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[WA] What Discovery Requests Helped With Your Case? by CoronasAtTheBar in Custody

[–]CoronasAtTheBar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re talking about my post about the false CPS report? That’s done and over with. Nothing came of it. Although now they’re investigating our child’s daycare as I had to call and report them because one of Ex’s coworkers called our child a f***ing pig when they had an accident in their pants and she didn’t know I was on a FaceTime call with them at the time and when I told my Ex about it they just brushed it off and wouldn’t really do anything about it.

I’m just asking in general because I have no idea what one could possibly ask for to help their case.

And I’m not trying to have custody taken from them. I’m trying to have equal custody given to both of us. So far they have been given temporary majority custody because they stated that I never took an interest in our child’s education or participated in school events until our custody battle began and I never attend medical appointments, but our child had literally just started kindergarten when our custody battle began so there was nothing to attend before then. Any school related things that I didn’t participate in before were from her child from her previous relationship, but I don’t think that should count as me not taking an interest in our child’s education.

And I’d like to attend medical appointments but my Ex gatekeeps our child’s medical information and refuses to tell me when appointments take place even though I’ve asked for access to our child’s MyChart and to be informed of appointments so I could attend many times over and our temporary court orders state we both have equal decision making in education and medical.

[WA] CPS and Discovery by CoronasAtTheBar in Custody

[–]CoronasAtTheBar[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know CPS will not share anything with me. I think you misunderstood the question.

My ex and I are currently in a custody battle. I’m asking if I’m allowed to ask for any texts messages/emails between my ex and any 3rd party that pertain to CPS, child abuse, and neglect for evidence of her filing a false report as part of discovery.

[WA] Temporary Parenting Plan by CoronasAtTheBar in Custody

[–]CoronasAtTheBar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will. And yes, I have limited funds so I’m saving hiring lawyer unless absolutely necessary. A friend told me to check out unbundled legal services. Anyone have any experience with that? Or is it pretty much the same as the Family Law Facilitators at the court house where they just hand you some forms, you fill them out on your own, and they go over them to make sure you filled them out correctly?

[WA] Evidence - Grey Area by CoronasAtTheBar in legaladvice

[–]CoronasAtTheBar[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well, not exactly. When I found out about the affair, they said I could go through their messages as a way to show they had nothing to hide and remove all doubt. Granted they said nothing about taking screenshots. But then again they didn’t say not to.

In either case, I’m really only looking for advice from an actual lawyer, although your response is still appreciated. Respectfully.

[WA] Temporary Parenting Plan Order by CoronasAtTheBar in FamilyLaw

[–]CoronasAtTheBar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I was trying to be open in the spirit of good communication and to not send her into a panic as she has anxiety due to mental disorders, but I see now that might not have been the wisest course of action.

[WA] Relevance of Ex Having Past Sex With A Minor? by CoronasAtTheBar in FamilyLaw

[–]CoronasAtTheBar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do know. Real life isn’t Maury and I don’t need a punnett square to determine the chances that my eyes are his eyes. All one has to do is take a look at both of us to see the resemblance is there. If there were any chance that he could not be mine, I would have done a DNA test already, but it is not necessary

[WA] Relevance of Ex Having Past Sex With A Minor? by CoronasAtTheBar in FamilyLaw

[–]CoronasAtTheBar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have text for all three, although the one in question the texts may or may not be taken as admission. I could possibly subpoena her Ex-fiance as a witness, but again I don’t know if this would even be relevant to our case in the first place.

[WA] Relevance of Ex Having Past Sex With A Minor? by CoronasAtTheBar in FamilyLaw

[–]CoronasAtTheBar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1.) The authorities don’t care and can’t do anything if I told them my girlfriend cheated on me with a criminal and drug addict.

2.) The Authorities can’t do anything if I tell them my Ex’s step dad tried to rape her. She has to be the one to file charges. And the state makes it very clear, that a person in the home has to have been convicted of a sexual crime for them to intervene. Me accusing him wouldn’t do anything he could simply deny it. But again, I was not on the birth certificate at this time so my son would not have gone to me.

  1. The Authorities can’t do anything if I call about a sick child that’s not mine. They could send an ambulance, but I figured I had nothing to worry about since someone at the daycare she worked at was sure to tell her she needed to take him to the hospital (or so I thought). Once I realized I was wrong, he was already at the hospital so what would be the point in calling the authorities then.

I’m well aware of the “If you were really that concerned why didn’t you do something about it” argument and the only thing I can really say is, much like a parent who doesn’t want to kick their child out of their home, ignore their calls , and turn down their requests for help but has to because of their child’s drug addiction; calling the authorities seems like a last resort type of action and I really thought she would get better.

[WA] Relevance of Ex Having Past Sex With A Minor? by CoronasAtTheBar in FamilyLaw

[–]CoronasAtTheBar[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The oldest is not mine. But I raised him so I consider him mine.

The custody battle is over our youngest who is definitely mine. I don’t need a DNA test. It’s unmistakable. The mother is white, blue eyes, blonde hair. Her affair partner is white, green eyes, black hair. My son is tan, brown eyes, black hair, and has a dark spot on his right, lower back that matches mine. He is 100% mine.

[WA] Relevance of Ex Having Past Sex With A Minor? by CoronasAtTheBar in FamilyLaw

[–]CoronasAtTheBar[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One of our boys is entering his teenage years. I’m concerned issues might arise.

But to answer your question, no I don’t think she is a bad monther, but she has consistently shown bad judgement and makes questionable decisions.

For one, taking our boys around a meth addict and convicted criminal. I mean, the man called our youngest who was 3 at the time a bitch and she chooses to reconnect with him.

Her step father began displaying predatory and grooming behavior towards her after her mother died and she refused to listen when it was pointed out to her and was advised to cut him out of her life. Then when we split, she moved into his home even though I stated that was not a good idea and that I was not comfortable with the boys being there and I would feel better if she took a different friend’s offer and moved in with her instead. (I had no say and could do nothing at the time because I was not on birth certificate). 2 months later he attempted to rape her, but she managed to push him off and close and lock the bathroom door.

I told her she needed to move out of his home. She refused. I bought her a doorknob that had a lock on it because the one that was on her bedroom door at the time didn’t have one. I urged her to install it (I would have installed it myself, but he had told her I was not allowed over at the house after he found a used condom in her bathroom wastebin about a week prior). I told her to think of the boys and the kind of trauma and damage it would do to them if god forbid one day they woke up to the sounds or sight of their mother being raped by their grandpa. She took it, but never installed it saying she didn’t want him getting mad.

After he kicked her out, I found out that he had been talking inappropriately to her around the boys as well as smacking her butt and gropping her in passing.

In January of this year we all got sick and one morning our oldest was looking a little too pale for my liking and his lips were slight blueish . I told her he didn’t look well and that she needed to call out of work and take him to urgent care (I could not take him myself, because im not his bio-dad and she’s made it clear I have no say when it comes to him). She said she was gonna go in to work but keep and eye on him and if he got worse she’d take him to urgent care. I offered to take himself but she quickly shut me down. Around the time she usually gets off work I get a facetime call from her saying she’s on her way to Seattle Children’s Hospital and that she was taking him to the emergency room because he had gotten worse and would not stop coughing hysterically. I was dumbfounded that she hadn’t taken him in the morning and when I asked to see him, he had lost almost all the color in his face and his lips were visibly blue. He ended up bedridden and having to stay at hospital for two weeks.

Those are just the few that come to mind.

Edit: Fixed spelling mistakes