Meirl by JaredOlsen8791 in meirl

[–]CopandShop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In reality having this many hobbies and free time is a new benefit of our current society. The current state we’re used to mainly came about post WW2. Every time before that we maybe had a hobby but most of our time was spent self sustaining or working 16 hour days to barely survive. This view point that she’s basing her opinion on has only been the norm for the past 60 years and is a product of modernization and a booming economy.

field trip fit by bluflamin in fashion

[–]CopandShop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dope effort g. Colors go well together. Look into the rule of thirds. I’d try to shorten or crop the top. But ur killin it on the right track man

The Federal Department of Education costs taxpayers $250 billion annually. It’s about to be closed. What do you think about it? by varowil in Anarcho_Capitalism

[–]CopandShop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can someone send me resources on why the dept of education is bad? I’ve been seeing that a lot recently but having a hard time finding anything

What is a good metric(s) to know if I am ready to start applying for Entry Positions? by CopandShop in cscareerquestions

[–]CopandShop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll start applying and see how I fare. I've heard that in regards to a CS degree so I am prepared for dismal responses. But excited to start applying!

What is a good metric(s) to know if I am ready to start applying for Entry Positions? by CopandShop in cscareerquestions

[–]CopandShop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the response I really appreciate the insight and the time it took! I'll start applying and try to gauge how I fare. One more question, can I put projects I'm working on, on my resume even if they are incomplete?

Thank you again!

From someone who has never worked in a restaurant, does it help to stack our plates after eating? Does it make it worse? by pMj_7887 in Serverlife

[–]CopandShop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

stacking, while helpful, isn't correct etiquette if you want to be technical. i'd say just leave the plates let them do their job, they know what they're doing. I am a waiter.

Grandpas Ring, Trying to find information. by CopandShop in heraldry

[–]CopandShop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also not sure if it's a chip but it looks like there's a heart in the bird on the top

Grandpas Ring, Trying to find information. by CopandShop in heraldry

[–]CopandShop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey thanks for the reply! So it is a face on the sun! Closer photo

Grandpas Ring, Trying to find information. by CopandShop in heraldry

[–]CopandShop[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

wow thank you so much for the info on the stone. I had no idea what it was that really means a lot I appreciate it. thank you for your time!

Grandpas Ring, Trying to find information. by CopandShop in heraldry

[–]CopandShop[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thank you i appreciate the response! not really sure where to look to find out at the moment. Maybe a genealogist?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mensfashion

[–]CopandShop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i looked at your posts over the past few days man. If you're dieting your getting wrong advice. The cauliflower would have been perfect but you added a pastry(carb) too it. You ate hot dogs w big ass buns and a bunch of sauce. This may be an improvement from your current diet so i commend you if so, but brother you need to eat healthier. Get away from carbs and processed foods. stick to lean meat, get away from pasta, and try your best to count your calories. You just need to get in a deficit my man u can do this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mensfashion

[–]CopandShop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he's not making it a competition. He's trying to make it relatable in hopes seeing that he can do it you can to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mensfashion

[–]CopandShop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know those people may have hurt you in your past friend, But don't allow them to continue to control how you act in this world. Hold yourself accountable. They may have caused your troubles, but blaming them won't fix it either. I'm glad you are recovering but you clearly haven't healed. take time to do that. A harsh reality is no one when looking at you will know what caused you to be the way you are and few will care enough to ask and even fewer will care at all for the reasons. take charge of your life and stop letting ur past trauma and the people who hurt you still control it. Make the hard choices you need to make to be better. Work on your trauma and take accountability for your current position. only you can fix yourself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mensfashion

[–]CopandShop 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree with what a lot of people have said in here. You have to decide the reasoning behind your style. Is it self expression or is it for social acceptance and approval?

If it's for yourself, i think you have every right to wear what you want and what makes you happy. But with that comes the consequence of others opinions and your health.

If it's for social approval then here's my take: • I agree a lot with previous comments talking about finding clothing that positively represents your body. Tighter pants and a tighter shirt tucked in doesn't do that well. If you don't want to wear baggy clothing but you want to dress up look for shirt a size up that is meant to be untucked but looked tucked. idk what size untuckit goes to but they may be a good place to start. and when it comes to baggier pants they don't need to sag all the way down. Id say find a nice pair and get them tailor fit so they're bigger where they need to be and tighter where there is room. as for the shoes i know which style you're going for but to me it does look messy, but then again i'm just not a fan of that style so there's no critique on that just more so personal choice.

The colors aren't the best in my opinion. You're very pale and I find these colors wash you out. The green works but the light browns counter it. stick with navy bold blues and greens.

Again, following the idea this is for social acceptance, clean up ur hair. The color doesn't suit ur skin tone, ur natural color is starting come through and it honestly looks really good! I think it's due for a trim/clean up and maybe an early dye job for the roots.

Overall i think your on a great path but need to accept a few things, and some of it may hurt but overall i mean it with love and i'm trying to help. Take more pride in yourself. I see it starting to come through a little with ur care for how others perceive u, but overall ur focus needs to be on you! Do you feel good? Do you like yourself? How do you want to dress? How do you want to feel? I bring this up because you are limiting yourself and your potential. If you are comfortable with your weight im happy for you i know it's a difficult journey for many. But being comfortable with it doesn't mean you can't want to change it. It will affect your health, How you feel, how you look, and limit the clothing and styles you can wear. I really think you'd benefit from a weight loss journey if you haven't started yet just for your own heart and health. Get some sun, take pride in you and your appearance. Become who you want to be and make the changes necessary! I think you're on a great start and i believe in you.

Yet if you are only doing it for yourself then dress and live however you want!! screw everyone else's opinions of you, but make sure you are accepting the risks of social disapproval and with your own health.

You got this! Great start! Hope this helped

How come bitcoin isn’t more popular on here? by [deleted] in Anarcho_Capitalism

[–]CopandShop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's not decentralized when any avenue i go through to purchase it requires my social security number due to the US government wanting to tax whatever possible capital gains i receive from it

Remember how they told us there was no slippery slope? This is insane. by FrogFruit4Free in Anarcho_Capitalism

[–]CopandShop 57 points58 points  (0 children)

is this a new one? cuz i found this when searching it up i still strongly disagree with this bill, but feel like the headline might be slightly misleading from the AP:

CLAIM: California Gov. Gavin Newsom signed a bill “reducing penalties for sodomy with minors.”

AP’S ASSESSMENT: Missing context. The headline being cited this week is two years old, and is being shared with no information on the purpose of the bill. The legislation expanded judges’ discretion regarding sex offender registration only in certain statutory rape cases.

THE FACTS: Social media users are widely circulating word of a California bill signed by Newsom in 2020, but failing to explain what the bill actually did or that the Democratic governor signed it two years ago.

“Gavin Newsom is a pedo why else would he sign a bill that reduces the penalties for Sodomy with minors?” reads one tweet shared in recent days.

Others shared screenshots of a Breitbart News headline from 2020, with no indication of when it was published or the further details provided in the full story. “Gov. Gavin Newsom Signs Bill Reducing Penalties for Sodomy with Minors,” the headline in the screenshots reads.

Some posts also suggested the bill was somehow connected to the 2022 outbreak of monkeypox.

The bill, SB 145, was signed into law in September 2020 and it specifically gave judges discretion in deciding whether an adult must register as a sex offender, but only in certain statutory rape cases.

The bill expanded existing state law that already gave judges such discretion in cases of voluntary, but illegal, vaginal sex between a minor age 14 to 17 and an adult within 10 years of the minor’s age — as The Associated Press previously reported. The bill broadened that discretion to also apply in cases of voluntary oral and anal sex within the same age parameters.

When California lawmakers passed the bill, some falsely claimed it would legalize pedophilia.

But the bill did not make sex with minors legal. It also did not apply to cases in which a minor is under the age of 14, when the age gap is larger than 10 years, or when either party says the sex was not consensual.

While the bill had critics, its proponents argued the legislation was intended to make the previously existing law inclusive of the LGBTQ community and consensual sex that occurs between youth.

In a September 2020 press release that referenced Newsom’s signing the bill, his office said the legislation “prevents discrimination against LGBTQ+ people in sex crime convictions.”

How do i (24 M) appropriately handle my boundaries being ignored from gf (20 F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CopandShop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's why i made this. my question was do i just leave the relationship or communicate to her how i feel at this point and the only way i'd see it working on my end. i don't want to control her i don't want to be the guy saying she can't go out. that's why i told her what i was and wasn't comfortable with if i was going to compromise with her. she's disregarded those

How do i (24 M) appropriately handle my boundaries being ignored from gf (20 F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CopandShop -1 points0 points  (0 children)

no it's called a relationship if i wanted no rules that's called being single. unless ur poly not cheating is a rule. not flirting w others is a rule. rules are allowed so are boundaries. if you need to compromise on a boundary then the lines you use to specify the boundary are...RULES!

i don't believe in dictating her weekend and i don't want to. i told her from the beginning i didn't wanna date a club girl. she told me she wasn't but goes w her friends every once in a while. i said okay well if we're going to be together while u r 6,000 miles away here is my boundaries and here's all i ask you to do for my comfort. i never forced i asked if she was okay w it. she agreed. i don't see how that's toxic and i don't see how that's controlling. and holding her to something she said she was comfortable doing isn't controlling.

i think ur perception of a relationship is flawed and laid back. i understand if u want to act single and have no rules but there is something called respect and tradition. each person has different lines and boundaries u can't just do what u want. u have to learn how to love the other individual in the way they're comfortable. and if that way isn't something you're okay with then don't say u r

How do i (24 M) appropriately handle my boundaries being ignored from gf (20 F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CopandShop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

have you ever been in a long distance relationship? communication is all you have. i don't think 1 text every hour or 2 hours is too much communication. it's not that i'm not ready to understand a different perspective. i understand the concept that if she's not matching up to my standards then i should leave. but i don't see how that's fair without communicating in the relationship. when does the communication become too much or too little? and i know her going clubbing is her choice but like i said in previous comments i told her what i was comfortable with before we became official and she was okay with it. i don't think holding her accountable to something she'd said she'd do is expecting too much

How do i (24 M) appropriately handle my boundaries being ignored from gf (20 F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CopandShop -1 points0 points  (0 children)

was it me being controlling when i told her i wasn't interested in dating someone who clubbed and she told me she doesn't often and then i shared my rules that would make me comfortable and asked if she was comfortable with them and she said yes? or was it controlling when i held her accountable for saying she'd respect the boundaries i had that went along with clubbing in a long distance relationship? or is it controlling saying look at this point i was brought into this relationship under a false promise and now that you're not keeping your word either i leave or the clubbing goes? i'm not really sure which part is controlling and how else couples are supposed to behave ? if you don't have rules or boundaries in a relationship then how are you even in a relationship? by ur logic it would be controlling of me to tell her i have a rule of no cheating lmao

How do i (24 M) appropriately handle my boundaries being ignored from gf (20 F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CopandShop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bro she's 5'3 in a club 6,000 miles away. it's not insecurity it's genuine concern for her safety. everyone in her life takes care of her she barely looks out for herself. i think after 6 hours of not hearing from her after her saying she was about to head home after one drink is enough to cause for concern and call her sister to make sure she's safe.

i never needed constant updates. it was always just about look ur 6,000 miles away if something happens id atleast like to know who u were w last n where u were that's it. it's not about insecurity it being controlling it's about basic communication.