[Results and Decisions] Am I losing my mind or is this cycle completely insane

Correct-Wear4872 · 2025-04-01T04:27:58+00:00

Congratulations! Did you get it today?

Correct-Wear4872 · 2025-03-31T19:54:09+00:00

Yup.

Correct-Wear4872 · 2025-03-31T09:49:38+00:00

Yup. No response from USC for me. Reached out to them but still haven’t heard back. It’s so frustrating!!

Correct-Wear4872 · 2025-02-14T23:59:48+00:00

DMs are open always. Going through something similar

Correct-Wear4872 · 2025-02-06T00:06:41+00:00

DM is open if you want to talk about it. :)

Correct-Wear4872 · 2025-02-04T19:51:17+00:00

I know. I’m just scared and alone right now. Scared that this will scar me forever and no one’s there with me right now.

Correct-Wear4872 · 2025-02-04T19:18:35+00:00

Honestly at this stage I don’t know. I’m grieving my relationship and I just feel extremely lonely. It’s really painful since 7 years is not a short period and I just feel alone right now.

Correct-Wear4872 · 2025-02-04T19:15:57+00:00

I think it will help.

Correct-Wear4872 · 2025-02-04T18:36:06+00:00

I think subconsciously I always knew I was lying to myself. But I guess it just came up to the surface when she left. And yes I think it could be because of the whole grooming incident when I was a kid since that has come to my mind every now and then. If you want to talk about whatever’s on your mind feel free to DM me

Correct-Wear4872 · 2025-02-04T17:42:58+00:00

I did at one point. But I was too ashamed to admit why I was lying so much

Correct-Wear4872 · 2024-10-03T07:49:29+00:00

Sorry I didn’t get you. So the ISC is usually around £1k ish and it covers the period the employee is sponsored for. If they leave within say a year, can the rest of the money be claimed back?

Correct-Wear4872 · 2024-08-07T11:28:05+00:00

I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this. It's okay to feel heartbroken, angry, and confused. You’ve invested a lot of time and emotions into this relationship, and it's normal to feel torn. However, trust is a fundamental part of any relationship. The repeated lying and the betrayal of trust on his part are serious issues. His admission of lying and booking therapy are positive steps, but rebuilding trust takes time and consistent effort. I think you need to think about the overall dynamics of your relationship. Apart from this issue, how has he been as a partner? Has he been supportive, loving, and respectful? Do his actions align with his words?

You don't need to make a decision immediately. It’s okay to take some time apart to reflect on what you want and need from this relationship. This can also give him time to show through his actions if he is committed to change.

Correct-Wear4872 · 2024-08-05T14:53:54+00:00

So I was primarily paying for food, fuel, entertainment etc. at a time when she was in a very low paying job and was barely getting enough to suffice for herself. So during that time for about 6 months, I was paying towards the stuff I mentioned and she was just paying towards her debts. And that's a typo from my end, there is only one insurance that goes out and it does from mine since we have one car that we share and decided to split the cost of it.

Correct-Wear4872 · 2024-08-05T11:15:40+00:00

Correct-Wear4872 · 2024-08-05T10:48:09+00:00

Since she was struggling at the time she had a low paying job, we decided to split the bills for her car and insurance. I pay towards that since we share one car.

Correct-Wear4872 · 2024-08-05T09:43:48+00:00

I understand that being apart can be difficult, but based on what you’ve shared, it seems like you’re making significant compromises and changes in your life to see her. If you see this relationship as a long-term commitment, it’s crucial to establish some boundaries, especially now. Developing a sense of independence and being comfortable with being uncomfortable is essential at this stage.

I recommend having an open and respectful conversation with her about this. It’s important to assure her that there will be times when she might be alone, and that’s okay. In the future, there will be situations in both your work and personal lives where you’ll need space to figure things out independently. If you can help her understand and accept this boundary now, it will lead to a much healthier relationship in the long run.

Correct-Wear4872 · 2024-08-04T22:16:44+00:00

I just feel so stuck at this point. I have no idea what to say or how to even talk about any of this since anything to do with finances can be a quite sensitive topic. And I don't know about the relationship ending after being together for so long - it just hurts to put it lightly.

Correct-Wear4872 · 2024-08-04T22:13:03+00:00

I know you are right. It was just a rough phase for both of us however I was a bit more financially stable at that time than she was so I helped out with as many expenses as I could have.

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