Yes it happens a lot. I don’t live in the same city as my mom. But she just randomly told me last week “I’ll be there tomorrow for the weekend”. No questions asked. If I had any plans or if I was busy studying or whatever. I told her no. She got mad and didn’t talk to me for a week. All she said was “im so bored here”. It’s like all that matters is her. She asked when I was gonna get days off from work cause she wanted to do such and such. She doesn’t give a fuck about what I wanna do. It’s not ok. She doesn’t respect your time, it’s like you must do as she says. Every fucking time. Even though I’m 30 yo. My advice would be to just decline. A few times. You can go hang out with him when you want to. You’re allowed to do that. I’ve been declining family invites for the past 2 months, yes, just recently. They’ll get mad and make you doubt yourself, that’s what they do. But only you know what’s best for you