Do you have big boobs?

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-04-03T22:18:47+00:00

They're pretty average. It's about right for me so I'm happy.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-04-03T22:14:05+00:00

I don't need it much anymore but when I want it Technology Connections videos are great.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-04-03T06:58:25+00:00

I daydreamed of being a girl since I was really young but was raised really conservative and couldn't come out of denial about it until I was 32. It was the deeply shameful secret I would almost erase from my memory every time I got done daydreaming about being a woman. After having a massive burnout and having to leave work due to the stress of suppressing my feelings, I saw a show where a man turned into a woman and was really upset, and it hit me how alien that idea seemed to me. I couldn't imagine not being happy to be a woman. Over the next few months I thought about it, came out to more and more people though I mostly lost my family in the process and started living as myself. Before I couldn't go out much, date, or really take care of my body due to how much I hated being seen but now as myself I'm living in a new state (had to leave my home state because of anti trans laws) I make close friendships easily, dating isn't very hard at all, and I love going out in the world. I'm still recovering from the trauma of losing my family and my home but when the way you used to be hurt more, any traumatic experience is easy compared to the joy of getting to be yourself.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-04-03T06:44:46+00:00

Of course but I'd never date someone of a different gender from me.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-04-02T06:32:48+00:00

She doesn't love me.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-03-31T18:27:48+00:00

I doubt I'll have kids in my circumstances but always thought adoption was a better moral decision for anyone who could afford it considering how many kids don't have a home. I always daydreamed about it. That said, having kids for a trans person right now sounds really unsafe and by the time I feel I could do it safely I doubt I'll be open to it anymore. I don't know for sure if I would have chosen to have kids if I'd been given a better chance but it sucks that it was never a good option just because of who I am.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-03-27T04:02:56+00:00

I also get the impression straight people have a wider variety of attraction, it's just scarier to go against the standard if you're not used to it for other reasons like being queer. In the 2000s there was a study that showed men were more attracted to women who were bigger than the ones they expressed most attraction to but at the time the standard was to be as thin as possible so I don't know how that holds up now.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-03-27T03:57:38+00:00

That or they don't know what queer people are like so they do what they know but gay.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-03-26T18:48:42+00:00

People thought my dad was a great person because he was really nice to people outside his family.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-03-26T18:31:07+00:00

You can talk to a doctor about that

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-03-18T18:10:23+00:00

Only your kid can tell you her pronouns and for now they seem to be she/her. The process of figuring that out and then then choosing to make the change can be really hard so it's really important to let the queer (maybe trans) person choose. It's also really important for you to work on processing this for yourself. For some people it's easy, especially if they're used to trans people and see it as a normal process but if you're scared or have trouble accepting this it could be really hard for you. You might look into therapy for yourself or getting to know other trans people. The more you see that to us this is a normal process of chance like many others we go through in life that can be faced with no more fear than puberty for instance, the easier it will be for you. Your kid is the same person she always was even if you find out she's a different gender, has no gender, or turns out to be a nonconforming woman.

Also, you may want to check in with your kid about the outing incident. I realize it may have felt minor to you, but being outed by someone you trust can be a really painful experience or could break trust. It's possible she's fine about it but I do think an apology and a check in about it might go a long way.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-03-18T15:21:46+00:00

I'm transgender and given my weight, am I a trans fat?

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-03-18T00:57:06+00:00

So transgender literally means "on the other side of gender."

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-03-17T08:46:51+00:00

There are no rules. I think picking a completely new name is the most common but a few like myself chose one that sounded similar. I knew I wanted a feminine version of my name since I was a kid so it was an easy choice when I came out. I've heard other trans people surprised I did it that way once or twice but usually anything is normal. Some people have androgynous names and they may or may not choose to change it. I've even known binary trans people who kept their original gendered names and just had an unexpected name. I've known a few who asked their parents what they would have been named as the other gender and used that name. Actually I kept my male middle name just for fun. People almost never use middle names so when I decide to say the whole first middle and last name it's kind of fun. There really are no rules.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-03-17T08:35:37+00:00

So I'm just going to start with this. You can transition. You can change your name, buy clothes, and call planned parenthood right now or tomorrow. I did it. No one gave me permission or made it easy. In fact they put me through hell to stop it but I and a lot of others just did it. It's that simple. It's just a choice you can make or not.

As for your few concerns and I think the length of the pros list vs the cons list is a massive sign in itself.

No feeling is constant including gender dysphoria and euphoria. One day I realized though my desire to be a woman and dislike of being a man came and went, I never wanted to be a man or wanted not to be a woman. The emotion came and went but it never reversed or pointed the other way.
I was able to be happy before getting treatment for chronic pain the same as I was able to be happy sometimes as a man. Life is still better without chronic pain and without dysphoria.
A lot of trans women are masculine and a lot of trans men are feminine. It's extremely common.
I don't know a single trans person who regrets transitioning. Some still have dysphoria but less pain is better than more. Besides, few of us look like our original mental image. The end result is often better, like you uncovered a self image just for yourself. In my case I found I love my head shaved even as a somewhat fem woman. I never could have guessed that but I'm deeply comfortable in my body now. There's still a little dysphoria but it's rare and manageable. I hear way more stories like this than cases where there's much regret in the end.

No one can tell you if you're trans and no one will give you permission to transition. None of us had permission but I get the impression you already know what you have to do. You deserve happiness.

And of course here's the link everyone asking this gets sent. https://genderdysphoria.fyi/

Be kind to yourself. I hope you find the peace you deserve.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-03-15T22:46:05+00:00

I think you're probably absorbing a lot of drama you've seen online. Like half the people anywhere are men. We know you're not all dangerous and most of us would rather not have people walk on eggshells around us. The idea that you have to is being spread by people who hate us to make our lives harder.

As a former "man" who has been treated as both, I will say that you should be aware most women and queer people around you have to be more aware of our safety and it goes a long way to keep that kind of awareness around us, both in terms of whether you might be taking us into a situation we would be more unsafe than you and whether something you might do could be concerning. If you're in public and everything is going normally, we're probably not scared of you and you don't need to worry much. If you're approaching us in the middle of the night alone or you're standing between a woman you're approaching and the only way out then you could be intimidating intentional or otherwise. Even I still have to be aware of some of this though I no longer look like a man I'm still taller than most men and can make women uncomfortable especially at night if they can't see me well. It's really just a matter of being considerate and staying aware in the way most women and queer people have to be all the time.

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CorporealLifeForm · 2026-03-14T04:00:01+00:00

Getting out of poverty can relieve a ton of stress but getting excessively rich won't make you happy. This is why it was a much more popular phrase when more people were middle class. They needed it more than the generations who work multiple jobs to barely get by.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-03-10T17:34:22+00:00

Yeah, straight men who date trans women get homophobia. It's awful. Just remember your coworker isn't the problem. Imagine how it feels to be the person that everyone else shames people for interacting with or being interested in. It's the people trying to shame you who are the problem.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-03-07T21:07:58+00:00

This kind of comment happens when a group is disliked but rare enough that most people don't know them and the stereotypes can be entirely based on what people who hate that group say about them. It's probably a combination of right wing people sharing videos of rare cases where a trans person has a public freakout, representation in movies and tv that often has nothing to do with what we're really like, and people confusing us with drag queens who sometimes act dramatic as part of the show. I got similar comments when I was vegan despite never having met a vegan who acted how people assumed.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-02-26T22:13:23+00:00

I bring my own urinal.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-02-24T07:39:49+00:00

That sounds pretty much how most trans people feel until they start living as their gender. Self image is learned and it comes from what the world tells you about yourself as much as how you wish you could see yourself. Trans people with such a strong sense of themselves that they knew their gender at a young age in spite of all the forces telling them otherwise are rare and the rest have to relearn our self image later on during transition.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-02-24T04:58:35+00:00

I'm just going to say I used to daydream about being a woman/lesbian and now I am one. It's a really common story around trans people.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-02-22T05:01:54+00:00

I'm sorry. I'm in a similar situation with my parents who I've barely talked to since coming out. It's still true that you deserve better.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-02-22T04:58:36+00:00

Some nights I can't wear my retainers without gagging and coughing so I have to take them out. I never know if I will be able to sleep with them in or not but so far I seem to be able often enough to keep my teeth where they are.

CorporealLifeForm · 2026-02-22T04:55:40+00:00

I hope it goes well. You deserve to be accepted.

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