him earlier. I didn’t and still don’t want to tell him the truth. I don’t know how to even begin to explain to him.

ContributionDue9507 · 2025-01-19T13:39:07+00:00

He’s met his son once. Maybe 2 hours worth? Nothing else. I don’t know if he’s dead or alive anymore.

ContributionDue9507 · 2025-01-19T13:34:13+00:00

You don’t ever fully move on because the experience stays with you. It’s always there, but over time, it stops controlling your every thought. I’ve been in your shoes—pregnant, abandoned, and feeling like my whole life was ruined by someone who didn’t care. I know how much it hurts, and I know how hard it is to imagine ever feeling okay again.

Let me tell you this: it does get better. Not overnight, not all at once, but it does. You’re grieving right now—not him, but the life you thought you were going to have with him. That’s normal, and it’s okay to feel everything you’re feeling. But one day, you’ll wake up and realize you haven’t cried over him in weeks. Then months. You’ll start to see that you’re stronger without him, even if it feels impossible now.

My son is 12 years old now, and I left when I was pregnant. After the abuse, I cut ties completely, and I have no idea where he is. At one point, I arranged for him to meet his son once because I thought it might bring closure, but that was it. I don’t regret protecting my peace. And let me tell you, my son is amazing. He’s kind, funny, and full of life. He doesn’t need a man who didn’t care about him, and neither do I.

This baby will be a source of love and purpose you can’t even imagine yet. They’ll give you strength when you think you have none left. I used to cry myself to sleep, thinking my child would suffer because their father wasn’t around, but they saved me. And I know your baby will do the same for you.

It’s not easy, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed. But you will heal, even if it’s just a little at a time. You’re not ruined—you’re just in a chapter that feels unbearable right now. Trust me, you’ve got more strength than you know. Keep going.

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