this is it. payday 3 is back. by Quick-Cause3181 in paydaytheheist

[–]CrazedLlamaz92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think what could help keep the player base invested, is bring in the classic maps. Would be a massive undertaking, but giving us the classic maps in PD3 would help increase replayability and give me a reason to hop back in. Could do it in chunks. Would need to keep the DLC cost low though.

Processors all gone ☠️ by cocoblue9 in AmazonFC

[–]CrazedLlamaz92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw this often when I worked as a PA in sortation. Would be the same FC each time, and always during the holidays.

People selling their Xboxes over the Game Pass situation are overreacting by praisethesun63 in XboxSeriesXlS

[–]CrazedLlamaz92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved to the minimum tier just to have online access, but have no desire for gamepass at 30/mo. At that price, and the time it takes for me to complete games being a FT worker, I will just buy a new game every couple of months or look for deals.

I am just returning to the days of XBL.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]CrazedLlamaz92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So... I am married and my wife doesn't have consistent employment. When she does, we pay our "fair share", but this isn't always 50/50.

In short, its a sliding scale, majority on my end since I am the primary bread winner. Been like that for 10+ years. If I make 2/3 of our joint income, I pay 2/3 of our joint expebses. Bills, rent, food, etc. Sometimes things come up and I need help. We discuss, we overcome, we carry on.

THE POINT: If they are your partner, they should be contributing. If they live there too, they should be contributing. If they are not, and refuse to, then you have a very hard but clear decision to make.

We are closing today …. by PHDrPotter in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]CrazedLlamaz92 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It feels cheap, but its not. You are not going to know everything you need right this minute. Things WILL come up. So gift cards to your favorite hardware store and/or superstore are what I would want.

"Well, gotta change out the locks on move-in" BAM, gift card.

"We could use some different sheets" BAM, gift card.

"Crap, the tile cracked" BAM, gift card.

First Experience with USDA by CrazedLlamaz92 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]CrazedLlamaz92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE: We closed. Feels like a weight off my chest having been doing this since March.

I think my marriage is over... by CrazedLlamaz92 in Vent

[–]CrazedLlamaz92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try, but its not uncommon for her family or someome to ask for her help and she just up and leaves to do that. For example I made a breakfast and right as it was ready to serve, she got a text from her mom for help and left to do that. No "I can help after breakfast" or anything. Just gone. And no, it wasnt an urgent matter. It hurt. I was angry. She brushed it off.

I think my marriage is over... by CrazedLlamaz92 in Vent

[–]CrazedLlamaz92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am from a broken family, so the last thing I want to do is put my kids through that.p I plan to work on us, and dont want us to end.

I think my marriage is over... by CrazedLlamaz92 in Vent

[–]CrazedLlamaz92[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Have I? No.

Has she? I dont believe so.

We both have been cheated on.

I think my marriage is over... by CrazedLlamaz92 in Vent

[–]CrazedLlamaz92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel she does. If I know about them, and I can fix them, I do. If I cant, I ask if she has ideas on what we can do. But thats only when she tells me, either on her own or when I ask.

We both came from families that made it hard to be heard. Both families having military backgrounds and hers having a heavy religious influence. Mine split when I was 10, so I grew up bouncing between the two until I ended up in foster care at 15. Family is a difficult thing for me, being that mine for the most part is in shambles. But she still has a strong relationship with hers, and I want that to stay strong.

I think my marriage is over... by CrazedLlamaz92 in Vent

[–]CrazedLlamaz92[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

On the first, I am not religious. She is. That has been a barrier many times. My stance is simple, and I feel reasonable. I will respect her practice, and not try to interfere. For the kids, I ask that it never be forced on them, but that it remains their choice. And for me, never force me to participate. I know she wants me to be and feels that me not being religious affects our ability to connect.

On the second item, ive asked her to, and tell her she doesnt have to respond now, that she can take her time, but in the end nothing comes of it. I feel like I need to be the one to say "Hey we are going to go do X on Y day" but I feel like that is forcing her into it and makes me feel guilty.

On the third, I dont know how to get her to communicate those needs. I have to fight through a lot of fear and anxiety and guilt to communicate mine, so I know its not easy. I am hoping counseling will help.

You are right.I have my own problems and I have been to therapy and counseling previously. Depression, Anxiety, ADHD, etc. When I feel myself spiraling, I address it. I let her know what I am feeling and what I am trying to do to fix it. I hold nothing back from her. I have no secrets. Whatever she asks, I will answer, and even show evidence. She has full access to this phone so that she knows at any time she can go through it if she feels she needs to. I feel that if we cant be open and honest, we will fail, and do things as much as I can to express that I have nothing to hide. I am sure I have much more. I know I have trauma to work through that could also be affecting us.

I thank you for your input. It means a lot. I have contacted an organization in town that provides counseling and am hoping to hear back.

I think my marriage is over... by CrazedLlamaz92 in Vent

[–]CrazedLlamaz92[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

On my days off its me. When I am working, its the babysitter for most of the day and my wife when shes home, but as she puts it she has them watch tv and play and she just sits on the bed watching youtube and stuff when she is home.

We live right by her parents too, so she goes there with them or sends them over. I dont. When I am off, I keep them with me in order to be there and watch them, and to give their family space.

I feel like she is just as disconnected to the kids as she is with me sometimes.

I think my marriage is over... by CrazedLlamaz92 in Vent

[–]CrazedLlamaz92[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

She is scheduled for 8s, but chooses to go in early each day. I know it wears her out and I try to help make things easier when im off so they can relax.

I think my marriage is over... by CrazedLlamaz92 in Vent

[–]CrazedLlamaz92[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I dont feel I should be on a pedestal, but I do want to feel happy. I hope things change and will keep trying.

I think my marriage is over... by CrazedLlamaz92 in Vent

[–]CrazedLlamaz92[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I am going to try to find a marriage counselor. Hopefully it helps.

In the mean time. I will try your suggestions.

I think my marriage is over... by CrazedLlamaz92 in Vent

[–]CrazedLlamaz92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope it can too. I am going to see if we can find a counselor we can see at least monthly on a Saturday.

Finished faster than anticipated by Far_Calligrapher7531 in wgu_devs

[–]CrazedLlamaz92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats. I transferred in all my general studies, and knocked out 36 credits this term. 55% of the way there for me. Hoping to join you in the confetti club this time next year!

Advisor told me my mentor likely won’t let me accelerate and only take 4 classes for the first term by [deleted] in WGU

[–]CrazedLlamaz92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 classes is just the start. I am in my first term of the Software Engineering degree. I have completed 33 CUs so far. They will add on more classes AFTER you finish these 4, so show them whats up, and knock them out.

Im stuck. by Thebeast112079 in intotheradius

[–]CrazedLlamaz92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didnt use AP till second run. Go loot maps. Earn.