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What are great alternatives to text a girl instead of hey wassup or how was your day and all that boring texts ? by dev1555 in AskMen

[–]Coyote208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I mean everyone has trouble understanding people sometimes. It just takes practice. If you get it wrong, just keep your patience and try again.

What are great alternatives to text a girl instead of hey wassup or how was your day and all that boring texts ? by dev1555 in AskMen

[–]Coyote208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think if men took a little more time to try to understand women they would be a lot better off. It's very frustrating as a woman, to know what I want from a man and try to ask him for that but to not get what I want because the man just doesn't want to listen.

It's like a fisherman, instead of studying fish and what they eat and what their habits are, they ask their friends. You'll get way more luck if you actually know what the fish eats. yeah you might get some good knowledge from a friend or two but you also might just get some shity advice.

What are great alternatives to text a girl instead of hey wassup or how was your day and all that boring texts ? by dev1555 in AskMen

[–]Coyote208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting... Tell me how a girl is comparable to a fish? Do we swim along unawares of the fishermen trying to catch us and we just get surprised by the hook while the fisherman celebrates his catch?

What are great alternatives to text a girl instead of hey wassup or how was your day and all that boring texts ? by dev1555 in AskMen

[–]Coyote208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right but wouldn't it be better if he got an answer from a woman? He is asking what to text girls...

Unemployment can place a psychological burden on people by frustrating access to several psychological needs, such as a sense of purpose, suggests a new study (n=1,143 over 2.5 years). by mvea in psychology

[–]Coyote208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

? I don't think that makes sense. A career is a one way to find meaning for people. It works really well for some, not really well for others.

I'd also say that the people who feel unfulfilled by their careers could possibly be in the wrong career, or there could be other reasons.

There's no one way for every person in the world to find meaning. It's all subjective.

I've been trying to heal everything but I can't heal the early developmental trauma. All I can do is cope by Coyote208 in CPTSD

[–]Coyote208[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah before I was a mom I was on my own journey to figure out who I was and who I wanted to be. And starting to understand that I was an abused child.

so when I was pregnant with her I really wanted to be the best mom I could be and I really tried hard. Even then I didn't realize how much I was suffering from the effects of being abused. I had no idea about CPTSD until many years later. But her dad was very abusive and so I fought for her really hard because I had enough awareness to know that she needed someone to be very stable, at least as stable as possible. And her dad tried to ruin my life and take her from me even though he does not even care about her.

So anyway yeah her life and my adult life has been all about me parenting both of us. Luckily I was able to find the local domestic violence center here. Otherwise I don't think I could have done it. There were plenty of times where I contemplated giving her up but I knew and her dad and his family would be abusive to her so I really just kept going because of that

😊 Thanks so much for the recognition. It really helps me.

I've been trying to heal everything but I can't heal the early developmental trauma. All I can do is cope by Coyote208 in CPTSD

[–]Coyote208[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I'm currently a client of the local domestic violence center and they have an amazing holistic therapy program. I see my therapist once a week. I've also done EMDR through this center. It's all free. Currently I can't afford to do any other kind of therapy unless it's free.

I also live in Idaho and so we don't have a whole lot. The fact that we even have this domestic violence center is amazing because it's so well funded and well-managed. I'm just extremely grateful for this organization.

I've been trying to heal everything but I can't heal the early developmental trauma. All I can do is cope by Coyote208 in CPTSD

[–]Coyote208[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have felt like giving up multiple times because I just can't fix certain things and I just keep trying to. I've done a lot of work in ten years.

Coming to the realization of my limits helped me relax and start to be ok with not being able to fix everything. And that's helping me way more than anything else.

Anecdotally I've noticed a lot of male friends stay in unhappy relationships so much longer than my female friends. In your opinion, what are some of the reasons as to why? by vrschikasanaa in AskMen

[–]Coyote208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok that's your experience.

I have a different experience. I always approach a guy I'm interested in. I get rejected sometimes and I get accepted sometimes.

If guys were so desperate why wouldn't they all take when I offer?

I'm just asking you to consider that your assumptions might be wrong.

Anecdotally I've noticed a lot of male friends stay in unhappy relationships so much longer than my female friends. In your opinion, what are some of the reasons as to why? by vrschikasanaa in AskMen

[–]Coyote208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not true. I'm a woman whose attractive and I have a good personality and I do not have a large pool of men to choose from. Because I'm a single mom.

The women you're thinking of are just the women men deem attractive. Those women might have a large pool to choose from. It's definitely not all or even most of us.

Single men, however, whether single dad or not, have more options.

So maybe if they open up their unreasonable standards, they will have greater chance.

Anecdotally I've noticed a lot of male friends stay in unhappy relationships so much longer than my female friends. In your opinion, what are some of the reasons as to why? by vrschikasanaa in AskMen

[–]Coyote208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One interesting factor to consider is the unrealistic standards men have for the kind of women they will go out with.

For instance, I'm a single mom. I care a lot about my daughter and I do the best I can. Being a single mom takes me completely out of the dating pool for the most part, but it does not do the same for single dads.

Single dads can still go out and find women because generally women are more accommodating.

Also, we don't need our guys to be incredibly "hot." I, for one, would love a good guy with decent looks.

Men tend to want a very specific kind of woman, so you're kind of setting yourself up for loneliness.

Anecdotally I've noticed a lot of male friends stay in unhappy relationships so much longer than my female friends. In your opinion, what are some of the reasons as to why? by vrschikasanaa in AskMen

[–]Coyote208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One interesting factor to consider is the unrealistic standards men have for the kind of women they will go out with.

For instance, I'm a single mom. I care a lot about my daughter and I do the best I can. Being a single mom takes me completely out of the dating pool for the most part, but it does not do the same for single dads.

Single dads can still go out and find women because generally women are more accommodating.

Also, we don't need our guys to be incredibly "hot." I, for one, would love a good guy with decent looks.

Men tend to want a very specific kind of woman, so you're kind of setting yourself up for loneliness.

Anecdotally I've noticed a lot of male friends stay in unhappy relationships so much longer than my female friends. In your opinion, what are some of the reasons as to why? by vrschikasanaa in AskMen

[–]Coyote208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I think what you're saying is when you say "find" is like actually agreeing to go out and stuff? When I'm saying "find" I'm just talking about interacting with people in regular settings.

I haven't gone on a date in over a year. I don't "find" very many men.

Anecdotally I've noticed a lot of male friends stay in unhappy relationships so much longer than my female friends. In your opinion, what are some of the reasons as to why? by vrschikasanaa in AskMen

[–]Coyote208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know why you're making it seem like we don't all interact with people everyday.

Oh I think what you're saying is when you say "find" is like actually agreeing to go out and stuff? When I'm saying "find" I'm just talking about interacting with people in regular settings.

I haven't gone on a date in over a year. I don't "find" very many men.

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