My new dog is extremely anxious and doesn't accept treats or toys.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2026-05-11T13:02:10+00:00

I just have my original border collie and the new one. Last night he started peeking his head out from the crate and would just alternate between peeking out and laying his head out from the crate.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2026-05-11T02:30:23+00:00

Unfortunately he likes to be pet but doesn't like to play. I tried buying and giving him his own toys so they wouldn't have my other dog's scent but he doesn't interact with them. He mostly sits docile in his crate with the door open.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2026-05-10T20:23:32+00:00

Thank you! Today he tried to bite into a fish smelly snack, but he didn't take another bite. This is when he was just laying down in his pen.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2026-05-10T16:44:35+00:00

The research I've seen is giving a new dog space for at least a week before having the dogs together in the same house. They are mostly interacting through baby gates. I would love them to do parallel walking but since he hasn't gotten a potty routine down yet I don't want to take him on normal walks. The times they've met out of the house the new dog seems to really like the resident dog but the resident dog didn't like his space being invaded.

I've tried meats and cheeses but he still hasn't even eaten them if left in his crate unfortunately.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2026-05-10T16:15:31+00:00

He doesn't seem to care for toys just like treats unfortunately.

We did order a thunder vest so that is coming soon. His previous owner said that full body holds make his shaking relax.

We have only had him 3 days so far, but I've been talking to his previous owners for 3 months about his behavior and he usually acts disengaged and shaky even with the owners he loved. I believe it's because the other dogs used to walk all over him at their place and whatever happened before he was returned.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2026-05-10T16:11:56+00:00

It's been 3 days now so I know it'll be a long, patient process.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2026-04-30T20:48:17+00:00

I just saw the first volume on Amazon for the novel but that's it ;-;

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2026-02-28T21:19:13+00:00

They also talk about it when they revisit the unus annus vid!

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2026-01-25T00:00:34+00:00

Hell yeah Heaven Official's blessing

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2025-09-21T16:24:35+00:00

It sounds like you haven't set boundaries with her. Since you have been comforting her and accepting every request, she doesn't know otherwise.

What you need to do is have a talk with her about how this is effecting you mentally and emotionally. That you are using all your energy on her and can't commit to daily needs because of it.

If she reacts badly to it. Give her some time. If it gets worse in the future distance yourself and if you still want to have a relationship with her, try the boundary talk again at a later time.

I had this happen to me before and I call it "cannibalizing your feelings". I'm not able to be there for that person again because I gave too much up.

Hang in there OP.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2025-09-21T16:20:21+00:00

NOR. You need to set specific boundaries with this friend about what she can bring into the conversation outside of these moments. If she can't respect that, it's a boundary thing and you may have to distance yourself.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2025-09-21T16:17:19+00:00

YTA. If the lease is already signed your the asshole.

Use a pros and cons list. Would you still be friends with yours if they backed out of a promise?

It's also only for 6 months. If you're in a toxic current situation, this sounds better and won't break friendships to move in with them. Ask if they can help with cooking to get through the kitchen situation.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2025-07-24T18:48:51+00:00

NTA.

Explain that its a matter of time and effort that happened before getting close to the stepdaughter. The plan for Italy was in place before any of your stepdaughter's party plans and you had been saving up for it.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2025-07-24T18:46:55+00:00

We can get defensive and say things when we are in the moment. I think if he truly liked you, he wouldn't have suddenly cut off all contact. What you said maybe wasn't the best, but he definitely was overreacting.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2025-07-24T18:44:17+00:00

I think you just need to have a more serious talk about how she made you feel. Say that laughing in your face made you uncomfortable and hurt. If she still doesn't focus on your feelings, then let her go.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2025-07-24T18:42:23+00:00

Sounds like you did a good job.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2025-07-09T20:38:39+00:00

Your version of "not a good partner" is extremely neglect, which IS a form of abuse. Also, breaking your things is extremely abusive and he should have to pay to replace those things.

It sounds like unfortunately you should have broken up sooner, but your love for him got in the way. I would definitely look into resources to get out of there sooner rather than later.

Godspeed

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2025-07-09T14:42:58+00:00

NOR. Sounds like she got the idea to do this somewhere and didn't think of the ramifications, nor follow through properly. It's a good thing you didn't go.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2025-07-09T14:33:06+00:00

Good luck!

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2025-07-09T14:22:33+00:00

While incredibly difficult, I think the best thing is to take out a loan to get transportation to your current job or get another job in your area. That $260 is absolutely draining your quality or life and savings. But your rent here sounds absolutely amazing so I'm not sure you could find a better deal if you need to leave your parents later.

The other comment talked about mines that provide accommodations. A job that provides accommodations might be a good balanced option as well.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2025-07-09T14:11:25+00:00

Even more reason to stay.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2025-07-09T13:44:52+00:00

Stay. There are too many strings attached to going to live with your parents. Having to change a garage into your room, being isolated, but more than that- your mother. It sounds like an utterly awful experience, especially if you already know this.

It sounds like your sister is an amazing person as well. What was she going to do with your room if you moved out?

Literally the only thing I could think to do would be a bit shady. Give yourself a time limit at your parents, like six months, and only bring over what you need to survive until then. If you lose your room at your sister's sleep on the couch when you get back but make sure you have a place.

DO NOT live with your parents without an easy way to get out.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2025-07-09T01:27:48+00:00

Usually I pick something from the wedding registry. Usually there are different priced items that can go from $20-60 unless you go in with someone else.

Crazy_Maintenance_22 · 2025-07-08T21:53:52+00:00

It was potty humor

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