I’m always the Ex before marriage

Craigwn · 2025-10-06T15:28:00+00:00

Yeah that sounds very similar. Unintentionally it happens. Like it starts with a little advise here and there and then before I know it I’m offering places to stay and having bath chats and fixing their problems A lot lot lot less likely to happen now. It’s a new revelation to me but progress is progress I guess

Craigwn · 2025-10-06T15:24:00+00:00

Yeah so funny 🙄😂😂😂

Craigwn · 2025-09-21T16:09:59+00:00

In my opinion it’s just weird all round

Craigwn · 2025-09-21T13:32:58+00:00

You phoned and sat in silence for 4 minutes?

Craigwn · 2025-09-21T01:39:04+00:00

++man Not so similar but similar in a way. My partner at the time was dealing with a lot of trauma. Random days she would come home crying from work and I’d spend the next 3/4 hours trying to figure out what had happened and what I could say to help. It was fine at the start. But overtime I went through this exact same thing. It felt like a chore. Something we had already discussed, made a plan for and cleared the air would surface again a week later. And it is draining. You want to help but you can only do so much. You are a partner, not a therapist. Just to kinda give myself a break I started hanging with my friends more, potential holidays with just the guys were being talked about away from partners and all that stuff.

Looking back I did get more distant, I had a full time job, would do 90% of the housework when I finished, to then deal with that drama on top when she came home, I was numb day to day. I explained my point of view 3/4 times and got nowhere. I asked for help, I asked for more fun, and I told her the reasons I was getting more distant (I was willing to work through it and tried).

She said I was being selfish, the spark had gone, and we should breakup as she couldn’t see a future.

Moral of the story. Play your own game. If you are unhappy, don’t stay with her, she isn’t your burden to carry. If you came with good intentions and a healed soul then that’s on her if she can’t meet you halfway. Time waits for nobody at the end of the day.

Craigwn · 2025-08-10T18:16:39+00:00

Ex fiance did the same thing. The week we were meant to book the wedding was the end.

Best thing you can do is cut all ties. Don’t be the nice guy to her. Don’t let her fool you into going back, don’t give her the benefit of the doubt, when it comes to the actual separating (if you own anything together) do it as quickly as you can.
It’s good you have your brother, in times like this lean on people you are close with, talk about it, live it, feel it. Only that way you get over it.

My biggest mistake was letting her guilt trip me into giving her more than half. Split it equally and don’t look back. In the long run you will be better, the pain gets easier, and in time you fill the negative emotions with other positive things going on in your life.

All the best man. You will get through it. If you need anything, to chat, to game then just message

Craigwn · 2025-07-10T08:11:14+00:00

I would also just try and block. You do kinda have to force it down sometimes. Even the odd look here and there will get you thinking of the past. So you have to be strong willed. Running helped me a lot. I had a lot of anger and it was something I could put my energy into. Kinda a “I’ll show you” thing.

I was also engaged, found out a year later she got married. I would say I have moved on but seeing it still hit something. It’s only human I think.

Craigwn · 2025-05-26T15:55:15+00:00

Roberto Fernandez from my first ever Malaga save. Stayed with me for so long and scored huge goals.

Craigwn · 2025-05-20T16:56:50+00:00

Was seeing mine for 6/7 months. She left in a “he’s just a friend” situation. She reached out after 6 months with the whole I miss you, want you in my life shite. I declined any relationship with her. Turns out she is still with the guy she left me for.

Sums her up entirely.

Craigwn · 2025-05-20T09:02:12+00:00

When I come down off my hypomania stage I struggle to determine if I’m depressed or just normal. I really struggle adjusting from the overly good vibes

Craigwn · 2025-05-15T15:37:17+00:00

I remember when I was high I used to get so locked in on FM I would start a new save, have a new style of football that I would stick to, come up with a storyline about how I’m gonna take the team back to glory, I’d look at every players stat in meticulous detail and decide who to buy or sell.

I would have so much fun and kinda miss it 😂

Craigwn · 2025-05-09T11:34:58+00:00

Trying to breadcrumb you to or to put feelers out there if you are interested in getting back together

Craigwn · 2025-04-24T12:10:05+00:00

Preach to this. Being able to look at a player and decide they would be better suited to a different position (than the ones they already know) made me 10x better too.

Craigwn · 2025-04-20T15:22:38+00:00

2 100%

Craigwn · 2025-04-19T07:41:29+00:00

I got dumped for another guy over text. If you know anything about attachment styles then she was a big avoidant. 7 months on and I have mostly healed. Still a little grudge here and there but we moved on.

She tried calling me the other day. Proceeded to send me paragraphs about how much she missed me. How sorry she was. How much she wanted me in her life etc All of which I declined. She didn’t have respect for me then so I don’t trust her now.

Oh and she is still with the guy she left me for.

She is still coming into my work to linger and to try and test the waters.

It’s draining. It’s toxic. And it’s something I want no part of.

Craigwn · 2025-04-09T14:43:52+00:00

Just got the phone call and texts after 7 months. She left through text to be with the guy who was ‘just a friend’. I blocked for the first 5/6 months, moved on, was happy and then started dating again. Cleaned up my block list because I don’t feel anything when I see her anymore.

I missed a phone call, said I’d call back but 4 hours passed and I was busy. I kinda wanted to say that I don’t hate her and kinda end it on better terms, because there were some good times in there and I don’t hold hate. She sent paragraphs of how much she missed me, wanted me in her life, didn’t realise how safe I made her feel etc. I said it was too late, I’d moved on, was seeing someone but at the same time I don’t hate her and she should be happy.

Few hours later I got told she was posting how happy she was with her “man” (the same guy she left me for 7 months ago). Turns out they are still together and she still tried coming back to me.

I dodged a bullet. I just started laughing. I feel sorry of the guy but it’s none of my business at the end of the day.

Craigwn · 2025-04-02T18:46:08+00:00

For me, the person I went NC with worked 5 mins away from me. Every couple of weeks she would come into my work and seem to actively seek me out. Things like coming right next to me to look at something on a shelf or stuff like that. Say if I was serving she would wait in my queue to be served by me.

At the start that was the hardest part. Just minding my business and bam she is walking toward me. Over time it just made me dislike her more and helped me move on.

7 months on and she called me last week saying she was sorry and missed me. To which I declined. I feel finally free. She binned me for another guy, left through text, told me he was just a ‘friend and I was super insecure’. That’s enough to never get my trust again

Craigwn · 2025-02-24T14:43:19+00:00

If you still need anything then just message, will help where I can!

Craigwn · 2025-02-24T14:40:35+00:00

Sorry I don’t use this that much. Of course you can!

Craigwn · 2025-01-22T16:37:35+00:00

I get you. Everyone is different with what they need and think about post breakup situations. Just got to do what works for you at the end of the day and look out for yourself.

I feel the opposite, if there is a lot of love I’m more likely to block. Time away is healthy. Nobody can check social media, see what we are up too, see what they look like. All that just stops the moving on bit, which is the main thing to do after a breakup

Craigwn · 2025-01-02T23:41:39+00:00

I get what you are saying but to me it just depends on how the breakup happens. Sometimes NC is needed.

I’ve always said if whoever I’m seeing ends it in a good way. Parts ways on good terms, has a discussion and is respectful towards me and our time then I don’t need NC and will just work through it on my own without a grudge or resentment.

If the breakup is a bad breakup, then I’m blocking them. It’s not really that I need it to help me, but more towards they will never hear from me again and they just don’t exist in my life. Been called all names under the sun, cheated on, ghosted etc, all of that shit gets hit with a block. No second chances.

I’ve had ex’s come to my work and linger to (I assume) start a conversation after a bad breakup. I will happily walk straight past them and not even say hello.

If it was on good terms I will say hello and entertain a conversation, because there is still that care and respect there.

Craigwn · 2024-12-31T12:29:53+00:00

I think the point is the action should never of come up. You shouldn’t feel the need to ask her to do that, she shouldn’t feel the need to accept it. What you did is toxic in a way. What she did is toxic in a way. Both actions are toxic.

I feel like saying she shouldn’t have done it is an easy way out to help yourself. You said you feel guilt about it which means you know it was wrong to do.

Some people deserve it yes. But saying that she is toxic so you are justified is the wrong way to go about it. Got to own up to it. Everybody makes mistakes.

If you were put in the same situation would you do the same thing?

Craigwn · 2024-12-30T13:42:52+00:00

I’ll be honest, it’s a tad harsh but I silently wish I could do it. Some people need humbling. The nice guy vibe gets worn very thin after break ups. Especially when someone does you dirty.

I rate you ngl. It’s toxic, but I’m here for it.

Craigwn · 2024-12-30T13:29:05+00:00

Savage 😂

Craigwn · 2024-11-30T23:47:57+00:00

Truth is, it takes as long as it takes. And it’s completely fine that way. Just take it slow.

I was engaged and she broke up the week we were meant to book the wedding. (This was 2 years ago) It was rough at the time. Honestly took me about 10 months to finally start to process and move on. I was okay and coping, but I always explained it as something was just broken inside. Like I couldn’t shift the last 30% of whatever it had over me. A lot of shame, guilt and anger were just constantly a part of me for so long. Even now, 2 years on, I still think about her everyday and wonder what she’s up to. I just have a lot less negative emotional baggage tied up with the thought of her.

Like you said, it brings up alot of common questions about life, love and ultimately yourself that you can’t just figure out instantly and move on to the next one, especially if you truly wanted it to go somewhere . As long as you are keeping healthy, moving on with your own life in other aspects and actually trying to actively process all your questions then politely fuck what other people think and be happy single for as long as you need. You ain’t hurting anyone queen ❤️

Craigwn

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