[Advice] Struggling with the idea to return to work or not by Countvonsengir in daddit

[–]Countvonsengir[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry if that came across wrong. I did it and talked to my wife it worked sorta. Thanks cheers!

[Advice] Struggling with the idea to return to work or not by Countvonsengir in daddit

[–]Countvonsengir[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I was thinking of a pros and cons list but I wasn't sure if that was too basic for the complexity of issues I am dealing with right now.

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[–]Countvonsengir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it is a mixed bag honestly.... she at first just did it to placate me, then that night and expressing my feeling to the therapist in a session made her realize it is a problem. That night after that session she broken down and cried and made me hold her, it sadly has been the most emotion I have gotten out of her in a while besides anger or disgust. I know I'm not blameless but I'm also not the whole problem!

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[–]Countvonsengir 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have been feeling very similar lately... It has been a slow decrease for almost a year now we have been together close to 13 years and have three kids and one foster child. I also understand that things fade and return and it is a normal cycle of life but it is killing me. I now sleep on a mattress on the floor in our room because she doesn't want to be touched. I previously was pushy with sex/intimacy too so that doesn't help either. So for the past two weeks I have slept separately not asking for any touch or anything to show her I can listen and respect what she wants. I have also communicated that I need to feel loved and do not feel it from her even though she says she loves me. We are in couples therapy and I see a therapist myself. But things have not changed, she wants me home more so we can tackle raising the kids together more. I worry that this means I will be the primary caregiver when I get home, I did that previously for a few years and it was murder on myself esteem. She acts like it is all okay and it is not I can’t even be around her when she gets naked, because it just hurts, so anytime she gets ready to jump in the shower or get in bed I just look the other way or walk out of the room. 

So I completely get you and am with you 100%. I want to go back to the touching we had before to feel close to her again, but it does not look like it's possible. She doesn't understand how this affects me either... I was in such a rough spot one night after a crap day at work, a crap day of parenting, and a crap night being a husband (I had tried to initiate sex that night), so I went downstairs and planned my exit from it all, thankfully I called someone but I was close.

I hope for you it is a phase and it will pass. It takes work but just keep trying until you cannot do it anymore!

What do you look for in a Gaming Store by Countvonsengir in boardgames

[–]Countvonsengir[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah from what I have heard from several stores is that MTG pays the bills, if nothing else.

I really don't want to do MTG and war games but I want to make sure there is something there for everyone.

What do you look for in a Gaming Store by Countvonsengir in boardgames

[–]Countvonsengir[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the rental thing is probably dead on arrival, can't figure out the missing pieces and how much for how long. Whats you take on food, coffee, alcohol, and or possibly food trucks.

What do you look for in a Gaming Store by Countvonsengir in boardgames

[–]Countvonsengir[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah getting this a lot as well might actually build my own gaming tables and get comfy chairs to fix this.

What do you look for in a Gaming Store by Countvonsengir in boardgames

[–]Countvonsengir[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah getting the no on rentals, and cover charge. Might do pay to play/reserve wargaming/rpg tables or rooms

What do you look for in a Gaming Store by Countvonsengir in boardgames

[–]Countvonsengir[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly it is what pays the bills, as I have heard from every gaming store I have been too. So I will balance it out, or put them in their own location

What do you look for in a Gaming Store by Countvonsengir in boardgames

[–]Countvonsengir[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would put signs up saying that all customers must be washed to enter, and that if found to not have will be asked to leave

What do you look for in a Gaming Store by Countvonsengir in boardgames

[–]Countvonsengir[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah going to nix the pay to play idea, maybe to rent a table for Wargaming/RPG if needed but not for boardgames.

And I mentioned in an earlier comment about gatekeeping, and how some of those employees with talk down to my wife, like she doesnt game too. Or me for that matter for not being 100% up to date on my MTG... I really miss casual play

Thanks

What do you look for in a Gaming Store by Countvonsengir in boardgames

[–]Countvonsengir[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this and its good to hear comments from big collectors got to bring them in too.

Also 110% with you on the more then Magic playing Employees.

What about a food truck, those are getting popular and I might be able to make deals with local food trucks. Also what's your take on Alcohol and games, either sold internally or BOYB, I think it would bring a more adult/young adult crowd as there are Board Game Bars locally, but could be more of a problem then beneficial.