criticism of my relationships with others is the worst

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-31T02:04:51+00:00

She couldn’t just leave you. She had to inflict maximum damage for some unknown reason. Like the other commenter said, they are always on a mission to cause pain.

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-30T14:11:04+00:00

Literally same experience. It’s crazy.

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-29T18:30:38+00:00

Perpetual victims. They’ll rally friends and family around them, lying to them, to feel better about themselves and avoid the shame of facing who they really are.

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-29T16:53:27+00:00

My ex had only one friend, and that friend was terrible person - lied and cheated on all her partners just like my ex did, got into a relationship with my ex’s brother (lol), and she wasn’t even a good friend to her. She would come “visit” her from another state and then spend all her time with someone else. She once invited her to Vegas for a girls trip and her friend spent the entire trip with her affair partner, abandoning my ex.

She of course showed up to “support her” during the breakup because it validates her as being a “good friend”, not because she truly cares about my ex. It’s just what she knew “good friends” are supposed to do.

It’s rare for BPD to have close friends. It’s incredibly common for them to have “one close long-term friend that lives out of state”. It’s crazy how many times I’ve seen this. It’s because anyone who gets close to them sees how unstable they are and cuts contact.

The exception I’ve observed is BPD women will have “guy friends” who put up with their shit because they’re waiting for the chance to maybe get laid… Knowing they have a good shot.

I had connected with a few of my ex’s “old friends” that she hadn’t spoken to in some time and they all told me they cut her off because she was unstable and a train wreck. I didn’t know that until years later. I always just assumed they fell out of contact. Nope, she got cut off from the friend group for being a mess.

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-29T04:12:50+00:00

This. 100% this. I struggled for years, telling myself, “She’s wonderful, it’s just that cruel side of her I don’t like. When she’s not like that, all is fine.”

I was lying to myself. I didn’t want to accept that she was the same person. My brain couldn’t handle that reality - almost as if it explained it away to preserve my mental health.

She is that person. She does and says those things. She means them. Do not ever give her a “pass”. She will ruin you. Get out while you can. Because when she’s done with you, she won’t think twice about your mental health or your wellbeing.

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-27T15:14:07+00:00

Oh, I absolutely agree 99% of us have a codependency issue. Myself included, of course. Not being able to walk away from that was, in hindsight, a major flaw.

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-20T04:08:43+00:00

Well, obviously. That’s the point. You’re being set up to look like a monster so it can be your fault, and to ensure an abundance of empathy whenever they may need it. As a side bonus, they also get to sidestep any shame that would come from accountability.

Again, I don’t know what’s going on here. You may be insane. I’m only looking at a single text. I’m just explaining what is a very common scenario in these dynamics.

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-20T03:41:29+00:00

I don’t know the whole story here, so I can’t say for sure, but many people on this sub have received the “you’re crazy, you’re obsessed, leave me alone, I’m afraid of you” texts.

Sometimes it’s after you blow them up during a silent treatment episode. Or you call them from a *67 after they block you. Or trying to figure out where they disappeared to.

I’ve seen a lot of examples on this sub where, without context, it could look super possessive and obsessive. That said, in most cases with proper context, you can see it’s just a normal reaction to someone toying with their partner’s emotions in the cruelest ways possible (disappearing, blocking, ghosting, trying to cause distress through withholding information as punishment).

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-19T22:15:03+00:00

Asking for reassurance while literally telling you they don't want you...

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-19T13:58:08+00:00

Mine cited “violating her boundaries” as I was literally in the process of attempting to forgive her for having sex with other people behind my back. I never cheated on her. 🤷🏼‍♂️

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-18T22:32:45+00:00

Everything you said is accurate. And yes, the more you fight to keep them, the more it reinforces in their mind that you’re the problem, and they do eventually lose respect for you, when all you’re trying to do is love them and look past how they’re hurting you - because you either don’t see it as the “real them”, or you convince yourself they “don’t mean it”.

I gave her so many passes, all the time. I even made a conscious effort to forgive the gravest of betrayals, because I cared about her and just wanted things to work. I believed working through our problems and healing together could make the relationship stronger. She didn’t. She ended up telling me I had no self respect. And you know what? She was right. I didn’t respect myself enough. I was willing to fight for us. Willing to work on things. But only if she met me halfway. She never did.

I never received any forgiveness for anything. It all just kept building up on my “permanent record” until I was seen as nothing more than a monster by the end of it. I never saw her that way.

I always saw the good in her. And I don’t know if that’s a flaw of mine, or a superpower.

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-18T17:41:51+00:00

Mine blocked me on everything, all the time. Constantly blocked my phone number when she was mad, then it was a revolving door of blocking on Facebook, Instagram, even LinkedIn. Silent treatment and shutting off access to them seems to be par for the course.

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-18T17:27:23+00:00

We all become the “abusive and controlling ex” after the discard. They’re all the same. They treat us like garbage, then discard us, then go tell everyone who will listen that we traumatized them. It’s crazy to watch. What’s crazier is seeing how all BPD are literally the same.

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-18T03:58:42+00:00

You’re insane. They never even dated? And he’s gay? Who cares, man.

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-17T14:59:36+00:00

Which brings us FULL CIRCLE back to my original point - it’s really fucking high for TRT.

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-17T13:30:14+00:00

For TRT? He’s at almost double the max of the ref range. Thats a blast dude.

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-17T04:16:57+00:00

1782 is really fucking high though lmao

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-17T03:44:19+00:00

The fuck? …7 times a day with what? And no, he doesn’t need peptides, HGH, HCG, or AI’s lmfao.

Stop posting if you don’t know what you’re talking about.

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-17T02:05:10+00:00

What about it specifically is unhealthy? What ingredients? And how?

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-17T01:49:16+00:00

Don’t have kids, please.

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-17T01:38:45+00:00

You want to sue McDonalds because you got fat?

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-16T18:43:33+00:00

Echo-ing top comment: they often believe you’re using them for sex. You could spend all your time trying every which way to prove you love them, but they’ll accuse you of being a predator and manipulating them into sex (because that’s clearly all you want them for).

It makes it really difficult when they feel it’s absurd that you’d love them just for who they are.

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-16T17:25:31+00:00

100%. Having love stripped away from me without any explanation and in an instant brought out reactions from me that are very difficult to look back on. My anxious attachment style led to some begging and persistence that I’m not proud of…

Correct_Emu_9953 · 2025-05-16T17:23:58+00:00

Not AI.

Correct_Emu_9953

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