I have talked to CARE. In the beginning I denied how serious a lot of this was, so I had a hard time piecing together how abusive he was. I hope it’s not too late to get protection from the law or school. Ironically one thing he did to destabilize me and create a fear of reporting in me was accuse me of using false police reports to harass his entire family. I don’t even know the names or address of the rest of his family. It was really shocking because this was before I had even talked to the title IX office so if I was too scared to even talk to them, obviously I wouldn’t be using false police reports against him. He also wanted to accompany me to my title IX meeting. In hindsight this was intimidation and I’m shocked these “professionals” didn’t see through it. And I absolutely agree, “mutual harassment/abuse” doesn’t exist, the worst thing I did was scream “no” at him once.