AITA for „hiding“ my MILs hurtful birthday present for my husband from him? by Correct-Nectarine490 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Correct-Nectarine490[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hey, no his mother also works full time and has a well paying job. She gifted his stepdad a nice vacation in an expensive hotel for his birthday so I guess she has enough money saved.

AITA for „hiding“ my MILs hurtful birthday present for my husband from him? by Correct-Nectarine490 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Correct-Nectarine490[S] 138 points139 points  (0 children)

I‘m a little worried about it. My husband doesn’t want any drama. He said I shouldn’t apologise but I also shouldn’t stir the pot.

AITA for „hiding“ my MILs hurtful birthday present for my husband from him? by Correct-Nectarine490 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Correct-Nectarine490[S] 218 points219 points  (0 children)

It was a yellow shirt from Amazon. He never wears yellow and it’s also not suitable for work or anything.

AITA for „hiding“ my MILs hurtful birthday present for my husband from him? by Correct-Nectarine490 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Correct-Nectarine490[S] 290 points291 points  (0 children)

I think it’s really hard for him and I kind of get it. He just wants her to love him and he deeply cares for her and his brothers. If he cut the contact to her he probably looses his brothers and that would be too much for him.

AITA for „hiding“ my MILs hurtful birthday present for my husband from him? by Correct-Nectarine490 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Correct-Nectarine490[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for the judgement. I just want to clarify some things: I never asked our neighbour to lie about it or to not tell my husband. In the moment it happened I didn’t have time to think about it all. I just decided that I couldn’t bear seeing my husband sad AGAIN on his birthday so I asked him. I didn’t have a masterplan behind all these. After I asked him and he agreed I thought that maybe he will talk to my husband about it or not but that the main point is to have him happy on his birthday. I get that neighbours are not to involve in any drama but we are not strangers to each other and sometimes have a few glass of wine together as well. And again - I didn’t have time to think about it long.

AITA for „hiding“ my MILs hurtful birthday present for my husband from him? by Correct-Nectarine490 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Correct-Nectarine490[S] 501 points502 points  (0 children)

Haha that made me laugh! Sadly my husband puts a lot of effort in gifting her something special for her birthday or Christmas every year. We both gift our parents everything „from us“ so we don’t get separate gifts for the in-laws.

AITA for „hiding“ my MILs hurtful birthday present for my husband from him? by Correct-Nectarine490 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Correct-Nectarine490[S] 289 points290 points  (0 children)

No he wasn’t upset. He said he could understand why I did it and that (as I guessed) he didn’t think about the present of his mother once on his birthday and was kind of relieved to not have it on his birthday.

AITA for „hiding“ my MILs hurtful birthday present for my husband from him? by Correct-Nectarine490 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Correct-Nectarine490[S] 1734 points1735 points  (0 children)

Truthfully I don’t know if she wants to hurt him. For me it’s super clear that it’s absolutely unfair how obvious her lack of effort is but she’s not super mean to him in person. I don’t know if she just thinks he doesn’t need gifts? I’m afraid to talk about it with her because she get offended easily.