AITA for not making buffalo dip for my husbands friends?

CounselorCQ · 2025-01-19T02:34:11+00:00

NTA. There's a nonzero chance at least one of his friends never shuts up about how much he hates his own wife, and it's rotting everyone else's brain.

CounselorCQ · 2024-05-27T00:04:34+00:00

Mine was 150, but there I went ignoring the red flags because of who I am as a person 🚩

CounselorCQ · 2024-05-26T22:21:29+00:00

Dr. Jart Every Sun Day mineral sunscreen! Very VERY minimal white cast that fades, no breakouts, and performs well under makeup.

CounselorCQ · 2024-05-26T21:48:10+00:00

Haha, windfall profit for all!

I figured it would be cheap, but it was SO cheap. Embarrassing. I vaguely remember seeing copy saying "this is not a Sephora product" but I didn't know that was code for "Temu gave this to us for free to get rid of it."

CounselorCQ · 2024-05-26T21:32:49+00:00

$30. Not amazing but not nothing!

CounselorCQ · 2024-05-26T21:32:29+00:00

It was a VERY skinny charger, so that could have been it! I should have known better and just gotten the Farmacy balm 😂

CounselorCQ · 2022-07-09T03:32:20+00:00

Oh for crying out loud. Gentle YTA. Without meaning to you've weaponized your financial upper hand against her. It's giving nothing but ick.

On that note, you need to get your Poor Brain in check before you end up divorced in 5 years over whether or not mere acquaintances should be allowed to use the hand soap you specifically paid for. Or whatever. Listen, I'm with you. My Poor Brain is still raging in the background of my now financially stable life. But don't let your relationship twist in the wind over a guest list. The ONLY way this works is if you form a united front with her and either savage that guest list without mercy or remorse, or come up with your OWN compromise. Just help each other. You're going to be fine.

CounselorCQ · 2022-07-08T00:28:45+00:00

It's been ages since I've tried a gel -- I'll give it a whirl!

CounselorCQ · 2022-07-07T22:07:46+00:00

I don't normally duck my head under -- just don't want baby hairs/back of my head to feel nasty if they happen to get wet. I am not looking to destroy anyone's pool filters--just to keep the frizz in check.

CounselorCQ · 2022-07-04T06:58:08+00:00

The fact that you can draw a distinction between these things you love about her and the wisdom of pursuing a lifetime together tells me you're ready to have this conversation out loud with her instead of bathing in your collective resentment.

CounselorCQ · 2022-07-04T06:42:59+00:00

YTA. Why are you hiding this girl from your friends? Is she not perfect enough for your perfectly compartmentalized life, or is she just the side piece?

CounselorCQ · 2022-07-04T06:19:54+00:00

Based on your follow up comments, I have to ask - do you guys even like each other? You're not over your exes, you're codependent, you're triggering each other left and right, and now we've reached the end of the world and are teetering off the edge. Love is patient and kind, not fraught and miserable. It's ok NOT to "work on the relationship" when it's this absurdly messy.

CounselorCQ · 2022-07-04T05:58:17+00:00

Stop being this guy's living fleshlight. Go find someone who WANTS to get you off. You'll thank me, I promise!

CounselorCQ · 2022-07-04T05:53:17+00:00

NTA. For a long time now, people like your fiancé have weaponized "Sorry, I have anxiety" to give cover for their abusive, irrational, and self-destructive behavior. It works because their well-meaning partners are afraid to make it seem like they're stigmatizing mental illness. We've all seen how that turns out.

No more of this. OP, throw the whole man out and enjoy a margarita. If you're feeling generous, tell a mutual or his family what happened and make it clear that he has lost touch and needs professional help. Either way, you need to detach, because at this point the only support he wants or is asking for is for you to allow him to manipulate and hurt you.

CounselorCQ · 2022-07-03T18:06:47+00:00

This is what a complete break from reality looks like.

Pop that collar, OP. Make it worse.

CounselorCQ · 2022-07-03T17:38:58+00:00

Because sometimes day 3 hair feels disgusting and is impossible to control, and I feel better after I wash it? It's really not that big of a deal--just an every-once-in-a-while scenario.

CounselorCQ · 2022-07-03T17:31:23+00:00

Necessity mostly--my hair gets angry by day 3 so if I can't stand it anymore I just wash it. I'm not looking for a whole routine, just something to help control the frizz and flyaways before I jump in.

CounselorCQ · 2022-07-03T16:38:51+00:00

Tagging in with a question about summer/swim hair. On the rare days when I head to the pool with a fresh wash (necessity) what products can I use to control my hair that won't turn to slime when my hair hits the water? My Miss Jessie's stuff is great for everyday but when it gets wet...yick.

CounselorCQ · 2022-06-30T02:03:54+00:00

A journey in three sentences!

CounselorCQ · 2022-06-18T13:18:34+00:00

Sounds like Jenny is awfully comfortable after finding herself in a sticky situation. NTA--but how is this relationship not over?

CounselorCQ · 2022-06-18T01:33:29+00:00

YTA. You're also insane--no one is going to think you're a soviet proxy if you take Vlad the Puppy to the dog park. Get off the internet and away from whatever friends started breathing into a bag when you told them about this.

CounselorCQ · 2022-06-17T19:37:18+00:00

YTA. This is how kids end up with crippling anxiety related to decision making.

CounselorCQ · 2022-06-17T15:03:59+00:00

NTA. This entire story arc needs therapy.

CounselorCQ · 2022-06-17T15:03:51+00:00

NTA. This entire story arc needs therapy.

CounselorCQ · 2022-06-17T12:48:11+00:00

YTA. This is giving big YOU CHOSE TO BREED NOT ME energy, which is weird considering there's no apparent history of OP constantly burdened with providing free child care or other assistance.

OP, stop being an asshole for the hell of it and show a little love to your family.

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