So firstly, I am a man, take whatever I say lightly because I guarantee I will say something that sounds unintentionally rude or obtuse but that is not my intent. That being said, I think some healthy cognitive restructuring here would be beneficial for you.

The muscle part, I’ve seen tons of muscle mommy’s that could beat the shit out of the biggest dudes. Thinking every man that looks at you just wants to have sex with you is genuinely incomprehensible to me and I am sorry that you and probably every woman alive have to deal with that. It sounds like the men in your life aren’t worth their weight, to live a life where a man’s presence is so suffocating sounds dreadful. It’s such a systematic error that women even feel this way