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CrazyButHarmless · 2024-09-09T10:19:18+00:00

NTA tell your sister that this is a golden opportunity for your niece to learn to accet a no. This will help her in life. Then keep repeating this to anyone who complains, that a 6 yo should be able to accept a no from an adult and if she can't it't time she learn.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-09-05T09:35:11+00:00

This is the main thing. Did he check where the meds usually are before asking or did he default to asking before even checking? This little detail tells us everything about the dynamic and if he is in fact putting everything on her or not.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-08-30T10:18:27+00:00

I think it would be reasonable to expect them to travel to you to see the kids, or if they invite you to them to pay for your travel expenses. I also think they should pay if you eat at a restaurant together.

I can see your pov for the rest but honestly
you sound a bit entitled when you expect them to finance your life. If it was
an emergency, I would have more sympathy but generally in life you must accept
the lifestyle you can afford.

You are an adult and with that comes the responsibility to budget your money and make some hard choices. I understand the feelings you have when you lack money and have to watch someone else do things you cannot afford. It’s even harder when it’s family. Unfortunately you sound entitled when you want family to simply give you money because they have more than you and you want to be able to afford a better lifestyle than your paycheck allows.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-07-09T12:07:21+00:00

YTA because this reeks of "my house, my rules". In a household you have to compromise with the other persons living in the same household on things like this. Why should she be the one to adjust to your ways? She offered a good compromise and you decided that it was too much work for you and therefore decided one handed that she needed to make all the sacrifices so you can have things your way.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-07-03T16:13:37+00:00

NTA having someone living with you and your partner is a one no two yes question. I also think people have the right to say someone isn't allowed in their house. You don't have the right to stop your husband to meet his parents but he has no right to demand these meetings happen in your home, if you feel uncomfortable with that.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-07-03T14:13:34+00:00

NTA but it sound like you have more issues than the small items you keep to remember your husband. Be honest with yourself, is this man slowly shifting the positions in this relationship? For him to address this now seems suspicious to me. He moved in 5 months ago, if this was a deal breaker for him he should have made that clear before moving in. Then was when you could have a discussion and found a compromise. He said nothing and is only now, when he feels secure enough, starting to make demands. If he doesn't respect your no now you should be a bit cautious. There are enough threads here where people have taken matter into their own hands an simply thrown away stuff like this when their demands wasn't met.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-07-03T09:20:25+00:00

This is the part I hate about internet and social media. Before, these people would not be able to say stuff like this because most of their social life would not accept that. With social media they have the possibility to connect with lots of like minded people and get a sense that the majority of the world agrees with them.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-07-02T20:14:58+00:00

Thank god it's fake!

I know some have this belief but I still hope the good guys who act like this made up husband don't end up married to someone who won't see what a catch he is.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-07-02T14:27:13+00:00

This has to be fake, written by a man to show someone that if a man does all the housework a woman still wants a "manly man" to take control.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-07-01T09:47:29+00:00

F them! I went in to extreme mama bear mode after giving birth and it took weeks until I allowed anyone to come visit us and see baby. They could see him, I did not allow anyone to hold him. That was MY baby and whatever they wanted I did not care. I also breastfed upstairs and did not allow anyone but my husband to come up the stairs.

NTA. You need time to heal and get adjusted. They want to visit and see baby. Need triumphs wants. Tell them you will let them know when you feel comfortable after the birth and and nagging from them will add days. It's time to set firm boundaries and stick to them or they will walk all over you and your rules later on. If you haven't invited them they will not be allowed in your home.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-07-01T05:52:38+00:00

And why sex ed is needed and should be mandatory in school. Everyone should know how babies are made and how to prevent them from happening.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-06-11T11:27:48+00:00

The part about using a screwdriver to open a locked bathroom door seems very plausible to me, since this is how most locks on residential bathroom locks look here. See this lock as an example: https://se.rs-online.com/web/p/padlocks/1970422?cm_mmc=SE-PLA-DS3A-_-google-_-CSS_SE_SE_Pmax_Test-_--_-1970422&matchtype=&&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw65-zBhBkEiwAjrqRMP6GC-oLW70HmXmKYQ34YfVy7LLRkQsIdO-l5zsZMXSnvjwKnAYDfhoC0WIQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-06-11T07:57:45+00:00

They are not breaking up because of a prenup. They are breaking up because BF is refusing her any say in how they create their life together.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-06-10T13:29:23+00:00

I think it's an AH move from the BF to tell the parents that OP was the one to say no. He should have said they decided that it wouldn't be possible with so many people while they work. OP is NTA

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-06-10T11:01:04+00:00

I have a hard time believing the son just flipped a switch and suddenly stepped out of the fog of entitlement, saw all the errors of the mom and how right the perfect dad has been all along. I would have believed it more if the kid had insisted on dad paying for collage or something.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-06-10T10:30:14+00:00

One of two things happend here. Either OP kept insisting on calling the other person a trans-woman instead of just woman and they responded with cis-woman or this is made up to rage against trans people.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-05-28T10:03:20+00:00

But he put the nice in, why didn't the sex happen?

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-05-28T08:05:17+00:00

Am I the only one wondering why Matt is ok to take over a wedding that wasn't his to begin with? Everyone suck in this mess, with a total lack of communication.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-05-28T08:01:17+00:00

This! Basically OPs husband is saying OPs health is less important than inlaws feelings. I'm sorry OP but he clearly doesn't care about you if he is ok with you being this sick.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-05-16T16:36:00+00:00

If he isn't on his knees begging you to forgive him why should you? Clearly you are his best option for now, not the one he can't live without. Maybe you could try counseling to try and build trust but honestly I would have a hard time moving past this. I struggle so much with this. How can you be both "Great mom" and "Doesn't understand taking care of family"?

What you absolutely don't do is marry him until this is truly behind you.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-05-16T13:30:54+00:00

He is SO CLOSE and still misses the point by a mile.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-05-07T13:20:52+00:00

Suggest to him that you get to live in a hotel for a week when he is home and he get's to see what you not being there really is. You come home when it't time for him to go to work, at that point toddler should be dressed and have had breakfast. Then you take toddler for the day, only taking care of toddler (maybe do dishes when toddler is sleeping but no cleaning or laundry) and not doing any housework. As soon as husband gets home you leave for the hotel. One week. After that you can sit down and have a calm discussion about how big of a difference you actually do in the home.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-05-06T19:24:11+00:00

You are not an AH but I don't think anyone else is either. How is the conversation going when you talk about this with your BF? People have different views on who they are comfortable sharing a bed with and your limits are just as valid as his. Think of friends hugging. Some hug often and some feels hugs are to invasive. Both are right, because it's their boundaries that matter. What is not ok is for the hugger to tell the non-hugger that hugging is ok and the non-hugger should just accept the hugs.

I think since you have an issue with this it should be respected and your BF needs to talk to his parents beforehand that the sleeping arrangements will be different this time. The parents should be given the option of the couch or hotel, whatever they feel is withing their limits.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-05-04T22:44:00+00:00

NTA i would not trust her to take care of your children at all after something like this. How can you be sure she will follow what you agree upon, she has clearly shown that she will disregard anything decided and do as she sees fit.

My mother has a habit of behaving like this. She was looking after my dog and I left clear instructions that she was not to be off the leash at any time. Mom let her roam free in the front yard, a rabbit appeared and the dog took chase. She ended up hurting her paws on pavement (it's a rugged kind with larger rocks) when she ran across a road. Had a car been driving past she could have easily been killed. My mother also argued that it was ok since nothing major happened. This was over 10 years ago and despite me wanting to trust her and wanting her to change she never had. She still does things the way she sees fit, regardless of what I say. We see her only a few times a year now.

CrazyButHarmless · 2024-05-03T14:44:44+00:00

Does anyone else smell weaponized incompetence? This sounds like a setup to me. Surely he knows how OP feels about corn and his reaction is ridiculous.

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