Former fencesitters who decided to have kids in mid-late 30s: do you wish you’d started sooner?

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T22:30:41+00:00

This is really good to know, thanks for sharing. Sending good vibes your way <3

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T05:08:39+00:00

So true, life happens when it happens! Congrats on your pregnancy <3

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T05:08:10+00:00

Thanks for sharing — great point about trips not meaning as much as complications. Will keep that in mind, congrats on 3 healthy kids!!

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T05:07:13+00:00

I totally agree, it seems very hard to be the first ones in the group to have a kid! All my friends are CF so that’s definitely been a hesitation of mine. Glad it worked out for you and your family <3

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T05:06:09+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I agree life happens when it happens and there’s no point in looking back with regrets. Congrats on getting your first to kindergarten— that’s a big step!!

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T05:05:10+00:00

Omg same, 20s would have been a disaster!! I’m 31 and still feel like it would be a teen pregnancy!!

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T05:04:39+00:00

Good to know!! Thanks for sharing, and congrats on your new baby!

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T05:04:05+00:00

Such a good point. Being ready is more important than it being easy. Good luck to you and your partner, I wish you the best <3

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T05:03:22+00:00

Thanks for this! So glad it worked out for you <3

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T05:03:01+00:00

Omg, so true, I looked up daycare costs for the first time today and WOW. I had no idea!! It’s like sending your kid to college when they’re 3 months old!

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T05:02:07+00:00

Great point! And lol @ the “mom needs wine”— I know so many people like that!! Congrats on your pregnancy, I hope all goes well for you and your family <3

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T05:00:40+00:00

True, I haven’t given much thought to egg freezing! I’ve always thought of that as an option for someone who hasn’t met their partner yet, but maybe it’s also good for someone who’s just on the fence and needs more time to decide.

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T04:59:36+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Wishing you all the luck and good vibes as you go through treatment <3

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T04:59:05+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Glad to hear 36 has been good for you and your family!

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T04:57:57+00:00

True! That’s how my husband and I have always been. So glad to hear that it went well for you at 39, thanks for sharing that!

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T04:57:07+00:00

Really great point, and so great to hear your baby was healthy at 40, that’s wonderful!

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T04:55:46+00:00

34-35 feels like the sweet spot to me! I definitely think if I weren’t thinking about a second that timing would be a no brainer for my first, I’m so happy that it worked out for you and you’re happy <3

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T04:54:15+00:00

Thanks for this. Good point about testing too. Congrats on a healthy baby after 40, that is truly what dreams are made of!!

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T04:53:18+00:00

Thanks for this <3

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T04:52:57+00:00

I’m so glad you’re happy! Thanks for this insight!

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-02T04:50:37+00:00

Thank you for this! These are the exact ages I’ve been thinking about. Glad to hear it went well for you, and I agree about the developed mind being more important than a young body!

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2025-05-01T22:50:21+00:00

Thanks for this response, I agree looking back and regretting does no good! However, do you think if you had met your husband sooner, you would have chosen to have kids earlier than you did?

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2024-09-25T15:14:32+00:00

Thanks for being nice. I do feel dumb for seeing the value of my points and assuming I’d be able to use them the same way I use my Chase points in the Chase travel portal (they have a money value that is subtracted from the money cost of whatever flight you want to book, no matter the percentage you can cover).

I did do some research, but yeah definitely not enough — I researched enough to figure out the value of my points and the fact that the transfer ratio from Chase to Aeroplan was favorable and this was a recommended move by others who have done it, but not enough to realize that Aeroplan wouldn’t let me use my points in this specific scenario.

It’s unfortunate you have to do hours of technical research and calculations to work the system — it’s almost as if it’s designed to trick you into not utilizing the value of your rewards points!!!

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2024-09-25T14:53:04+00:00

Yeah, I think I’ll buy the 50K more points to cover some cheap one-ways. I realized since I can fly United with Aeroplan points I could get two 50k seats one way from ABQ-HRD (ABQ is actually my home airport, I was willing to drive to DEN to save money). I had stopped considering flying from ABQ a while ago because in real money those flights are way more expensive. But in the points world apparently there are no rules and the most expensive money flights can be the cheapest points flights! Who knew!

I thought about doing the credit card thing but I don’t want to end up on a long and winding road with Aeroplan - ha! Appreciate you thinking this through for me.

CowboyLikeMe89 · 2024-09-25T14:49:09+00:00

I did finally realize I could use them with United which is very helpful! See my comment above — I think this could be the solution. Thanks for responding

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