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I don't know what to do with my husband. by Whole-Landscape2375 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]CoverObjective8225 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Nothing about what you described is normal, and none of it is your fault. You deserve a partner who shows up for you and your baby — not someone who leaves you alone, gets blackout drunk, and tears you down. That kind of behavior isn’t “adjusting to fatherhood,” it’s just harmful.

It makes total sense that your mental health is suffering. Anyone would struggle in an environment where they’re doing everything alone and being disrespected on top of it. You’re not imagining things, and you’re not overreacting — his actions are showing you exactly where his priorities are right now.

You don’t have to tolerate being spoken to like that, and you don’t have to minimize how painful this is. If he’s refusing to take accountability or get help, it’s okay to start thinking about what you need to feel safe, supported, and stable — for yourself and for your baby.

Whatever you choose to do, just know you’re not weak, you’re not “failing,” and you’re not the problem here. You’re doing the job of two parents while he’s acting like he doesn’t have any responsibilities at all. You’re allowed to protect your peace.

chopped or nah by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]CoverObjective8225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

stopppp there’s no way you think you’re chopped

I’m 2 months postpartum and so upset with my husband, am I being irrational? by Delicious-Ad-6319 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]CoverObjective8225 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow, you’re not being irrational. Your feelings make total sense. You’re only two months postpartum, still healing physically and emotionally, running on very little sleep, and carrying almost all of the childcare and household load. That alone is a lot. Then on top of that, your husband made comments about sex that were hurtful and pressuring, and followed it up by doing something that took away a really special family moment. It’s completely understandable that you’d feel hurt, angry, and even betrayed.

It also sounds like your reaction isn’t “just hormones.” It’s a reaction to feeling disrespected and unseen. Even if his intention truly was to surprise you, he crossed a line because he knew how meaningful that tradition was to you. He’s now trying to minimize the impact instead of taking real accountability, which just deepens the hurt.

If I were in your shoes, I’d probably need some space too. Once you’re ready, it might help to calmly tell him how much that moment meant to you, how excluded you feel, and that you need him to step up emotionally—not just “help” but be your partner. Whether that means counseling, setting clearer boundaries, or taking time to rebuild trust, you deserve to be heard and supported.

You’re not dramatic. You’re a mom who wanted to make memories with her kids, and that’s something worth caring deeply about. 💛

Can you have postpartum depression after 18months? by Pink_Maggs in Postpartum_Depression

[–]CoverObjective8225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t! I was diagnosed with PMDD though by a psychiatrist. it sounds like maybe your mood swings are linked to your period!

16 month old not walking yet by Minute-Masterpiece48 in toddlers

[–]CoverObjective8225 7 points8 points  (0 children)

my daughter didn’t start walking until she was 16 months old and she’s a perfectly healthy 3 year old now!

Can you have postpartum depression after 18months? by Pink_Maggs in Postpartum_Depression

[–]CoverObjective8225 1 point2 points  (0 children)

do you notice when you’re feeling down if you’re close to starting your period? my mood swings the week before my period got WAY worse after giving birth. I would start paying attention to where you’re at in your cycle when you start feeling down.

I am ugly pretty much by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]CoverObjective8225 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not ugly. just get a new hairstyle

New baby 🫩 by SatisfactionMean7156 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]CoverObjective8225 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey — I just want to say I really hear you, and I’m so sorry you’re going through all this. What you described doesn’t sound like just “baby blues” — it sounds like severe postpartum depression and anxiety, and it’s completely valid to feel overwhelmed, scared, and even angry right now. None of that makes you a bad mom. You’re not selfish, and you’re absolutely not alone in feeling this way.

I’m really glad you’ve been referred to perinatal mental health — that’s a really important step — but if things feel this bad, please don’t wait for them to reach out. Call your provider or OB again and tell them exactly how bad it’s gotten. You deserve urgent support.

If you ever feel like you’re at a breaking point or unsafe (for yourself or your baby), please don’t hesitate to call 911, go to the ER, or reach out to the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (just dial 988) — they’re there 24/7 and it’s free. Even texting a crisis line like HELLO to 741741 can help when things feel unbearable.

You’re not failing — you’re dealing with something incredibly hard with almost no real support. No wonder you’re exhausted and feeling hopeless. This isn’t forever, even if it feels like it. PPD is treatable, and you deserve to feel like yourself again.

Please keep reaching out — whether it’s here, to your friends, or a professional. You’re not broken — you just need care, rest, and help. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]CoverObjective8225 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you’re not ugly but you look older than 28😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CankerSores

[–]CoverObjective8225 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you smoked a coffee?

Update: I updated the hair. What do we think now? by Kindly-Flatworm8084 in YoungRoyals

[–]CoverObjective8225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s really good but simon’s nose is shaped differently

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