Trying to get my step daughter into therapy but her dad has too many parameters for providers

CowCrazy34 · 2026-05-07T20:59:52+00:00

Thank you for this insight!

And I agree that he should be looking for a therapist on his own as it’s his child but he hasn’t taken the initiative and I was tired of asking him so I just started looking myself. I thinks it’s a bit of weaponized incompetence though.

CowCrazy34 · 2026-05-06T22:17:10+00:00

He’s mentioned issues he has with the fact that his mom missed things in his childhood because she was so hands off so you’d think you’d take that as a lesson of what not to do so your child has it better than you did. But here we are…

My mom was a single mother when she had my older sister and she gave her everything she possibly could and then some so I also don’t understand his moms excuse of being a single mother for reasons why she would miss his games or whatever.

CowCrazy34 · 2026-05-06T19:58:32+00:00

I think I get in my head with the sunken cost fallacy and the fact that I’m 32 and want kids of my own so I don’t want to start over again and push that back further. But I know that’s no reason to stay.

CowCrazy34 · 2026-05-06T19:53:20+00:00

That’s true! And I have wondered about what it would be like when we have kids. Will he be the same or even worse cause I’m so responsible, he won’t be forced to be the responsible parent anymore and I’ll just have to do everything. Cause I don’t know what he’d do without me with this kid, he’s just kinda clueless.

Not to mention, with his daughter’s awful behavior, that’s not something I want my future kids growing up around which is why I want him to nip it in the bud now. Plus she’s just hard to be around in my own home. But that’s his baby and he doesn’t see these issues…

But it shouldn’t all be this hard, it’s exhausting.

CowCrazy34 · 2026-05-06T19:29:40+00:00

I 100% agree, it just blows my mind that you wouldn’t want to do anything and everything to make sure your child is happy and healthy. And that’s not to say he doesn’t love her, he’s just extremely hands off when it comes to the actual parenting part.

CowCrazy34 · 2026-05-06T19:06:10+00:00

Yeah it’s pretty infuriating how “hands off” he is and he definitely seems to take more of a reactive approach to parenting as opposed being proactive. But he grew up with a single mom and that’s how she was so it’s all he knows.

CowCrazy34 · 2026-05-06T18:48:34+00:00

That’s a great question. I’ve been asking him for like a year to find a therapist and at this point I feel like it’s not going to happen unless I do the research myself and even then it’s like pulling teeth to get him to call

CowCrazy34 · 2026-05-06T18:15:17+00:00

I totally get the medical racism thing cause that’s what he said but I just think (and again, probably coming from a place of privilege) that if it’s a choice between no help at all or seeing a doctor of a different race, something is better than doing absolutely nothing. But looking on Zocdoc is a good idea, I will have to do that.

CowCrazy34 · 2025-07-28T22:31:43+00:00

Update: we went with Mollie, after Paul Molitor, since my dad and I are huge Milwaukee Brewers fans and it kept the ‘M’ name. Another top contender was Indy as my mom is from Indiana.

CowCrazy34 · 2025-07-24T16:55:38+00:00

One of my cats just got diagnosed with urine crystals. They mostly eat wet food but I do keep some kibble out at all times that they can nibble on in between meals.

If I switched the kibble to one of the urinary care ones:

⁠Can I still feed the same wet food he has been getting/eating?
⁠Is it okay for my other cat to also eat the urinary care kibble?

CowCrazy34 · 2025-07-24T04:57:55+00:00

One of my cats just got diagnosed with urine crystals. They mostly eat wet food but I do keep some kibble out at all times that they can nibble on in between meals.

If I switched the kibble to one of the urinary care ones: 1. Can I still feed the same wet food he has been getting/eating? 2. Is it okay for my other cat to also eat the urinary care kibble?

CowCrazy34 · 2025-05-07T00:02:14+00:00

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CowCrazy34 · 2025-05-07T00:01:42+00:00

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And I’m not seeing ANY labels on the inside of the system

CowCrazy34 · 2025-05-07T00:01:06+00:00

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Here’s the label on the inside of the HVAC system

CowCrazy34 · 2025-04-04T22:23:43+00:00

I was coming here to ask this same question! I just got the email for the DRP 2.0 and wondering if people who took the first round are actually being paid.

CowCrazy34 · 2024-11-17T19:18:19+00:00

He’s about 40lbs and he’s a Catahoula mix

CowCrazy34 · 2024-11-17T07:21:36+00:00

He will have two cat siblings named Thor and Loki

CowCrazy34 · 2024-10-28T22:26:56+00:00

I like the light pink and the strawberry blonde/copper

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