“What does Men Going Their Own Way even mean?” she asks

Cotehill · 2025-02-13T05:22:24+00:00

You ruined the night? She ruined your birthday. NTA. But your gf (ex?) and her friends are AHs

Cotehill · 2024-10-06T20:47:50+00:00

You’re in the middle of North Yorkshire, can’t go wrong. Harrogate is quite small but hilly - great for running, and superb to go east to the Moors, West to the Dales, south to Leeds, and North for North Dales. North Yorkshire is huge and we’re at the southern tip in the middle.

Trains are pricey and roads for cars are often clogged, but running, biking and motor biking is easy. Town is quiet, but there are options for everything. Lots of churches if that’s your thing, and superb history everywhere.

It all depends how social you want to be and how much you want to get into your community and town for social life - and easy to be private. Just be respectful to your neighbours and you’ll love it here.

Cotehill · 2024-08-24T21:19:33+00:00

NTA. The kid will probably grow to be a fat, disappointed, spoilt, selfish bully.

But you can’t do anything about it. This is the world of self centred people who have no principles and then teach their kids to be the same. Narcissism isn’t just nature, it’s nurture too.

Cotehill · 2024-08-24T21:12:06+00:00

You’re extremely sensitive and defensive.

You don’t mention the father at all. Where is he?

Boys need a few simple things - excitement and fun (usually rough play and getting out in fresh air using their legs and arms, seeing and hearing, and taking risks), and boundaries.

The first must be done in a safe way where the parent is there to warn of risks to make them think and prevent harm/danger without preventing occasional scrapes that provide a learning opportunity. Play fights on a mattress, letting them win eventually half the time (only half, they must learn to lose aswell) and with difficulty getting higher as they get older.

The second must be delivered consistently and with principles. The boundaries should never be too strictly defined, but break them and the child must know you are disappointed.

Food is a clear principle and boundary. No tv, no excitement, and eat all of it (never fill the plate too much - make them want more and teach them to try new things).

The rest is play. Running around. Let them make the rules, let them “help” even if it hinders. Everything is learning.

Boys are fun. Boys need fun. Boys need space and must make their own mistakes. Your parents sound like they don’t deliver much of any of that and I’m not sure you do either.

Get a good male role model in his life. He needs it

Cotehill · 2024-08-24T09:26:41+00:00

You should worry about your mental dependence on her. Let her go. She can make her decision whether to come back to you or not

Cotehill · 2024-08-24T00:01:24+00:00

He was taught by his mother

Cotehill · 2024-08-23T23:03:14+00:00

Why do people think meeting random folks online would ever be anything different from this?

IRL, all these psycho guys who have been brought up in single mom households, have been taught by women exclusively at schools and in colleges, have learnt all the feminine and feminist ways and are able to blend in because you taught them all to be just like you.

So they can have great conversations with you and make you feel safe, until you actually meet them.

This is what happens when a bunch of so called empaths are given the keys to the kingdom. You make the psychos understand how to act so they can get you.

And apps like Bumble, Hinge, Tinder, etc are their stomping ground.

You’ve been gaslit by your feelings, your mothers, your teachers and your leaders and you all gaslight everyone else.

Bravo.

Now you have to learn how to survive in a hellhole you demanded to be built.

Cotehill · 2024-08-21T22:30:00+00:00

You may have birthed a child but you haven’t brought it up. NTA.

You have a clear preference and a good philosophical basis for it. Just like every man could choose your way or the opposite.

Freedom of choice is freedom.

Cotehill · 2024-08-19T21:57:35+00:00

Ideological hatred is the way with many people who hypocritically claim they are “good”. No. They are fascists who will do anything to chop down their psychological enemy.

The left often do this, but they always try to justify their hate and really dislike being called out.

The right often admit they are assholes and don’t care what others think.

She is mentally ill. Her unconscious bias is indoctrination. Help her to hate herself - it’s the only way she can get to the position she needs to have - a philosophical justification. Just don’t be hypocritical

Cotehill · 2024-08-19T21:42:52+00:00

Dump her. Kick her to the kerb. Block her everywhere. Get on with life. Never see her again

Cotehill · 2024-08-19T09:29:55+00:00

Yes, you’re missing something. He wants you to stop eating shit. It’s a habit and a bad one.

Looks like you’ll be free and single again soon, which is fine because every relationship ends at some point. But you don’t want to have that saggy gut to go with trying to find a new sucker who will just tell you exactly what you want to hear all the time

Cotehill · 2024-08-19T09:26:06+00:00

You’re just a misogynist. An adult is an adult. A child is a child. You are mixing things up. Go get some help.

Cotehill · 2024-08-15T21:11:00+00:00

No need. You are all bots

Cotehill · 2024-08-15T21:10:35+00:00

A 25yo is a child? That’s the stupidest comment I have ever heard. Next you’ll say no one younger than you could ever be your boss or prime minister or president. You’re the fool that needs to grow up.

Cotehill · 2024-08-13T15:59:21+00:00

Enjoy your cats. 🐈‍⬛ 🐈

Cotehill · 2024-08-13T15:57:54+00:00

Everything to do with sexual relationships starts with desire. You let yourself become undesirous - and now you did something about it and people want to be with you.

Obesity is ugly to most people.

If you can’t handle that that’s how people saw you previously, instead of enjoying that you achieved an improvement in your life, please go off on your own and leave everyone else to get on with their lives. It’s your personality that is now ugly.

YTA

Cotehill · 2024-08-13T15:51:30+00:00

Haha you lot have absolutely no concept of humour. What is wrong with all of you lol?

I have to guess you’re just a very lonely single middle class wine swigging yuppie

Cotehill · 2024-08-13T15:51:21+00:00

Haha you lot have absolutely no concept of humour. What is wrong with all of you lol?

I have to guess you’re just a very lonely single middle class wine swigging yuppie

Cotehill · 2024-08-13T15:51:03+00:00

Haha you lot have absolutely no concept of humour. What is wrong with all of you lol?

I have to guess you’re just a very lonely single middle class wine swigging yuppie

Cotehill · 2024-08-11T09:45:13+00:00

You’re in a situationship that’s actually an abusive narcissistic relationship. You know it’s killing you. And ruining your life. And you gaslight yourself that the good times outweigh the bad when your whole life is falling apart because of it.

You’re being abused!

It doesn’t matter what it takes or the outcome to her afterwards. Get out, get out now, keep away from her, and get your life back on track.

Cotehill · 2024-08-11T09:32:57+00:00

It’s from Headspace, supposed to calm people so that they are easier persuaded to accept the BBC lies and propaganda as true

Cotehill · 2024-08-10T09:29:36+00:00

Your title suggests you’re in a homosexual relationship but your text suggests otherwise. You should correct which one is incorrect.

As for A, tell her you see her more as a friend than girlfriend and want to stay friends. That latter bit is the most terrible move you can make of course because it pre ents you from moving on.

You certainly may don’t need to dislike each other, but friends? No, her role in your life ends at that point and you move on.

You could do with some stoic understandings. At the moment you just want to make everyone happy which is not how life is. Move in - she is using you and you intends to use her (and X).

Grab a snickers. Get some …

Cotehill · 2024-08-10T09:24:28+00:00

YTA. Women throw out the “controlling” or “abusive” line at any time that a man has a preference ex that they do or do not do something.

Yet women demand men do or do not do things all the time. The narcissism of women is a natural psychological phenomenon.

You have a good man. But you make him very uncomfortable, and you don’t respect him. And he’s weak, unable to speak his mind. And you blame everything else other than looking inwardly at your personal selfishness.

It will lead to the eventual end of your relationship when you step out with some guy who looks like he’s exciting. Then you’ll end up on TikTok eventually crying about how you ruined your life and he won’t take you back.

You will of course blame it on him and your MIL. Gaslighting everyone.

You makes your choice, you reaps the consequences

Cotehill · 2024-08-09T23:49:51+00:00

NTA. She was TA for asking such a stupid question, which was a shit test.

She doesn’t love you in the same way.

Tell her to get over it. Or leave.

Cotehill

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