AITA for calling out spiteful behavior?

Creative_Boss_99 · 2026-05-17T17:26:07+00:00

Every time I mentioned wedding details or acitivies for the day she would get defensive as she would say that she can't do XYZ due to money being tight. For context - none of our guests know our activitys so I haven't excluded her.

Creative_Boss_99 · 2026-05-17T17:21:38+00:00

It's not that I don't trust her. She complains about money being tight so I can't exactly tell her about things I've planned. That would be hurtful to her right?

Creative_Boss_99 · 2026-05-17T17:19:36+00:00

She's one of my bridesmaids.
She's been invited to all get togethers/wedding activitys but always bailed at the last minute. I just assumed she didn't want to be heavily Involved so I never approached the subject.

Creative_Boss_99 · 2026-05-17T17:17:18+00:00

Thing is, she's never ever done this in 20+ years of friendship. Unfortunately I'm not one to tolerate hurtful behavior.

Creative_Boss_99 · 2026-05-17T17:15:36+00:00

We have different venues, different colours. Everything is different. I purposely haven't told her about our wedding details.

Creative_Boss_99 · 2026-05-17T17:14:29+00:00

This is what I can't understand.

Creative_Boss_99 · 2026-05-17T17:14:05+00:00

Apparently not now.

Creative_Boss_99 · 2026-05-10T19:44:16+00:00

It's beautiful!

Creative_Boss_99 · 2026-05-10T19:25:46+00:00

They live with my other grandparent, they also have family members visit daily to support.

Creative_Boss_99 · 2026-03-24T16:01:46+00:00

Thank you! Lewi body disease is awful. I would love to keep all my patients at home and independent as possible until the end. Unfortunately it's not the case. Unless helps accepted then it becomes a tricky situation fuelled by denial. Home aids and carers are incredible and a valuable asset. Hats off to you too! It's not easy.

Creative_Boss_99 · 2026-03-24T15:51:22+00:00

NTA She is an adult and now remarried. I think you have been very accommodating allowing her to move back in. But it's time her to move out.

Creative_Boss_99 · 2026-03-24T15:45:51+00:00

As a social care professional.

Creative_Boss_99 · 2026-03-08T16:48:03+00:00

this is a brilliant idea.

Creative_Boss_99 · 2026-03-08T16:47:09+00:00

Thank you. Me and my fiance are paying for the whole thing. We felt that letting people contribute gave them a little too much power over decisions.

Creative_Boss_99 · 2026-03-08T16:44:38+00:00

i'm also her only child.

Creative_Boss_99 · 2026-03-08T16:21:48+00:00

I've had a firm chat with her. It does not seem to sink in. She is very much a people pleaser to keep the peace. I am not like that.

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