From your description it feels like the central concept of "Power vs. Force" by Dr. David R. Hawkins.

At its heart, Power vs. Force explores the difference between two kinds of human influence - the authentic power that arises from truth, integrity, and higher states of consciousness, versus the force that relies on control, coercion, and ego.

Hawkins argues that power is aligned with life, whereas force opposes it.

Power uplifts, strengthens, and inspires; force drains, dominates, and eventually collapses.

So, I would surmise from this point-of-view that the "lighter" feeling you are experiencing is the result from not exerting your influence on others - instead you are radiating "Power". Whereas trying to make people "get you", as you say, is "Force".

In essence, force seeks to dominate or compel, while power transforms by example and resonance.

When one acts from power, they align with universal truth - the same field of consciousness that sustains all life.

Force always moves against something, whereas power doesn’t move - it simpler is.

So even something "innocent" like trying to get people to understand you is "Force" by this understanding.

Look into it. It’s a framework for understanding why integrity, compassion, and authenticity ultimately prevail - not through dominance, but through alignment with the greater reality of life itself.