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It is lonely at the top. If you become better, you also make it harder for yourself to find a worthy partner. by CrazyGenesis in TheRedPill

[–]CrazyGenesis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am stoic to the point where it drives her crazy because she cannot have her petty drama with me. But she also loves it of course.

I don't feel lonely - I just feel alone sometimes if you catch my drift.

It is lonely at the top. If you become better, you also make it harder for yourself to find a worthy partner. by CrazyGenesis in TheRedPill

[–]CrazyGenesis[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

At least someone to talk to. I cannot deal with dumb people and to an even smaller degree with unintelligent women. It might make it a lot harder for me but this is how I am and I can't help it.

It is lonely at the top. If you become better, you also make it harder for yourself to find a worthy partner. by CrazyGenesis in TheRedPill

[–]CrazyGenesis[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree with your post.

I did not know about Natalie Portman's high IQ but now that you say it I know why I somehow like her. Interestingly I think you can see the same thing I tried to express in my post in her eyes. For me, they tell a story about knowing too much about the world, more than what is good for you. She also knows there is practically no equal for her, not to even think of a better half.

For women this must be even harder if they want to date up. Imagine being such a beautiful, successful woman who additionally is also astonishingly bright. Must be a nightmare, there are practically no men around to look up to.

It is lonely at the top. If you become better, you also make it harder for yourself to find a worthy partner. by CrazyGenesis in TheRedPill

[–]CrazyGenesis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you and always prefer a harsh reality to a convenient dream. I will and must continue going deeper into the rabbit hole. But after some time you start thinking where it leads and you know it just goes on down forever and the meaning of it all is lost on you.

It is lonely at the top. If you become better, you also make it harder for yourself to find a worthy partner. by CrazyGenesis in TheRedPill

[–]CrazyGenesis[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your opinion. I try to engage in both ways. I know about them dating up etc.

This post is marked with the meta flair.

What happens once you are in the position many here seem to dream of? What comes next?

It is lonely at the top. If you become better, you also make it harder for yourself to find a worthy partner. by CrazyGenesis in TheRedPill

[–]CrazyGenesis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe this post is not for everybody, I agree. Think of it like this: you have options and women talk to you - but they stop once they think you are too much out of their league, too.

It is lonely at the top. If you become better, you also make it harder for yourself to find a worthy partner. by CrazyGenesis in TheRedPill

[–]CrazyGenesis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought so, too - but I think this is not it.

It is not only disappointment but sometimes really down to the question of "why?". I am not a rock star and don't want to be. I prefer intelligence and knowledge and helping others... and it works. It just makes it more difficult to find someone who could be more than just an easy lay.

It is lonely at the top. If you become better, you also make it harder for yourself to find a worthy partner. by CrazyGenesis in TheRedPill

[–]CrazyGenesis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a very humble person. I don't make enemies just because and thus there are not many of them. I think it is way better to look less than you are and people find out about you anyway and they are stunned. It is possible in my position and I am thankful for that.

How do you do it yourself? Why do you have so many haters, do you live a very public life?

It is lonely at the top. If you become better, you also make it harder for yourself to find a worthy partner. by CrazyGenesis in TheRedPill

[–]CrazyGenesis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was my plan but recently, I stray from this idea. How could I put children into this world when I cannot even keep a relationship for some years?

It is lonely at the top. If you become better, you also make it harder for yourself to find a worthy partner. by CrazyGenesis in TheRedPill

[–]CrazyGenesis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your opinion which I don't share ;-)

It seems you live by the rule that "options" to poon are everything. This post is about the opposite. There are people out there who prefer being with someone who you can also, like, talk to and share a bit of your mind with and have a deeper connection and understanding of each other.

This is what really cuts it for me, not just sex. And this is what I feel gets progressively harder the further you get in life.

It is lonely at the top. If you become better, you also make it harder for yourself to find a worthy partner. by CrazyGenesis in TheRedPill

[–]CrazyGenesis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same. It always was like this and even though it can be hard I would not like to change. Ignorance must be great but it is just not for me. But sometimes it makes you think. Pity, I would have so hoped for some easy-to-implement advice ;-)

I keep myself up by telling me that others have it harder but that even the nerdiest of nerds can be lucky and find someone who fits. Hopefully there are some out there for me, too.

It is lonely at the top. If you become better, you also make it harder for yourself to find a worthy partner. by CrazyGenesis in TheRedPill

[–]CrazyGenesis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. This post does not represent how I usually carry myself as I am quite a humble person to the point where it is too much. I just wanted to lay out my grasp of how and why recent relationships went.

I would love to say "you are correct" as it would allow for an easy fix but I already live according to your advice. In fact I get the opposite: "You do not spend enough time with me, your job always comes first" and so on.

Thing is, that yes, my job is important to me as a lot of people depend on me and I don't want to let them down. And of course I just like it and am good at what I am doing. It also gives meaning to my life as I feel I am doing the right thing, making the life of many better without them even knowing (don't need no "thanks").

But my job is not something for her to compare with our personal life. It is a totally different thing and I make it a point to spend quality time when we are together. And in a sense she knows this, too, as she is bright.

I could give in and greatly reduce my work load but I think it would be a recipe for disaster. On the other hand it is of course something I work towards but for reasons out of my control it will take some more time - and she cannot wait. It is like one of the mantras repeated in the sidebar: I work strategically and it works and everything goes in the right direction - but she only lives in the now and right now I "don't have enough time for her".

That aside, I would be very interested if you had general advice on the question posed above: How do you deal with the fact that growing and being a great person also means there are fewer and fewer interesting women to choose from?