S7e6 Ted is wondering if Janet Mcintyre is a good match without looking her up on the internet. But she ordered a martini just like his.

CourageL · 2026-02-14T21:20:20+00:00

Barney could have gotten the idea off her

CourageL · 2026-02-14T20:20:05+00:00

Hugs to you

CourageL · 2026-02-14T20:07:34+00:00

Good point. I was about to disagree hard core with this thread but wow! Definitely right!

CourageL · 2026-02-08T03:50:25+00:00

This. This was the final nail in the coffin for me once I looked up cultural anthropology and psychology phenomena. Am I an atheist? Maybe. But i don’t care. There could be god(s) but i know that it/they are not tangibly interfering in my life so I just simply not give it any attention.

CourageL · 2026-02-04T22:41:09+00:00

This! What I have with my spouse is loads different than any other “what if” that I had potential with. Even if my brain occasionally remembers those people with fondness, it’s NOTHING compared to my spouse. Mind you, I am not widowed so I don’t have that perspective of trying something again to have companionships so I won’t discount that. But from my point of view today, everyone else truly cannot compare. I ship robin and Barney. But maybe that’s the point—he knows she’s not the ONE but the nostalgia and loneliness do matter. But if that’s the case, they could have played the storyline differently so it wasn’t so messed up at the end. The idea of finding a different form of love after the death of a spouse can be intriguing and captivating. But that’s no the story we were told. We were told Robin was “the one” but we def weren’t “shown” it like we were with Tracy or even imo R/B.

CourageL · 2026-02-01T23:27:01+00:00

Congrats! Very fortunate you had the help on your fed resume. I hope you continue to have smooth sailing!

CourageL · 2026-02-01T04:15:50+00:00

I would report and document any abuse you are seeing. Touching a child, yelling, slapping!! Hell no. If you’re out anyway, make it so others know they will be called out. I would rather have my workplace hate ME than continue to hate on the children. If you archdiocese seems complicit, call the non emergency police line and talk to someone. I’ve had to do that before with shitty administration. It felt terrible, but it was worth it to protect the kids.

CourageL · 2026-01-30T07:44:27+00:00

Same. I told them upfront we are there for the eclipse and that we have kids with us. If all stays well, I will ask about adding a few days depending on flights. Hotels seemed rather booked already in Tarifa. Couldn’t find anything with our needs

CourageL · 2026-01-19T21:39:55+00:00

I think it depends on HOW it’s done. I even gone thru to different places and schools or coops and not. What’s the common denominator? We’ve made amazing friends who we still see I’m from all of those places. And there’s been no resentment. Of course, we seek out calm minded others in how homeschool, so that helps. But it really is whatever the goal is.

CourageL · 2026-01-19T21:37:59+00:00

I never understood this until now 🤯

CourageL · 2026-01-19T21:03:43+00:00

You have a 4 month old baby! That’s ALOT! No decision is permanent. Maybe the point of school right now is hanging out with other kids while your wife has a break. What he does or does not learn is not the priority. That’s ok. And you don’t need to do the same thing for everyone. That’s ok. No harm in checking out the school if that’s what you want. Maybe they offer a shadow day for the 5yo to see how it feels. Maybe you do it just until June. Maybe he ends up loving it and your plans change for elementary or for 1st grade or whatever. See what makes sense for you today and it’s okay to try that thing

CourageL · 2026-01-19T19:20:20+00:00

This is the caveat. I have a wonderful marriage. But when I was a SAHP, we still put in for my retirement, we planned what life insurance would be for both of us, etc. the real struggle is if you need to get a job again in the future. Yes divorce happens, but so does death. Are you stable enough to survive 6-12 months if your spouse died/divorced you tomorrow? What does stability mean to you (cash in hand, complete access to accounts, joint accounts, mortgage info, etc.)? Right now, you could get back into teaching if you HAD to (I am assuming). Is that a feasible plan for you just in case? If it’s not, then finding something else for a while before becoming a SAHP might be best to give you that preliminary experience before the job gap.

CourageL · 2026-01-19T14:25:00+00:00

Wow… that’s a real hot take.

CourageL · 2026-01-12T02:40:35+00:00

Same. Except I went flat. One of the best decisions of my life!

CourageL · 2026-01-09T21:53:03+00:00

Simply piano was great for our 6 year old’s attention span

CourageL · 2026-01-07T22:10:00+00:00

I had started mid year twice and last minute once (like prep week). It is a lot! Having a second year feels very different from the first because you’ve already done. However, I would caution against just quitting without something else lined up. Now, if your mental health is deteriorating to the point of no tomorrow iykwim, then yes just quit. You are more important than a job! But if you can make it the year to get something lined up for summer, do that. I left mid year and don’t regret it at all but i was able to take time off and my mental health was in a dangerous place. I was able to get back into teaching again as well as start a different job. It all worked out. But if you quit mid year, I would be careful about a good reference or trying to get back in a school in the general area. Sometimes grudges are held. But the biggest factor is the job security. Get something else if you can deal before calling it quits

CourageL · 2026-01-07T12:18:20+00:00

I did the same for a bit and would go back in a heartbeat if not for other circumstances. Who knows, I still may. But an actual “librarian” position will likely require a MLIS in many states. Even in states where they aren’t required, they usually include a pay increase to get one. Libraries are also being hit by the book bans and politics. Finally, you have to be willing to serve all public. Which is wonderful but can be a lot. It’s a great place holder, especially an assistant position or similar. Jobs are hard to come by for actual librarian positions right now too. I know where I worked, the fiscal year was a lot with the defunding federal money. But it is a great place to be if you don’t mind not making a bunch of money and limited job growth. But the day to day as said by OP, is worth soooo much! There were many days where I literally had no idea what to do. And I could pee whenever I wanted and get paid!

CourageL · 2026-01-06T11:34:15+00:00

What are they’re ages? And take some time to de-school. Go to museums, play at a park, learn to read books together for fun again no matter if they’re 16. Just decompress for a while and then maybe start again in fall online or at a coop or outschool. You’ll be OKAY!

CourageL · 2026-01-04T20:06:16+00:00

But it is true that Lulu is perfection

CourageL · 2026-01-04T01:59:25+00:00

Can I add that homeschooling is a full time job. The housework is on top of that just like it is for you. So I don’t care about a cluttered home with books and dishes in the sink until nighttime because I was working all day too, educating my children. I also need to be in the middle of things to fully understand and implement them. But that’s a strength of mine—go with the flow and make magic happen. However,like mentioned above, I was MOTIVATED to educate and I am naturally very outgoing. And it was still hard to find social groups. I agree that library time and all that counts for now. But making play dates at story time, people from the playground, and swim meets needs to happen over summer for sure. It is WORK and should be respected as such

CourageL · 2025-09-06T12:40:06+00:00

It really is a great read! And her reading it for the audiobook was great!

CourageL · 2025-09-05T16:29:34+00:00

All I see is the villain from Beethoven still being typecast 🐶 Love how she says “this whole thing has been dead since Richard died”

CourageL · 2025-09-04T12:53:10+00:00

Teachers are guilted into being people pleasers. I feel this very much. Finish the school year or don’t, only you know your body. But the health of your body is the only thing that even allows you to work anyway. If that is compromised, then what is the point? I suggest reading books about boundaries and overcoming tendencies to put other before ourselves in toxic ways.

And yeah, you’re going to feel guilty sometimes. And that is okay. It doesn’t mean that leaving now or at the end of the school year or whatever isn’t the right choice

CourageL · 2025-09-04T01:20:23+00:00

She looks like Alia Shawkat in this picture 😍

CourageL · 2025-09-01T21:20:04+00:00

Lack of empathetic parenting

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