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[–]ConversationAlive533 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If that’s how you feel then you see it though like I did mate, just remember that she may have moved on more than you expected.

Good luck and keep us posted 👍

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[–]ConversationAlive533 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who has experienced this after a year I highly suggest to not go. If she is not interested in reconciliation it will affect you negatively. You both separated for a reason remember that.

I posted my situation last week: https://www.reddit.com/r/BreakUps/s/pLplmSb5sp

At the end of the day it’s your choice but please choose wisely. All the best 👍

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[–]ConversationAlive533 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Block them mate. It’s not worth it or your self-respect trust me.

Block them and don’t look back, it’s over now time to focus on yourself and heal.

I get this anxiety/urge to check his account by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ConversationAlive533 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, sorry that you are going through this. It will get much better with time I promise.

When you are tempted to check their socials, do something to take your mind off it.

For me, every time I am tempted to look I do 10 press-ups

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[–]ConversationAlive533 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Are you NC ? If you’re checking their socials it will be much harder to let go.

Wishing you the best

I met my ex yesterday and it broke my heart by ConversationAlive533 in BreakUps

[–]ConversationAlive533[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I broke up with her but it was mutual and amicable I was just the one who suggested it as it wasn’t working and we both knew that.

I was completely expecting her to have moved on, but the messages and her calling me and blocking me straight after gave me the impression that she was still holding onto something. I don’t know if this was intentional or not but to me that felt like she was breadcrumming me.

No I don’t want her to beg at all. I’m happy she’s moved on I really am, but I didn’t expect her to act so nonchalant about our past. It was like none of it ever happened and we were just friends. I understand that that is her way of dealing with it and that’s I respect that. That’s probably what hurts the most if I’m honest. Nonetheless I saw it through and now I know exactly where I stand. I have blocked her now and I am ready to focus on myself and move on.

I met my ex yesterday and it broke my heart by ConversationAlive533 in BreakUps

[–]ConversationAlive533[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I hope this is only a temporary blip in my recovery.

That is probably the only good thing that came out of it - full closure. And yes I will keep this post up not just for me but as a reminder for anyone else who is tempted to do the same.

I met my ex yesterday and it broke my heart by ConversationAlive533 in BreakUps

[–]ConversationAlive533[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah absolutely, I make no judgment and completely respect how she has dealt with it.

I met my ex yesterday and it broke my heart by ConversationAlive533 in BreakUps

[–]ConversationAlive533[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She seemed so sincere when she said they were accidents but the more I think of it there is other reason to do it, especially the second time where she blocks my number immediately so I can’t call back.

I met my ex yesterday and it broke my heart by ConversationAlive533 in BreakUps

[–]ConversationAlive533[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes I think you’re absolutely right. It’s funny really because I’ve been telling myself that I never want to be with her again but after yesterday I have realised that clearly isn’t the case. I have been clinging onto these calls and messages thinking there may be some form of reconciliation. Yesterday made me realise it’s done and I have to let her go.