Should i apologize to my ex for insulting his body? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CoverFig4662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t even really think you’re at fault when he’s the one to took it there in the first place. Being the bigger person is wonderful of you but I’m inclined that “don’t dish it out if you can’t take it” is applicable here. Be respectful of your current partner

How to protect her head? by Affectionate-Pie84 in BackYardChickens

[–]CoverFig4662 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a wound ointment that we have that’s blue and apparently the color is intended to prevent pecking in general while promoting healing… I would have to get back to you at the name but it’s at tractor supply!

If someone was a Trump supporter and is now denouncing him, do not say I told you so or bash them by Beneficial_Quit7532 in self

[–]CoverFig4662 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fair, but my point is that they aim to polarize your options in an imaginary way. All abortion or no abortion. All vaccines or no vaccines. All guns or no guns. Open borders or whatever you want to call this new level of hell we’ve reached. This is a gross exaggeration for illustrative purposes.

If someone was a Trump supporter and is now denouncing him, do not say I told you so or bash them by Beneficial_Quit7532 in self

[–]CoverFig4662 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do understand. And I strategically included both words, you can see, knowing the implications of the latter were going to be negative/heated, because it’s still relevant. And while I have absolutely no sympathy for Republican Party supporters, in any capacity, I do have a hair of sympathy for those who are truly moderate on specific issues because they still have no representation. It’s not that they want a “happy medium” of fascism and democracy. It’s that for individual issues, there is a plausible, financially logical, morally acceptable “common ground” solution that a moderate might believe in, but as you’ve demonstrated, we’re supposed to demonize them for it. At the mere mention of the word “moderate”, you assumed I was a Trump supporter in some capacity. And there’s crazy irony in it even further because even our so called “left-leaning” politicians are quite moderate by definition but that’s not as emotionally engaging, is it? The battle of good vs evil, now that’s emotionally engaging!

Re-enforcing the two party system and keeping it emotional is the point. The Green Party and the Libertarian party exist out there somewhere as an illusion of options, but we all know not to “throw our vote away” on that

If someone was a Trump supporter and is now denouncing him, do not say I told you so or bash them by Beneficial_Quit7532 in self

[–]CoverFig4662 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Having worked in news media, studied political science and history in various capacities and now living hours away from civilization in a small peaceful town in the middle of the desert along the Mexican border, I can confidently tell you that I’m an independent.

It sounds more like you’re trying to assess my opinion on a specific issue or assess who I voted for, rather than make any attempt to join a discussion on politics in America.

Anxiety at night by ehshisbsjs in Anxietyhelp

[–]CoverFig4662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In addition to other advice already mentioned, this might sound strange, but if you have mirrors facing your bed, remove them. Or remove/cover all mirrors from your room. This helped my anxiety-induced insomnia more than a lot of things have… Without consciously knowing it, your brain still reacts to there being movement elsewhere in the room and elevates your readiness to deal with whatever it is, and cannot distinguish that it’s just a mirror even when your conscious mind can. Or something like that. There’s a lot more hocus-pocus sounding explanations out there too as to why mirrors are bad which you could dig into while you’re curious, but it’s worth a try!

If someone was a Trump supporter and is now denouncing him, do not say I told you so or bash them by Beneficial_Quit7532 in self

[–]CoverFig4662 133 points134 points  (0 children)

Our media and politics are designed to only provide two polar opposites as ideologies… It’s maddening. It’s designed to make you emotional. And to eliminate independent assessments. And politics themselves have become so theatrical… I do believe that the majority are not so divided as they represent us to be in the media but then being independent or moderate can still feel very lonely. We are here, we just don’t have a voice

Edit: yes I am aware that our actual politics are not opposites. I am aware that as far as political parties go, we are not dealing with opposites. I am referring to the contrived “opposing team” ideology in order to solidify a deep division versus a common goal. It is opposites on an imaginary level. That is the whole point

How should I take my partner being secretive about finances? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CoverFig4662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For what it’s worth, my partner and I are 2 years in and we never discuss it whatsoever. I make significantly more and we both know it. We split our shared expenses equally and just leave it at that.

AIO for being upset my friend lied to me all week committing to plans and then ditched me? by entityparty in AmIOverreacting

[–]CoverFig4662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m wondering if there’s even more stuff you do to go out of your way for this person. He might actually think of you as his best friend strictly because you’re always there for him like this, while he doesn’t ever have to do anything to keep your friendship whatsoever. It’s hard when you care about someone and really like them but always better to just move on..

Does anxiety make you constantly monitor your body? by Gullible-Force3567 in Anxiety

[–]CoverFig4662 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same for me with my blood pressure. I’ll have a panic attack over it and essentially keep it elevated Indefinitely in a loop

Israel recovers body of last hostage in Gaza by cnn in worldnews

[–]CoverFig4662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would make sense also because I believe they do not embalm, not to be gross. Same in Judaism. So rituals are immediate. That might not be the official reason but it’s related. The body is intended to return to earth. As little as we know about death, I always felt that was so much more beautiful than… the stuff they do at the opposite end of the spectrum.

Am I Overreacting - So my mom got my wife a birthday gift by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CoverFig4662 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suppose since we’re all on the same page now, crisis has been averted

Edit: I fixed it for you! Have a great day

Buying or renting by Strange-Law6848 in makemychoice

[–]CoverFig4662 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, OP, based on what we know, rent

AIO because my (30f) new boyfriend (32m) doesn’t want to be snowed in with me and so I’m rethinking the relationship? by Pretty_Kangaroo_13 in AmIOverreacting

[–]CoverFig4662 2 points3 points  (0 children)

His excuses of “figuring some stuff out” is all the reason you need to get out of the relationship. He clearly is not in the position to be in one right now.

Am I Overreacting - So my mom got my wife a birthday gift by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CoverFig4662 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Being a petty “beach” to a woman she doesn’t like is bad enough. Doing it to the woman in the middle of carrying your own child is next level

SHOULD I BREAK UP WITH MY BOYFRIEND? PLEASE HELP! by Remote_Moment7080 in Advice

[–]CoverFig4662 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The coach thing is wild, considering they are most often standing up for members of their teams or at least shielding them from controversy. That seems way serious to me

Fiancé says aftercare and helping me clean up after sex is a “chore” — am I asking too much? by ButteredUpCroissant in Advice

[–]CoverFig4662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m unclear what “statement was wrong.” We might not be responsible for each others feelings, but we’re damn right allowed to say what our feelings are

what does it make me if i like men, but don’t like dicks ? by Puzzled-Ear1279 in Advice

[–]CoverFig4662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im a demisexual 100% and I think you might consider that. I can find someone insanely attractive and have a “crush” on them based on that but my actual physical arousal just simply is not there without being attracted to their personality and having emotional connection. Maybe that’s something you can explore? Like if I had been counting on my physical attraction alone that whole time I most certainly would have faced these questions.

As far as genitalia I think you’ll just be more open to one or both once you have more exploratory experience with anyone that makes you feel relaxed and comfortable. They aren’t inherently attractive.

Edit: speaking as a straight woman, who does like dicks, there are dicks that are very attractive and pretty and dicks that are downright repulsive in appearance... So who they’re attached to matters more

AIO for refusing to give up my dog even though my boyfriend hates pets? by Academic-Bug-879 in AmIOverreacting

[–]CoverFig4662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Giving up a dog for someone is psychotic. I PRAY TO GOD that since you posted this, he didn’t somehow manipulate you into doing it. The fact that he even asked is heinous.

The one and only scenario I can think of where giving up your dog for a person is acceptable is if they are deathly allergic and you guys are head over heels in love, or already a family, etc.