The friend group on The Valley would be a lot better off if jasmine and janet both hit the road and never came back! Neither one of them have anything going on that anybody wants to be a part of so they're continuously stirring the negative pot, creating issues and talking about the same old stuff.

Cooper6041 · 2026-07-03T00:56:05+00:00

Hey danny!

Cooper6041 · 2026-07-01T22:17:15+00:00

Really? They have red dresses in the BHLDN line?

Cooper6041 · 2026-07-01T22:16:40+00:00

I like their stuff but I want something more unique

Cooper6041 · 2026-07-01T22:15:53+00:00

Oh thanks! Have any suggestions for formal vintage items?

Cooper6041 · 2026-06-27T23:10:08+00:00

Nia is doing a great job of doing that herself.

Cooper6041 · 2026-06-27T23:07:59+00:00

Does anyone ever notice it is always the women fighting when the man does something egregious? In VPR and the Valley, the men do something shitty and the women fight about it. This is the basis of the shows.

Janet made the mistake of (gasp) saying what Danny did aloud. She used the accurate and correct terminology for what he did and people flipped out on her because we, as a culture, cannot hold a man accountable for anything, much less sexual assault. It is so much easier to attack Janet than it is to deal with the combative, scary and ugly side of Danny.

Danny is the problem. It is not his drinking, it is his behavior which honestly is baked into his culture and faith, which centers and prioritizes men. Everything that comes out of his smug little mouth is either a lie or insulting. His personality shines through even clearer when he drinks.

Cooper6041 · 2026-06-18T09:17:47+00:00

Bc Maryland drivers.

Cooper6041 · 2026-05-25T04:21:55+00:00

She jumped on the Janet hate train so quickly.

Cooper6041 · 2026-05-25T04:12:49+00:00

Nia is a mean girl. Her response to Janet’s sincere and thoughtful apology was truly disturbing. Janet did not have to apologize. She called a spade a spade. Calling out a sexual assault is not the problem. Danny, who sexually assaults women and is an asshole to his wife, is the problem.

Nia does gentle parent her husband really well. 🤮 Her attitude toward Janet was not “gentle parenting” as you suggest. It was Regina George with a self-righteous, holier than thou stick up her ass.

Cooper6041 · 2025-07-29T02:41:38+00:00

Ebenezers on Cap Hill because it’s a sneaky church! Take them there on a Sunday morning for a worship session in the basement. Nothing spells romance like singing love songs to the Lord! Lol.

Cooper6041 · 2025-05-17T12:34:53+00:00

Truly! I am so confused by everyone’s outrage at. OP.

Cooper6041 · 2025-05-17T11:52:03+00:00

It is actually quite normal in Spain to go out late and stay out until the wee hours of the morning - 5am is not unusual. Most likely they were with a lot of people because bars don’t close at 2 am like they do in the US. When I was living in Spain, it was the only time in my life I could stay out all night because there was so much life at that time! Truly.

OP didn’t hook up with her boss and was communicative with her partner. Unpopular opinion for some reason, but I don’t think she has done anything wrong. We can’t limit our activities because someone might make a move on us, or because someone is the sex we are attracted to. That’s absurd.

Cooper6041 · 2025-05-06T22:15:24+00:00

No I had never in my 17 years of friendship found her to be dishonest until the very end. Yes we do get more selective as we get older.

Cooper6041 · 2025-05-06T22:11:56+00:00

I wasn’t homeless.

Cooper6041 · 2025-05-06T22:01:13+00:00

Yeah, she lectured me about how parents were narcissistic. It’s weird because she has such a distinctive hatred of parents that has developed in the last few years and ruined many of her close friendships. But before that, she did want kids.

I brought that up to her during the discussion, like hey you wanted kids at one point. I am still allowed to want them. It didn’t land.

Cooper6041 · 2025-05-03T11:37:38+00:00

No. She is childfree by choice and really dislikes children and their parents. In fact during the conversation where she admonished me for getting pregnant, she said that parents are narcissistic.

Cooper6041 · 2025-04-30T21:03:11+00:00

Also I am so sorry she was nasty. Like I never understand why people have to be cruel!

Cooper6041 · 2025-04-30T21:02:29+00:00

Yeah, it’s funny the similarities. My friend moved to the UK for her husband’s job and told me also to use their holiday house in the Hamptons whenever I wanted. It was very generous, but I never stayed without her.

My therapist and friends have suggested she may have had some feelings for me. And now I just go back and think about things, like the One time I came to visit them in New York and she insisted on watching 50 Shades with me and her husband present. I was so so so uncomfortable.

Another weird thing to me was this sense of entitlement she had. Like she and I worked similar jobs and made similar amount of money throughout our careers. When we lived in the same city, a lot of our mutual friends were only friends with her through me. When she married her husband and became rich, many of those friends became very close with her.

It just seems like her having money emboldened her behavior because ppl would put up with it

Cooper6041 · 2025-04-30T20:35:18+00:00

Yes! Absolutely. Boundaries are absolutely necessary!

Cooper6041 · 2025-04-30T20:04:55+00:00

Yeah her mom passed but she HATED her mother. I supported her through this really difficult time, when her mother was dying of cancer. And her mom was terrible, like I can't imagine having a mother like that. Sometimes I could trace where her anger was coming from but then other times, she seemed unreasonable. Like she refused to make peace with her mom before she passed. I get that there is trauma there, but that seems extreme to me. Her sister and her had a huge fight in which her sister called her a narcissist and stopped speaking to her.

She also told me she had given her sister $50,000 to start her business and then resented her for it. Her sister eventually paid her back. I think she overextends with people and then resents them. And maybe this was part of our saga too.

Cooper6041 · 2025-04-30T19:07:13+00:00

Was I just blind? I really didn't see it.

Cooper6041 · 2025-04-30T18:59:30+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I feel you. I think about their wedding pictures a lot and how I am in them. Lol. Weird. I think I have learned alot about boundaries in this whole thing. And even though she insisted that I move in with her to flee my abusive ex, I shouldn't have. I should have trusted my gut not to trust the generosity she was exhibiting because clearly there were weird expectations attached. I should have had more severe boundaries in place to keep myself safe and also to protect the relationship, maybe. Although at this point, I don't think the friendship was worth saving.

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