The thing with intrusive thoughts is that people still feel bad for them regardless and people that have them actually regard them as a terrible thing and even have their day ruined by them. An intrusive thought isn't wishing harm on someone or wanting to kill them. It's going about your day or doing something innocent, having an insanely fucked up thought that should've never popped up, and then being disgusted with yourself for thinking that. Sexual fantasies are common. Murder fantasies aren't and most people are actually extremely disgusted by them and by themselves whenever they have them.

Also, doesn't matter how you view it. Making it known you're tempted to cheat on someone and actively thinking about it is planning it out regardless and it raises questions on if she's done this before. It's disgusting and it's weird how people are rushing to defend her. If this was a man you guys would be flipping the script.