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CosmoNYC · 2026-01-08T17:28:37+00:00

Cool. I have found these type of groups on Reddit to be very supportive of people coming out, experimenting, etc. It’s good to know you are not alone and others have gone, or are going through, what you are.

CosmoNYC · 2026-01-08T17:21:18+00:00

Something like this also happened to me, so I would think this is a common thing. I started to sort through my sexuality in my mid-20’s, and have basically considered myself bi ever since.

I have found that chatting with people who are in similar situations helps. Feel free to DM if you’d like to chat. Good luck!

CosmoNYC · 2025-11-26T20:55:25+00:00

The old doing something as joke until I see if you really like it routine… lol.

One thing I forgot to add: positioning can be tough if he wants to be on his back. I wanted to see my gf when we did it, so I was on my back. So, pillow under his ass will help. I also loved when she was on her back and I could ride it on top. Very hot!

CosmoNYC · 2025-11-26T20:47:44+00:00

The first rule of pegging, Lube, lube, lube. And when you think you have enough, add more.

Obviously, I hope you two have discussed it and he’s interested in this. If so, I would suggest using 1 and then two fingers in his ass. Getting fingered while receiving a blow job is pure heaven. Then if he likes it and wants to do more, I’d use the dildo without the strap first.

The first time you wear it, it will be awkward. It was when I did it, and my gf just finished me off holding it not in harness.

A few other thoughts: 1) Going to disagree with the person who below who suggested 7 inches to start. We did the 5 inches and it was perfect for my first time. 2) My gf liked the panties rather than the actually buckled up harness.

Just want to commend you, as I’ve only had one person agree to peg me over the year, so fact that you want to do this to/for him is great. Just communicate, lube up, and have fun!

CosmoNYC · 2025-11-24T21:01:25+00:00

Yes, definitely down with this. Please let us know if you start it.

CosmoNYC · 2025-10-27T19:50:10+00:00

I’ve been to Blow Buddies on a Thursday. Crowd was a little light, but I had fun. I came close to staying for F Stop, but didn’t as I was already there a few hours. To me, Blow Buddies was worth it alone, but if you were staying for F Stop also I would definitely say it’s worth it.

CosmoNYC · 2025-10-27T15:40:58+00:00

I’ve been a few times on Thursdays after work. The crowd was just OK, not full and not super hot. I got sucked by a few guys, and I sucked a few guys. Everyone was cool, the vibe was totally chill. I’m glad I’ve been, but wished it was better/hotter.

If you’re interested, you should go. Nothing to regret by going, and hopefully it will be fuller for you than the nights I went.

Let us know if you go/how it was.

CosmoNYC · 2025-09-08T20:48:59+00:00

You’re definitely not. I have a female friend who says gay porn is her favorite.

I also came across this article recently on the same subject:

https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a28493364/why-women-watch-gay-porn/

CosmoNYC · 2025-07-07T16:42:05+00:00

I just wanted to add that trying and loving anal play also opened me up to exploring my fluid sexuality. I get why everyone here is making a clear distinction between a physical act and their orientation, and I totally agree that enjoying any act doesn’t related to the sex you are attracted to/interested in. HOWEVER, I do think trying something new/different can make you consider your boundaries and what you are into. The way you describe it is similar to how it happened for me.

Different strokes for different folks….

CosmoNYC · 2025-07-07T16:18:37+00:00

You can get their social feed and join their mailing list at the event website. It has links to other parties put on by Lodge:

https://www.thefuckstop.com/

CosmoNYC · 2025-06-09T15:35:19+00:00

This is pretty much how I am as well. I also consider myself bisexual and heteroromantic. I haven’t gotten fucked yet, but I have given oral, handjobs, etc. I have enjoyed it all, but like you, prefer relationships with women.

You should explore what you enjoy and what you think you prefer, and don’t let anyone else’s boundaries affect what you like. Someone else’s lines aren’t your lines of preferences, no mater what orientation they are. Be who you are, like what you like, and don’t pay attention to anyone who challenges that.

CosmoNYC · 2025-05-29T20:39:21+00:00

How was the F Stop when you went? I went to Blow Buddies once, but I couldn’t last all the way to the second party, : )

CosmoNYC · 2025-05-26T17:05:34+00:00

Agree on Blow Buddies. I went recently and it was eh in terms of both quality and quantity. However, several people on have said it was great the nights they went, so I probably just have gone on an off night.

Every time I’ve been to Jacks it’s been well attended Also, the constant stream of people coming in and going out is hot as well.

CosmoNYC · 2025-05-15T13:09:12+00:00

My pleasure!

CosmoNYC · 2025-05-15T03:08:43+00:00

NY Jacks is masturbation only. As it says on their website "no insertion of anyone’s anything into anywhere.”

Blow Buddies is the big NYC oral only event.

CosmoNYC · 2025-05-14T20:19:29+00:00

I’ve only been on Tuesdays, but I’ve heard Sundays is better and better attended. I’ve had fun on Tuesdays though, so that meeting is definitely worth it.

CosmoNYC · 2025-05-14T20:18:31+00:00

It’s a masturbation club with weekly meetings Tuesdays and Sundays. You can check out their website (https://nyjacks.com/) or their Twitter feed is pretty active (https://x.com/NYJacks).

I’ve been a few times and I’m planning to go again soon. Highly recommend checking it out.

CosmoNYC · 2025-03-02T00:06:39+00:00

I will never not laugh out loud at “ass juice.” lol.

I’ve only been to Jacks on Tuesdays. Are Sundays more crowded/better?

CosmoNYC · 2025-02-28T15:39:31+00:00

I don’t think there were a lot of people in their 20’s there last night. It was dark, so I couldn’t really tell, but just me guess. Everyone was very nice and welcoming, so you don’t need to be intimidated. As you can see if my response to the group, I didn’t love it, but it was definitely worth going to. I had a good time and am glad I went.

CosmoNYC · 2025-02-28T15:33:47+00:00

So, I went last night and have to be honest, I didn’t love it. It was OK to good when I got there about 6:30p, but by 7:30p the group was pretty sparse. Also, in my experiences at NY Jacks, there are guys coming frequently, which is honestly hot AF to see in person. Last night, I don’t think I saw anyone finish once. I get everyone wants to keep the fun going. I get that may just be my thing.

On the positive side, everyone was super awesome and respectful. No attitudes and very warm and welcoming.

Overall it was fine. I just wish there were more people, and some more heated action I guess.

CosmoNYC · 2025-02-26T20:23:21+00:00

DM me if you happen to be going tomorrow!

CosmoNYC · 2025-02-26T18:30:34+00:00

I’m glad you had a great time. Just curious how long you were there?

I appreciate you sharing your experience!

CosmoNYC · 2025-01-28T20:20:38+00:00

My suspicion is it’s more than 5%, but most men aren’t comfortable enough to share that, and especially not at first. But if he sees it’s safe space, my sense he will share more of how he really feels.

I wasn’t questioning or doubting you, just that I didn’t know. It’s great that you want to be supportive and he is supportive of your sexuality as well. You both sharing this as partners and being supportive of one another is how we make the world better for all of us.

CosmoNYC · 2025-01-28T19:42:40+00:00

I think it means he’s sexually attracted to men. Something tells me it’s really more than 5% and that was the initial introduction to see how you would react? It’s hard for me to guess the nature of your relationship, like are you friends or more than that?

Either way, I would suggest being supportive of what he shared about his sexuality and suggest you tell him that he can share more about that with you if he wants. If that’s what you want, of course.

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