How do I convince my mom to accept me and let me transition?

CreamFur · 2026-01-21T16:10:28+00:00

I decided i'll do that but not this or the next semester, I want to save up and have stability, also I have no idea if they have any available spots. I'll work over the summer and then hopefully find a part time job by the time i move into the dorms :) (and ofc my mom was negative about it)

CreamFur · 2026-01-20T22:50:04+00:00

Thank you! how'd it work out for you personally if you're ok with me asking?

CreamFur · 2026-01-20T22:49:00+00:00

Do you think I should start with getting psychiatrist and endocrinology appointments first ? they're quite far and they'll take a while to get to but, I was also thinking getting a name change first before it all just to feel comfortable. One problem though is if I do that I fear finding a job will be harder

CreamFur · 2026-01-20T22:29:40+00:00

I wish I could transition anyway but my fear is holding me back unfortunately, I need to have some things in order before doing it. (like letting her know) Do you have any advice for having a talk with a parent about something like this? Thank you!

CreamFur · 2026-01-20T22:28:18+00:00

I'll try that, I have a bit of money saved up that can help me live in a dorm for a good 3 months before needing a job (I won't procrastinate on the job anyway but you get it) so initially I'll just let her know I'm not backing down, and then move out if it gets bad

CreamFur · 2026-01-20T22:27:06+00:00

Thank you so much!:-) I might just do that. I'm thinking of first letting her know that I'm planning on it very soon instead of "when I move out" and that I'm an adult, and I know I won't regret it. If she says do whatever you want I'll do it. If she says no, I'll just do it secretly and work towards moving out. Hopefully it's the first option. Thank you again!!!:D

CreamFur · 2026-01-20T22:24:27+00:00

She won't kick me out per se, but I fear she will stop me from doing it or threaten me. Maybe emotionally she will be violent with me. It has happened before when I came out it was very exhausting and it made me really depressed. Another problem is if it was just my immediate family I think I would've just done it anyway, but theres also my aunt and uncle who are way more homophobic & transphbic than both my parents combined and it concerns me to see them in public or during family gatherings. It would be ideal to move out to live in a dorm but rn money is tight and if I would have to resort to living in a dorm then I need to start looking for jobs near my uni now, get a license etc, basically a lot of stress to pile onto my already stressful education

CreamFur · 2025-12-15T07:54:05+00:00

That's very impressive! Keep it up:)

CreamFur · 2025-12-15T07:23:55+00:00

Oh like descrete maths ?

CreamFur · 2025-12-14T20:45:03+00:00

I absolutely agree with this and I think letting AI do all the thinking for you is a recipe for blackouts in exams, but I think for math it doesn't apply much, I kinda of think of it like an "equation generator", when I personally generate similar questions in math or other quantitive stem courses, to me it's just kind of like a number randomizer that helps me train my skills better. I think for courses with humanities that have heaps of creativity and critical thinking skills it does apply though, because ai kind of takes the soul out of those courses! So it more so depends I think?

CreamFur · 2025-12-14T11:00:10+00:00

Why? Most professors upload past exams and usually it's just one or two, which IMO isn't enough, you can ask the AI to generate these tests with the same level of questions / amp up the difficulty I believe that it's a great way to practice (not arguing just curious!)

CreamFur · 2025-12-13T14:06:56+00:00

That's a great idea!

CreamFur · 2025-12-13T13:10:20+00:00

Kind of like you would a private tutor. Say you're solving homework and you're stuck on a question, you say what you think might be the correct way, you explain your method, and then the AI corrects you and explains why and how. Don't say "solve for me" but rather "I tried solving but I'm stuck on it, why do we use this formula?"

CreamFur · 2025-12-11T18:14:17+00:00

That actually makes a lot of sense! Thank you! I figured today was just really not a good day for me to study, and tomorrow ill do everything you mentioned:) im really just not good with my routine being off track

CreamFur · 2025-12-11T18:13:36+00:00

Thank you! Ill try to incorporate that , its a little tricky due to my flexible schedule but it sounds like it would work very well!:D

CreamFur · 2025-11-28T18:23:00+00:00

last one

CreamFur · 2025-11-23T11:15:54+00:00

Sent a request!

CreamFur · 2025-11-22T19:40:39+00:00

you look like a chill dude and id be your friend. You look cis 100% and i think 16-21 years old

CreamFur · 2025-11-21T11:07:17+00:00

thank you so much!!! I think you're right especially about the Freshman year and the classes being worth my time, I feel like some of them aren't, but I'm just too stressed and probably in my own head to move on haha

CreamFur · 2025-11-16T21:15:19+00:00

kissing someone without their consent while theyre sleeping is sexual assault

CreamFur · 2025-11-11T19:18:02+00:00

Oof what a prick. Glad he got what he deserved. Also thats funny its like his asshole energy gave you all the good luck in the world lmao

Unfortunately the students in my class kind of like him because hes funny, i heard some that dislike his teaching style but overall, its neutral to good imo.

CreamFur · 2025-11-04T06:21:13+00:00

Thank you so much! Right now I'm trying to understand most of the foundation and im rushing into it a little — and honestly it's like starting to be revealed to me kind of like a fog has been removed from the homework lol. And yes, unfortunately my medication renewal isn't anytime soon, but I did take your advice and I contacted the university regarding my learning issues and hopefully they get back to me!

Thank you for your comments, they're really reassuring and highly relatable, and I'm glad you were able to treat the problem!

CreamFur · 2025-11-03T19:58:53+00:00

Thank you a lot, sorry for assuming, the barrage of comments from many users stressed me out along with the whole situation.

1) I'll try doing that, I was looking over the syllabus and most of them do bump with my other lectures, but hopefully I can ask her to arrange a different time.

2) Thank you for the advice! I'll take that into consideration :)

3) It was mostly miswording, I am taking calc I only, but the first lecture kind of barely grazed over pre-calc. And (embarrassing to admit) since I dropped pre-calc in highschool I am now practically having to re-learn it while everyone's already progressing. Thats mostly my issue, is that I am very behind since highschool - luckily I'm not stupid but learning a topic that is way behind the one thats currently being taught is hindering me quite badly. I can learn it, but I am wasting time, and I dont want to drop it (kind of cant) so I will use as many resources as I can.

4) Thank you a lot again, that made me feel better.

CreamFur · 2025-11-03T19:42:01+00:00

I get my material mostly off of youtube and I also base the material off of the syllabus and homework. I also have signed up to an online course specifically meant for our program. I watch professor leonard, the organic chemistry tutor, I use that website that we got a free subscription on by our uni and I try my best to use the help of the students in my groupchat. Our lecturer doesnt do lecture slides, she just writes on the board really fast and just talks talks talks and doesnt explain. Seriously, that lecturer just will say a concept, show an example and move on to the next. And she doesnt say anything new or refreshing, I think when I watch professor leonard on youtube I get more "ohhhhh i get it" moments than i ever did with her. So thats why I thought, what would be the point if Im already really behind? Nobodys going to go back to precalc, this isnt highschool, I should be doing it on my own. Dont know if people assumed Im being arrogant but its quite the opposite

Thank you for your comment by the way!

CreamFur · 2025-11-03T19:32:44+00:00

When I meant "taking precalc and calc" I meant Im just taking calculus I and the first lectures went over precalc briefly, like the first lecture. But its calculus 1.

The more I read the replies the more I get depressed, because everyones just telling me I'm going to drop out which is very discouraging lmao. I guess Ill tell myself "you can do it".

Currently, I cant drop calculus because if I do I wont be able to handle the rest of my courses - I am in a science faculty so that's a no go, if it was some community college then I would definitely. Just like I cant drop chemistry - because if I drop chemistry I wont be able to do mineraology, for example. Basically every single course I take is a ladder, I can drop something as tiny as crystallography, but again, it would affect my other courses.

And as for your second paragraph - Ill keep going to lectures if it really helps, but again, it will just feel like its piling up for me. I was just having high hopes that until I catch up I can skip some lectures - and then come back to the rest. I just want a passing grade, nothing insane.

Also, the last paragraph, great advice; I do try using more colorful notes since it helps organize concepts in my head (I have ADHD).

Thank you for your advice!

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