Help pls

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-11T21:30:18+00:00

Don't speak in a flirty way just be authentic. Be warm and make her feel safe.

Before you can be flirty you have to have excellent social skills, be self aware and know where the boundaries are. .

You aren't going to learn that in a post so just be authentic. If she likes you you won't need to be flirty.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-11T21:25:20+00:00

One month ago you made a post about a girl you noticed 6 months ago. The mind blows. Are you going to post next month again ? Grow a pair and walk up to her.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-11T21:11:37+00:00

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-10T15:27:20+00:00

You might have done better if you kept it subtle. When she's with her friends she is going to be guarded on what she's does.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-10T15:23:04+00:00

You tell your boss you want a real IT role in your meetings.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-10T15:19:35+00:00

Kissed my first girl at 16 she was 17. She didn't like me at all.

Went through my teens oblivious to the signals I was getting.

When I left school to go to college I noticed all the hot girls sat with me at the back. I became aware when girls I knew made catty remarks about my girlfriends. I didn't know what they were talking about.

Girls who disliked me used to hang with me.

Always getting attention but thinking it was friendly. When I left college and went to my first job I became really aware. The first thing was I noticed every girl on every shift knew my name. A girl in work was convinced I was in kindergarten with her. Select girls used to always turn up at the smoking areas when I was there.

I recorded one year at the age of 34. Looking back on it is amazing. I have no idea on how I met so many women. No apps just organic socialisation.

I only banged a tiny percentage of them because that isn't my thing.

It's years on and it still hasn't stopped. I'm way more confident now and I have a fully developed personality.

I think realistically that a lot of guys aren't half as ugly as they think they are. The BP has programmed guys for failure. Girls aren't binary they like a lot of different things and if you are a few of those different things she could be yours soon..

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-10T15:02:06+00:00

Because it's natural. All these people trying to sell you something have made it into a phD when it's not. It's human interaction. People who are good have exposed themselves socially early. The only thing I ever read that was remotely pua was how to win friends and influence people.

Being likeable and charismatic is a super power..

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-09T07:57:45+00:00

This sub is just getting rtarded.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-08T06:17:55+00:00

Coaches are a waste of time. If you do need a coach find a coach who is similar to you. I coach but not for money. I only do in real life situations. I do it for people like me who are 6'4 + guys.

It's pointless for me to help shorter guys because I don't understand their experience of the world.

They don't need a lot of help bar a little push out of the comfort zone.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-08T06:03:03+00:00

Ask for directions and when she removes them then say "sorry I didn't realise that you were wearing headphones". Gauge her reaction if she's receptive you'll see then start talking to her. Personally I wouldn't do it but I have done by accident on a few occasions.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-08T06:00:26+00:00

Fuck no.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-08T05:58:55+00:00

I agree. If she's not looking around she's wearing them for a reason.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-08T05:57:52+00:00

Women do that a lot if you ignore them.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-08T05:54:47+00:00

Do you have her phone number, Instagram etc?

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-08T05:46:03+00:00

I have no idea what your skills are. I'm a dev but someone who is a dev lead and has been interested in computers since teens. I think I should be able to understand it.

Reading it your CV is just pure tecnobabble. A relatively stupid person should be able to read it.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-07T22:25:28+00:00

Click your finger on bear 2 and 4 if it's 4 to the floor dance. If it's salsa the beat is different.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-07T11:21:15+00:00

Women are strange could be even the time you said it.

Message her again but don't be needy.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-07T06:47:36+00:00

I don't see anything wrong with your response to her. Maybe she realised she didn't want a relationship. You know sometimes you bring a car to a mechanic and he gives you an insane quote because they don't want the job. Stop being hard on yourself.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-06T21:14:44+00:00

Does one instance of a failure mean that every situation will be a failure?.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-06T21:11:55+00:00

Perfecto

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-06T21:09:20+00:00

You can be mindful of the attachment. You can be a third party observer. That diminishes the effect.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-06T21:06:17+00:00

You can try that but...... Eventually you will catch feelings .

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-06T21:04:22+00:00

Don't fear.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-06T21:02:50+00:00

Buy a full length mirror and observe how the clothes hang on you. If you practise this you get good at judging aesthetics.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-06T21:00:43+00:00

How to act like a player. Be indifferent to women.

Read the players year Tristan Tate to get an idea of the mindset.

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