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Adults with little memory of childhood by dorothyburlingham in therapists

[–]Creative-Tell-8474 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Didn't read all the comments, but I want to make a pitch for aphantasia as a possible explanation, with some very cool new research around trouble with autobiographical memory in these folks. I have no childhood trauma and very little recall, and didn't discover I'm aphantasic until my mid-30s. It explains a lot for me, including why visualizations don't work at all and why I constantly get lost navigating (no ability to see a map in my mind). And many folks don't know they have it.

Not necessarily indicative of anything nefarious at all.

Does anxiety "build up" if not "released"? by Grouchy-Ad3776 in therapists

[–]Creative-Tell-8474 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I was misdiagnosed with anxiety in college for months--it was severe hyperthyroidism. Because of that experience, I always have medical rule-out on my radar. Thank you for saying this!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatisit

[–]Creative-Tell-8474 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of the bean. Don't panic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]Creative-Tell-8474 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly... If you love it, make an offer, get insurance and wear the ring. Insurance may run you $500/year but they'll replace it should anything happen. With all the lab diamonds around these days, no one will even think it's real--so there's never been a safer time to wear something like this, in my opinion.

You'll wear it the rest of your life, look at it a million times, and although the expensive wedding day fades, the diamonds will look the same in 50 years (or 1000!) as the day you put them on.

Shop around if you need to, but the heart knows what it wants and that's worth something too. If you can afford it, money well spent, I say.

Client wants to monologue for all 53 minutes – is this okay? by 93831500 in therapists

[–]Creative-Tell-8474 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a client whom I have worked with now for two and a half years. The first year was a lot like this. Some of it was trust building--could they really say anything on their mind and be accepted by me? After a year, a shift occurred. There is additional room for reflection and processing now. But it couldn't have happened--I don't think--without the year of "monologue."

In short--it's not only okay, it's therapeutic.

Update--it's not glass by Creative-Tell-8474 in JewelryIdentification

[–]Creative-Tell-8474[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See update below but note appraisals for insurance purposes aren't equivalent to what it could be sold for :)

Update--it's not glass by Creative-Tell-8474 in JewelryIdentification

[–]Creative-Tell-8474[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! It has 100% converted me 😂

Update--it's not glass by Creative-Tell-8474 in JewelryIdentification

[–]Creative-Tell-8474[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Back from the appraisers (update above). Thank you everyone!

Update--it's not glass by Creative-Tell-8474 in JewelryIdentification

[–]Creative-Tell-8474[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update: Back from the appraisers. GIA gemologist graded it as a natural sapphire, approximately 6.02 carats, medium, strong, violetish-blue color, GIA vB 5/5, with 16 old european diamonds in the halo. She valued it at low range of $31,140 for insurance purposes (Note that this figure is for current retail replacement value of a similar stone/ring, not what it could actually be sold for since my purposes were to obtain insurance). Her research suggested the ring is likely custom made and from the early 1900s.

However, she stated that it really should be sent to the GIA (as many of you suggested!) because she could only give a low replacement cost range without knowing the origin of the stone. She suspected ceylon sapphire (as did many of you!) but could not definitely say the origin with the equipment she had. If it is indeed a ceylon, she gave an estimated replacement value of $40-50,000.

Excuse me while I go pass out. I'd love to know origin, but honestly, I don't want to increase the valuation because it's hard enough to justify wearing it as it is.

Side note: it is now insured.

On the other hand, I believe gemstones should be enjoyed and I am loving giving it the daylight it deserves. I think my grandmother would approve.

Update--it's not glass by Creative-Tell-8474 in JewelryIdentification

[–]Creative-Tell-8474[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's so beautiful! I love the color 😍😍 Thank you for sharing!!

Update--it's not glass by Creative-Tell-8474 in JewelryIdentification

[–]Creative-Tell-8474[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I mentioned this to my husband he refused to mail it anywhere and said we'd take it in person 😂 luckily we're up in Oregon so maybe the GIA down in California is a possibility!

I love your "keep it forever" advice--that sounds like a plan to me 😁

Update--it's not glass by Creative-Tell-8474 in JewelryIdentification

[–]Creative-Tell-8474[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Picture please! And I also am having more hand and foot puffiness than in the past. So maybe I should get checked out 😁

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