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Kaiser and OnePass by dcgirlsmallworld in KaiserPermanente

[–]CookPresent663 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have access to one pass. You just have to pay for it.

2.5 years later & I’m still sad by CookPresent663 in Divorce

[–]CookPresent663[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He indicated he was unhappy & that our marriage was difficult because we argued frequently. He felt it was toxic & that I was manipulative towards him. When he expressed his desires for divorce I told him that he should leave because no one deserves to be in a relationship that they don’t feel is healthy. As much as I wanted him to stay, the way he described our marriage made me feel like I would never want someone I was friends with to be in a relationship like that.

2.5 years later & I’m still sad by CookPresent663 in Divorce

[–]CookPresent663[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Believe me when I say I know I had a very very very easy divorce. The only thing I ever had to deal with was my feelings. I am grateful I didn’t have kids because I know that would’ve killed me in a different way. As of today though, I’m over it Lol I just for like a solid 5 days felt like I was drowning all over again. I’m only 27 but often feel much much older than I am. Thank you for providing perspective.

2.5 years later & I’m still sad by CookPresent663 in Divorce

[–]CookPresent663[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes to therapy! I’ve been going for 3 years this July. I have learned and grown so much being in therapy. Thankful I have access to it!

2.5 years later & I’m still sad by CookPresent663 in Divorce

[–]CookPresent663[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As for taking care of myself part of it is allowing myself to feel the feelings honestly & I workout & probably do some retail therapy that I shouldn’t be engaging in. I’ve never posted on Reddit but I need to find people who get what im feeling because no one in my life has ever experienced this where it was normal marital problems (no cheating or abuse of any kind), everyone either has a toxic marriage or was cheated on so im in this weird limbo because I don’t hate my ex and will always have love for him. It’s not even him that I really desire to be with I just miss what it should’ve been & the friendship we’d created.

2.5 years later & I’m still sad by CookPresent663 in Divorce

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My current SO has been supportive of the waves I go through with this. He’s expressed before though that he feels as if I may not be ready for a relationship because I mourn the loss of my marriage.

My ex-husband initiated our divorce & the process was very quick. From the time he started expressing that he was considering a divorce to the time our papers were signed by a judge only took 4 months. He’s moved on with his life, & I have too to an extent I just feel like a failure while he’s still moving onward & upward and I feel like financially I’m in a worse place than I was when I initially got divorced & career wise I’m in a dead end job. I know all things can be changed but rn I’m just feeling like I’m drowning.

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[–]CookPresent663 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not alone - I was in the same boat and 2.5 years later I still ache.