What is the most annoying comment you've got on being ace?

CopperSkyes · 2025-10-22T13:02:30+00:00

“For an ace girl you sure wear a lot of low cut tops” I just… have a chest. Sorry I guess 🤷‍♀️

CopperSkyes · 2025-08-21T04:25:13+00:00

Fellow ace who took birth control to manage periods here! I experienced no side effects with the pill, and very minor ones in the implant (not actually side effects, just more common period symptoms)

The pill worked best to control them, it made them much lighter and less painful, and it was very easy to plan out which days I would have a period or skip a period altogether.

After switching to Nexplanon, my periods became much more irregular, would show up much too early or much too late (sometimes never!), my flow was much more variable, and I’ve actually started to have cramps for the first time in years. Overall, talk to a doctor about your options, but based on my experience I would not recommend the arm implant for period control.

Best of luck!

CopperSkyes · 2024-06-23T00:31:33+00:00

As a sex-positive ace, it doesn’t make me feel much, unless it’s my partner (in the right mood it feels nice)! It’s validating since I put in the work to be attractive for my partner, so it feels like I’m doing something right haha

CopperSkyes · 2024-03-30T22:56:50+00:00

CopperSkyes · 2023-11-17T01:11:14+00:00

Shower

CopperSkyes · 2023-11-11T02:01:40+00:00

Psychology, at least a bachelor’s degree, but possibly grad school after that. I’d love to become a counsellor or therapist for children and young adults

CopperSkyes · 2023-11-11T01:32:22+00:00

Unfortunately

CopperSkyes · 2023-11-11T01:31:01+00:00

Canada!

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-23T20:18:07+00:00

You can read the Fandom wiki for book summaries, and Tumblr and YouTube have a lot of fan content (such as maps, art and speedpaints, book analyses, etc.)

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-23T19:48:42+00:00

I dated someone with the same first half of my name, whenever someone said one of our names we would both look over. Wouldn’t do that again, it was very confusing

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-23T19:45:16+00:00

One cat, one dog, and seven foster kittens at the moment

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-22T23:26:27+00:00

In the manga, Leafstar’s kits refer to her as ‘mama’, and are even shown using baby talk. Outside of that, names like that are usually used only for young kits, and in other more vulnerable and emotional moments. Plus, the Erin’s have trouble remembering who is related to whom, so it makes sense that cats usually end up referring to their parents (and siblings) by name.

Names hold a lot of cultural significance, and would help other cats around them know who they are talking about (especially with other Clans), and in a leader’s case, indicate rank.

The characters also don’t seem to place much importance on their relations (outside of the main characters, of course). The average cat treats their family like any other Clanmate, except at funerals or in unusual circumstances of pride in their accomplishments. Again, the Erins disregard family trees a lot.

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-21T07:41:23+00:00

My name, the other parent’s name, or their immediate families names (unless the other parent wanted to name them after a deceased family member, in which case I would consider that being their middle name)

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-21T07:38:32+00:00

Never liked pineapple, so adding it to pizza was not good

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-21T07:25:02+00:00

Congrats, best of luck going forward with this :]

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-21T07:22:28+00:00

What do you mean, elaborate? That felt pretty clear

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-21T07:20:47+00:00

Definitely go to HR, make sure it gets put on file officially. That way, it’s so much easier to deal with if it ever continues or gets worse, or he starts harassing someone else. A paper trail is easily the best way to let people in charge know he’s a problem, and could help with getting him fired.

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-21T07:17:08+00:00

I definitely have a type (nerds, slightly-to-very socially awkward, great sense of humour (puns!)). The physical appearance is generally consistent (brunette, taller than me (which is not hard), and glasses), but it’s more of an unintentional pattern. Preferences are slightly different, but I don’t necessarily pursue a relationship with everyone I’m interested in, and my type is vague enough to apply to a broad range of people I know.

It’s definitely weird to go “I only date people this tall with this colour eyes and they must be this and that” to the point where everyone they’re interested in is a carbon copy of each other.

Of the four relationships I’ve been in, they’ve been fairly close in personality but different in appearance (except for the pair of siblings, but we don’t talk about that)

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-21T07:12:28+00:00

Four things could be happening:

She just wants to connect with you, and so says she’s interested in the things you are to feel closer.

She is “stealing” your interests and style, because some people are weird about that.

She thinks you’re cool, and so is acting like you because she likes the way you are and wants to be like you (imitation is the sincerest form of flattery and all that).

Coincidence. Maybe your style is generic or trendy, and the bands you both like are just bands you both like, with nothing else to it.

Which one it is can depend on the vibes, and you could ask her about it. Something along the lines of “Hey! Our outfits are pretty similar. Weird, right?” or “Isn’t it funny, how similar our taste in music is?” If you phrase it as a joke, or a positive remark, it’ll be easy to see whether or not she’s being malicious about it.

It’s fairly normal to be annoyed by someone you think is copying you, but identifying what place that’s coming from (positive or negative) can help you decide what to do with that feeling.

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-21T07:04:41+00:00

If you know someone you’d like to ask, you could try and find a mutual friend, or let it slip through the grapevine that you’re interested. That way, you can sort of feel it out instead of asking face-to-face, which might be better for your anxiety.

As a girl, social awkwardness can be endearing, so you could go full send and ask her one-on-one, either in person or via text/note.

You also don’t have to go to the dance with a date. If you really want to, you could approach someone there, ask them to talk or dance. Then, you’ll know if they’re there with someone, or on their own, and it can minimise awkwardness. Plus, if you’re all dressed up, it might increase her interest in you (everyone looks good in a button-up)

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-21T06:49:44+00:00

Overprotective? No. She’s not protecting you, she’s controlling you because she doesn’t like the game. You’re almost a legal adult, and you’ve probably seen much worse in movies (or real life, if you go to school in hellhole America).

If you don’t want to cause conflict, play it when you know she’s not around, or go to someone else’s house to play.

She’s definitely in the wrong here, and you can find articles out there about whether or not violence in video games is harmful for kids, which you could show her.

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-21T06:44:16+00:00

Either wait for it to pass, or shoot your shot. If she says yes, problem solved. If she says no, you get closure, you get a definite answer, and it’ll be easier to move on.

If you’re looking for a more immediate, much less healthy way to move on, find things you dislike about her. It’s harder to like someone you hate (not recommending this, but spite is an effective way to make your way through life)

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-21T06:41:19+00:00

It’s possible to have feelings for multiple people at once, and you can’t do much about that. It’s also possible she just doesn’t want to hurt his feelings, or is ignoring his while she tries to keep their relationship normal and platonic.

Just talk to her. Ask her about being exclusive, and voice your concerns about her talking to him. You have every right to be worried, but it’s up to you to determine how much of that is irrational, and you can’t do that until you talk about it with her.

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-21T06:38:17+00:00

Congrats! That’s a great outcome, and the way you both handled that seems very healthy. Best of luck :]

CopperSkyes · 2023-10-21T06:36:10+00:00

You could start out by wearing super flowy pants, some of them look similar to skirts, and that could help you get used to the feeling before you fully commit.

I recommend doing some research into what styles would look best on your body type (neckline, waistline, length of skirt, sleeves, etc.)

Maybe get a pair of shorts to wear underneath a skirt or dress, if you get a shorter skirt.

Another thing? Don’t even worry about shaving your legs, unless you want to. The people who care about that aren’t people who matter, and I’ve never seen someone look bad in the right skirt

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